When's My Baby Due? Never.

[naldridge]

Over the past couple of weeks, I have had a LOT of people come straight out and tell me "congratulations" or ask when I'm due. It's very sweet of them except that I.AM.NOT.PREGNANT. 

I feel like you need to be pretty certain before you make an assumption like that so that makes all of this even more ridiculous. It seriously almost feels like I am on some sort of hidden camera reality tv show to see how many people can ask me this before i lose.my.mind.

I was insanely underweight for awhile and am gaining weight again but continuing to lift, do cardio, etc. I have probably gained a little fat on my stomach but not any more than anywhere else on my body - my stomach just seriously pokes out a lot. I don't have any other symptoms of being bloated and eat a lot of veggies that I know are pretty voluminous BUT my diet hasn't changed in awhile (besides consuming MORE in general) and the pregnancy thing has become a lot worse in the past few months. Ironically, I haven't had a period in almost 3 years, so I am most certainly not expecting.

Any idea what is causing this or could be affecting it? The only good thing coming out of it is that I can pretty accurately predict what I'll look like if/when I ever am pregnant.

Thanks!

[Susie]

Any idea what's causing peoples' rude reactions? Well, 1) people suck, and 2) you did say you've gained weight. Obviously 2) doesn't give anybody license to say what they're saying, but see also 1). There's not much you can do to prevent other people from being assholes, so try to find the good intentions in it, and try not to let it get to you. It sounds like the weight is healthy for your body (since you mentioned not having a period).

As far as what's causing you to appear pregnant to people? No idea. If you think your abdomen is abnormally distended, maybe it's time for a check up at the doctor's. If it's just about weight gain, your body will probably settle into its new shape, and people will get used to it. Even the nosy ones who comment on things they shouldn't, should run out of things to say. You need to use this body for your benefit and health, not theirs!

[AAM2012]

How rude! I'm sorry people are asking such questions. I would just respond "why do you ask?" And see them squirm.

[shauni27]

I would speak to a Dr. if you are concerned about the way your stomach is looking if it is of concern to you.

BUT, god, I cannot believe the nerve of people! I have been asked twice if I was pregnant, it was so upsetting to me. I do not ask a woman if she is pregnant, period. I remember being in a gym class and a woman came in who had what appeared to be a baby belly. The instructor asked when she was due. She said "I had the baby a month ago, trying to lose the belly!" So I just keep my yap shut.

[Deleted]

For me, it's water weight or a big poop. ;-) Hormones, salty foods, increased consumption of simple carbs.

Also, it's possible you are building up your ab muscles which makes the belly fat you do have more noticeable so it appears you have more of a belly now when really, it's just the same fat you've always had. It just can't sink in anymore to hide. ;-)

[tuggyruns]

Like @aswartz said, for my it's usually water weight or potty time! When you say you are lifting- are you stregnthing your core as well? You are teeeeennnyyy, so I am sure any gain is noticable. I usually gain first in certian areas, so that could be your area. I think it will all "even out" if that makes sense.

[naldridge]

Thanks, ladies Y'all make me smile. If a big stomach is the worst of my problems, life is still pretty good, right? I think you all are right though - it is definitely worse when I need to go to the bathroom (either #, actually). I appreciate all the warm fuzzies and am definitely going to start asking people WHY they ask - how fun!