Selling our eggs

[kkfeb04]

Jun 1, 2013 10:22:31 GMT -5 miller824 said:

I donated my eggs about 10 years ago when DH and I first got together. He had a REALLY hard time with my decision, and felt very similar to you, about me having little ones running around the universe somewhere. My decision to do it was primarily centered around watching a friend in her early 30's struggle so much with fertility issues. My heart went out to her, and I had a friend who has donated several times. After talking to her, and her introducing me to the whole process, I felt good about it and looked into the process more. A friend that worked at a donation center told me about a couple that was in their 40s who had tried for years to have kids.....I learned a little bit about them and their struggle, and decided if they would like my eggs, I wanted to go forth with the donation. To this day, I wonder about those little ones (I found out they had twins), but also feel really good about the decision I made and the gift I was able to give to that family. I have two gifts of my own now, and I am probably too old to do it again. If I was a little younger, I would probably do it again.

Thank you for your donation.

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I totally feel the same way you do about it, pink. The doing it for money thing is totally worth side eyeing, IMO. And doing it to help others (and still receive money, which lets be honest, they probably wouldn't give up their eggs if money WASN'T involved) is nice and all, but I think being able to do so, especially after having kids already, is weird to me and I would just be thinking about how that is MY kid, my egg, my kids sibling, etc.

[sno&2peas]

As most of you know my kids are DE. Because my sad eggs were fried at 23 years old from harsh cancer tx. I am very thankful to the girl that donated (she looks a lot like my first cousin). I couldn't ask my sisters or cousins because it was just too much to ask them and I didn't want any weirdness. The donor goes through the similar prep as someone who goes through IVF, I went through an Estrogen and Progesterone prep only because I no longer get periods so there was no need to sink up my period with the donors (so it was a little easier). She did about a week to 10 days of injections to produce more eggs I think then they removed them. Some centers overstimulate (like Boston.IV.F) you don't want to deal with those type of egg factories (that's probably why one of PP friends ended up in the hospital). I went through Brigha.m (reputable hospital with a good reputation). My donor received about $7,500 from me. I went through an agency the money is anywhere from $5-10k if you get more you shouldn't because it's regulated (and that would mean you were dealing with a sketchy place). The agency was recommended by the hospital btw. I am obviously very thankful to my donor because without her my only other chance of a child is adoption. I wanted to carry a pregnancy also. Also with adoption and my health history not sure if it would have been harder. I wrote my donor a 4 page letter  and gave her one of those Willow Tree angels (the one of Hope) because her donation gave me great hope that I would have a beautiful baby and I got blessed with two

[bigapple]

@snoangel, thanks for sharing your story.

A friend of mine donated about fifteen years ago and kept in periodic contact with the parents. She didn't TTC herself until she was 40, and she had a very hard time. The egg recipient mother still had some of my friend's eggs frozen (they'd kept them in case they wanted more kids) and offered them back to her.

My friend ended up not using them because her husband threw a huge hissy fit about wanting his sperm in the mix (there were fertilized embryos), but I thought it was really cool that the option was there.

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I am not a regular on this board but we were so close to using donor eggs. I went through my first round of IVF and only produced  egg. Cycle was called off. I just had my egg retrieval last Friday on my 2nd round of IVF and by some miracle my body produced 20 eggs. Had this not happened we would be starting the process of using donor eggs.
I admit the thought of using someone else's eggs raised many questions for me. I have not looked into it enough to be real educated about it but from the little I do understand I was pleased with what I was learning. Before this IVF cycle, we figured donor eggs was the route we would have to go. And the thought of another woman going through what I went through to produce those eggs was mind blowing. IVF and the daily shots, the hormones, it was hell for me. And to think someone could do that for another woman, it still brings tears to my eyes.
Now here I am, my transfer is on Wednesday and we currently have 12 embryos. We will freeze what we don't transfer. I am way too hormonal right now to make a logical decision on what to do with the remaining embryos but I am leaning strongly towards embryo adoption. I wont make that decision until (god willing) I have a baby or babies at home.
Now someone who is donating just for money, well, I am not sure she really knows what is exactly involved in this It was hell for me. I could not work, was pretty much on the couch for the last 2 weeks. Just today, two days after my retrieval I am finally able to walk normal.
 

[mumegs]

I would donate my eggs before I would be a surrogate, there is no way I could go through pregnancy and give birth and not keep the baby. I don't have a problem with someone with my DNA out in the world somewhere.