Will this be the end of nursing?

[laurack]

I signed up for this race ages ago. On the 20th of june I plan to run in the corporate challenge in boston with a bunch of work people. Its after work and then usually afterwards we'd go to a bar. This would mean missing bedtime.

So I never thought I'd still be nursing at this point and now the anxiety is setting in. I am not going to pump, my pumping days are over and I highly doubt anything much would come out anyway.

Is there any chance I'd just completely skip a bedtime feeding, and then the next night resume as normal, with no pumping?

My other options include:
- making up an excuse and completely skipping the race, there are always people on the wait list to take the slot 
- going right from the finish line to try to catch a train that would still get me home by bedtime

I am already skipping a work social thingy this week because of this reason mainly. I mean, in general I don't want to miss an evening with her but also I am not ready to wean. In 2.5 weeks maybe I will be ready? I doubt it but I don't know. Other people say that the anticipation of it was so bad but then when it's over they feel good about it. I just don't know.

Hubby is not worried. He says he doesn't think it will be an issue putting her to bed without the boobs, he'll just rock her and jiggle her and such. Probably won't introduce a bedtime bottle at this stage.

Lets not even think about the fact that I can't run 3.5 miles.

[Dorothy Zbornak]

I honestly don't think it would be an issue. Is it the JP Morgan thing? Here in Frankfurt, there's usually so many people that you can't even run very fast anyway. You could walk it.

Do it! It'll be fun. I think your boobs will be fine. And I don't think it'll lead to weaning. Do you still nurse MOTN anymore?

[Deleted]

Laurack, I highly doubt one night away will end a bf relationship if she still asks for it. I miss nights all the time!

[laurack]

Jun 3, 2013 8:01:11 GMT -5 Dorothy Zbornak said:

I honestly don't think it would be an issue. Is it the JP Morgan thing? Here in Frankfurt, there's usually so many people that you can't even run very fast anyway. You could walk it.

Do it! It'll be fun. I think your boobs will be fine. And I don't think it'll lead to weaning. Do you still nurse MOTN anymore?

yes the jp morgan one! Back in my "i'm a real runner get out of my way losers" days I would get there early and pick my way to the front to ensure the best time. Now I may just hide in the pack and blame my slowness on the "crowds". 

I don't nurse in the night unless she is very bad and nothing else will work, its rare. Although on Saturday I nursed her in the middle of the day because I had two damn children and neither of them would be quiet and I could at least give one a boob. I haven't nursed in the day for maybe 2 weeks? and she seemed pleased.

[laurack]

Jun 3, 2013 8:01:35 GMT -5 @thadsrad said:

Laurack, I highly doubt one night away will end a bf relationship if she still asks for it. I miss nights all the time!

oh cool! and you don't pump when you miss the bedtime right?

[raynes]

I think you'll be fine. This weekend I went from 4pm on Saturday to nearly 2pm on Sunday w/o nursing Owen (or even pumping) while we were away for a wedding. I had to hand express some from the power boob on Sunday morning because OMG it was full, but things seem to be ok now. The underproducer is underproducing a bit more, but I think some oatmeal/flax/energy bites will bring it back to "normal".

[bebeetmoi]

I agree with PPs, I definitely don't think you have anything to worry about as far as this ending her nursing habits. If anything, she may binge nurse the whole next day because she missed you (and your boobs)!

[christidee]

I don't think it will be an issue either. She will probably just carry on like normal in the morning.

I've missed two bed times so far. DH just gives him a bottle (and even though he hasn't had one in a while I am pretty certain we would do a bedtime bottle if I were to miss bedtime again. Both times I pumped when I got home. I don't want to wake up leaking in the middle of the night. 

[Deleted]

Jun 3, 2013 8:05:20 GMT -5 laurack said:

Jun 3, 2013 8:01:35 GMT -5 @thadsrad said:

Laurack, I highly doubt one night away will end a bf relationship if she still asks for it. I miss nights all the time!

oh cool! and you don't pump when you miss the bedtime right?

Hell no. My pump hasn't been used in months.

[laurack]

Jun 3, 2013 8:08:52 GMT -5 christidee said:

I don't think it will be an issue either. She will probably just carry on like normal in the morning.

I've missed two bed times so far. DH just gives him a bottle (and even though he hasn't had one in a while I am pretty certain we would do a bedtime bottle if I were to miss bedtime again. Both times I pumped when I got home. I don't want to wake up leaking in the middle of the night. 

I doubt I will leak, they never get full any more. I seriously wonder sometimes if anything is even coming out but I assume it is or she wouldn't keep sucking... 

[jfh]

I was worried about this when I went on a girl's night out a few weeks ago. It wasn't even a bump in the road - I didn't pump, I didn't wake up horribly engorged, and he went straight back to normal nursing the next day. And as far as I know DH had no trouble putting him down with a bottle.

[skiesthelimit]

My GF is nursing her 18month old and misses bedtime feeds like 1-2 times a week, she never pumps, and things are fine for them. She says she feels a little full but nothing uncomfortable. Her toddler resumes bedtime nursing just fine afterwards.

[skwcm80]

You should be fine. I have skipped many nighttime nursing sessions, and A occasionally still gets sprayed in the face during let down.

[Deleted]

I'm gone one to two nights a week for work and we still nurse a ton. Granted, he does take a bottle those nights, and it's the only bottles he has, but we haven't skipped a beat. Don't stress! She will probably be just fine!

[lauranicole91]

I miss bedtime and don't pump 4 nights a week. I mean I pump well after she's asleep when I get home from work.

I don't see this ending your nursing relationship. Your boobs may hurt but that's about it. Go enjoy yourself!!

[thedahliharpa]

Skipping one night is highly unlikely to make any difference.

[fryjack2]

Jun 3, 2013 8:20:58 GMT -5 laurack said:

Jun 3, 2013 8:08:52 GMT -5 christidee said:

I don't think it will be an issue either. She will probably just carry on like normal in the morning.

I've missed two bed times so far. DH just gives him a bottle (and even though he hasn't had one in a while I am pretty certain we would do a bedtime bottle if I were to miss bedtime again. Both times I pumped when I got home. I don't want to wake up leaking in the middle of the night. 

I doubt I will leak, they never get full any more. I seriously wonder sometimes if anything is even coming out but I assume it is or she wouldn't keep sucking... 

I nursed one of the boys last night for the first time in 5 days.  I havent pumped in 2 weeks.  He managed to drink something, as I could hear him swallowing and there was milk coming out of my nipple when I took him off 5 minutes later.  Its mostly a comfort thing now.  I don't usually offer it unless they are really upset and usually they get annoyed with the length of time it takes to get anything out and give up. 

Yesterday was the first time I felt like my boobs were heavier.  It took 5 days for that.  I kinda liked it because it made my boobs look a little less like deflated balloons

[SteelCity44]

I still nurse before bed on most nights, but it's usually a comfort thing, as he's usually nursed an hour or two before. On nights that I've had to work late, I've missed bedtime. Sometimes, he's been offered a sippy of milk or water. And sometimes, he doesn't need anything. One random day, I was painfully engorged, and I had to pump for relief. All of the other days, I've felt full but not uncomfortable. At a recent wedding I attended, I nursed at 2:30pm, and over-night I leaked because I rolled onto my belly and didn't have coverage. I wasn't uncomfortable though(besides the wet shirt). I didn't nurse him again until around 11a/12p. We're still going strong. Have fun!

[laurack]

wow I feel so much better now! I thought everyone would be saying that if you don't want to wean then you HAVE to pump etc. What's wrong with you, why don't you just pump, don't you love your child. So I'm glad I posted now.

And I'm thinking hey maybe I will go for our work social bowling thing as well which is actually next week not this week.

He can always give her a bottle anyway if she won't settle.

[Deleted]

Jun 3, 2013 10:24:18 GMT -5 laurack said:

wow I feel so much better now! I thought everyone would be saying that if you don't want to wean then you HAVE to pump etc. What's wrong with you, why don't you just pump, don't you love your child. So I'm glad I posted now.

And I'm thinking hey maybe I will go for our work social bowling thing as well which is actually next week not this week.

He can always give her a bottle anyway if she won't settle.

Go! I think it is really important for us moms to get away from the bedtime grind sometimes. I get frustrated with bedtime and drinking a beer while someone else is putting him to bed is awesome!

[lauranicole91]

Jun 3, 2013 11:22:38 GMT -5 @thadsrad said:

Jun 3, 2013 10:24:18 GMT -5 laurack said:

wow I feel so much better now! I thought everyone would be saying that if you don't want to wean then you HAVE to pump etc. What's wrong with you, why don't you just pump, don't you love your child. So I'm glad I posted now.

And I'm thinking hey maybe I will go for our work social bowling thing as well which is actually next week not this week.

He can always give her a bottle anyway if she won't settle.

Go! I think it is really important for us moms to get away from the bedtime grind sometimes. I get frustrated with bedtime and drinking a beer while someone else is putting him to bed is awesome!

This exactly!