I'm sorry. I don't have any advice. I will say that I wouldn't want my husband watching porn to learn things though, b/c they are a little over the top for my liking...
I'm sorry. I don't have any advice. I will say that I wouldn't want my husband watching porn to learn things though, b/c they are a little over the top for my liking...
Not only that but the woman usually doesn't get anything out of it. Except splooge on her face.
I'm sorry. I don't have any advice. I will say that I wouldn't want my husband watching porn to learn things though, b/c they are a little over the top for my liking...
Not only that but the woman usually doesn't get anything out of it. Except splooge on her face.
yeah, or the expectation of bleached ass holes. lol.
i have bleached assholes on the brain since Jacqueline said something about it yesterday on RHONJ.
Our sex life greatly improved when I just said point blank what I wanted. Like, "do abc, ok now do xyz". H likes it because I'm taking charge and I like it because I get exactly what I want.
Beyond that I think there is a certain amount of either you've got the connection or you don't.
Post by EmilieMadison on Jun 3, 2013 10:28:59 GMT -5
Hm. After 6 years, one would think he would be better at it? Does he seem concerned about it? Have you tried "directing" him? This could be a combination of factors, including simply not understanding what you want and overall health. I'd be worried that a young man often can't finish or gets too physically exhausted to continue. Does he have any health issues?
I think a sex therapist could do wonders. You need to communicate to him what you like, an he needs to learn to read cues, etc. I don't think porn helps, because the women in porn just randomly come all the time, lol. Have you tried taking charge? If you lead the whole time, is it good for you?
You say it's been difficult off and on since marriage, was everything fine before then? Do you think it's stress from being married or something from around that time that is messing with him still?
he can certainly get better, handle with care though no one likes to hear they aren't good enough in the sack for their partner. So it definitely needs to be a gentle convo
Could he have developed a complex or just be stressed about it since he knows how you feel and has "given up"
Post by partiallysunny on Jun 3, 2013 10:51:31 GMT -5
I agree that it's probably more psychological than physical. As a person who has an H that is also on anti-anxiety medication and has the same issues from time to time, all I can do is a shoulder you can cry on.
Having sex on a regular basis and lots of random touching, kissing and hugging through out the day (with no sexual motives/pressure) helps us. Also, doing things together that is relaxing, like long walks, playing a game together, or watching a funny movie. All those things make H less nervous = better sex.
If it's an "every time" you have sex sort of thing and nothing is helping, a sex therapist could probably help, but I have no experience with one.