I hate my new BMB

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The ladies on my new BMB on the bump just really have no clue. They're talking about how exhausting thy are already. And how huge they feel. They're making judgements about things that they'd "never" do (ie: not sterilizing bottles or never giving a Binky).
Every single post, I'd like to reply, "well, just wait until you have the baby" or "just wait until you're 40 wks pregnant" or "never say never to the things that you will do at 4 am just to get 35 min of sleep."
Ugh they are so damn annoying. We couldn't have possibly been that naive and annoying, right?!

[TrudyCampbell]

Be snarky to them! They need someone like you!

[Deleted]

Tell them what's up! I'm sure some other STM will back you up!

[laurack]

Perhaps the smoke monster will pay them a visit...?

[laurack]

I wonder if we were really bad though? What say you Mooks? Were we very annoying with our talk of "being tired" and "feeling huge"?

I know I def had a lot of preconceived notions about things I'd "never do" ha

[imimahoney]

Time to put them in their place

[ashleydl83]

To a degree, everyone is probably like that their first pregnancy. It's hard not to roll your eyes when you've been there, done that and it's SO much different than you expected. Use it for entertainment purposes, lol.

I see some shenanigans on your BMB in the near future.

[kdrake8]

I totally bailed on my BMB bc it was annoying. I don't even check in anymore.

[fusion]

I think I stayed away from the annoying by just not going into those posts. I won't be joining a new BMB for baby #3 though. I think there's only so much "what do I pack for the hospital" posts I can skim through in my lifetime.

[skwcm80]

Jun 3, 2013 20:06:14 GMT -5 ashleydl83 said:

To a degree, everyone is probably like that their first pregnancy. It's hard not to roll your eyes when you've been there, done that and it's SO much different than you expected. Use it for entertainment purposes, lol.

I see some shenanigans on your BMB in the near future.

This! Pregnancy was so different from what I expected that I probably had a bunch of annoying questions. When I pregnant for the second time I tried to remember that I had the benefit of experience, and many of the women posting did not.

Fwiw, the questions seem to be the same no matter what forum. And I'll admit to asking a lot of the annoying kinds of questions on WebMd and Cafemom the first time around.

[monkeybabe]

I feel like our BMB had enough vocal second time moms that shamed us whenever we got too FTM high and mighty, or told us to chill the fuck out when we were being dramatic.

[Deleted]

My new BMB is insanely boring. Everyone is always like "We are such a great group of ladies!!" ugh, shut up! You guys are BORING! I also cant take them seriously talking about how big and uncomfortable they are since I have double what they have in my bell. They are always complaining about how people make remarks about how big they are and wont make it till September, and are like "Yeah, there is only ONE baby in here!" Just shut up.

[dixeedeluxe]

Jun 3, 2013 20:06:59 GMT -5 @pcloadletter said:

You guys weren't too bad. There were a few eye roll worthy moments, but I think we just told you guys that you were being ridiculous.

Yeah I cant remember if I eyerolled TOO much here.

[Deleted]

Jun 3, 2013 19:57:53 GMT -5 @pcloadletter said:

Hmmmmm what month is this?

December 13

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Jun 3, 2013 20:37:43 GMT -5 @pcloadletter said:

Jun 3, 2013 20:25:32 GMT -5 fusion said:

I think I stayed away from the annoying by just not going into those posts. I won't be joining a new BMB for baby #3 though. I think there's only so much "what do I pack for the hospital" posts I can skim through in my lifetime.

Even worse were the "what do I put in the diaper bag" posts. FFS.

Ugh those are both terrible!

[katfco]

Jun 3, 2013 20:44:24 GMT -5 jnoellee said:

My new BMB is insanely boring. Everyone is always like "We are such a great group of ladies!!" ugh, shut up! You guys are BORING! I also cant take them seriously talking about how big and uncomfortable they are since I have double what they have in my bell. They are always complaining about how people make remarks about how big they are and wont make it till September, and are like "Yeah, there is only ONE baby in here!" Just shut up.

Similarly, the comments about "oh, I feel so fat" when they're like 5 minutes pregnant always bugged me. I always want to go into all of those posts and say, "Just you wait."

[katfco]

I just lurked a little. I love the "when is it time to buy maternity clothes?" Umm, when you need them?

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Jun 3, 2013 19:53:19 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

Be snarky to them! They need someone like you!

Unrelated, Is snarky an actual word? I used it the other day IRL and everyone looked at me like I had 3 heads.

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Jun 3, 2013 20:55:15 GMT -5 katfco said:

I just lurked a little. I love the "when is it time to buy maternity clothes?" Umm, when you need them?

Yes what I'd like I respond is when you look like Kim kardashian, you know it's time. Come on people, use your brain.

[katfco]

Jun 3, 2013 20:55:15 GMT -5 @vsalt31 said:

Jun 3, 2013 19:53:19 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

Be snarky to them! They need someone like you!

Unrelated, Is snarky an actual word? I used it the other day IRL and everyone looked at me like I had 3 heads.

Yes, it's about 100 years old, originally meaning "irritable and short-tempered" (according to etymonline.com)

[skwcm80]

Jun 3, 2013 20:44:24 GMT -5 jnoellee said:

My new BMB is insanely boring. Everyone is always like "We are such a great group of ladies!!" ugh, shut up! You guys are BORING! I also cant take them seriously talking about how big and uncomfortable they are since I have double what they have in my bell. They are always complaining about how people make remarks about how big they are and wont make it till September, and are like "Yeah, there is only ONE baby in here!" Just shut up.

To be fair, at a certain point pregnancy is uncomfortable for many women. Should they not vent because they aren't carrying twins? 

When I was 20 weeks pregnant with L, I was in so much pain from a degenerating fibroid that I was taking 2 Vicodin every 4 hours just to dull the pain. Was I not allowed to complain because I was only carrying one child?

[katfco]

Jun 3, 2013 21:02:53 GMT -5 @pcloadletter said:

Jun 3, 2013 20:56:28 GMT -5 @vsalt31 said:

Yes what I'd like I respond is when you look like Kim kardashian, you know it's time. Come on people, use your brain.

Have these bitches never heard of a Bella Band?

That's what MOOKs are for!

[katfco]

Jun 3, 2013 21:08:11 GMT -5 @pcloadletter said:

While on the topic of BMBs, does anyone ever look at April 12 over there? So sad. So lonely. They finally stopped the UO and FFFC where everyone said "I like it better now that everyone is gone. So much quieter/slower/nicer/blah blah blah"

Yeah, things had really started to die by the time I moved over here and now they don't even bother with UO or FFFC anymore.

[TrudyCampbell]

Snarky is a real word!

...right?

[vthokie]

Jun 3, 2013 21:14:45 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

Snarky is a real word!

...right?

Absolutely. I even have a friend whose band is Snarky Puppy. You're good Trudy.

[wildcatprincess]

Jun 3, 2013 20:02:13 GMT -5 laurack said:

I wonder if we were really bad though? What say you Mooks? Were we very annoying with our talk of "being tired" and "feeling huge"?

I know I def had a lot of preconceived notions about things I'd "never do" ha

I'll be honest, there were a lot of posts that made me laugh or think "you just wait" early on. I think any BMB full of first time moms has the same general theme of posts.

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Jun 3, 2013 21:03:11 GMT -5 skwcm80 said:

Jun 3, 2013 20:44:24 GMT -5 jnoellee said:

My new BMB is insanely boring. Everyone is always like "We are such a great group of ladies!!" ugh, shut up! You guys are BORING! I also cant take them seriously talking about how big and uncomfortable they are since I have double what they have in my bell. They are always complaining about how people make remarks about how big they are and wont make it till September, and are like "Yeah, there is only ONE baby in here!" Just shut up.

To be fair, at a certain point pregnancy is uncomfortable for many women. Should they not vent because they aren't carrying twins? 

When I was 20 weeks pregnant with L, I was in so much pain from a degenerating fibroid that I was taking 2 Vicodin every 4 hours just to dull the pain. Was I not allowed to complain because I was only carrying one child?

No, you could complain. I complained my first pregnancy. But so many of these women complain and are around 25 weeks, and I just feel like they have no idea yet. Your situation seems like more of an uncommon one. I doubt these girls are going through what you did. Maybe a couple have some different circumstances, but I think just most don't even know what they are in for yet.

It's just hard for me to take seriously having been there pregnant with a singleton and knowing what I know now, pregnant with twins. I thought I knew what uncomfortable was, until now...

Honestly, it is mainly how they talk about how HUGE they are. You are not HUGE with one baby in your tummy at 5-6 months. LOOK AT MY BELLY. My flippin skin is ripping apart!

I know that this isn't necessarily fair for me to say, but it is how I feel!

[tuck]

I don't remember too much eye-rolling, but we have a decent number of MOOKS. I also think everyone is allowed to complain, but everyone else is allowed to eyeroll and think "just you wait."

[biblionerd]

Jun 3, 2013 22:20:28 GMT -5 jnoellee said:

Jun 3, 2013 21:03:11 GMT -5 skwcm80 said:

To be fair, at a certain point pregnancy is uncomfortable for many women. Should they not vent because they aren't carrying twins? 

When I was 20 weeks pregnant with L, I was in so much pain from a degenerating fibroid that I was taking 2 Vicodin every 4 hours just to dull the pain. Was I not allowed to complain because I was only carrying one child?

No, you could complain. I complained my first pregnancy. But so many of these women complain and are around 25 weeks, and I just feel like they have no idea yet. Your situation seems like more of an uncommon one. I doubt these girls are going through what you did. Maybe a couple have some different circumstances, but I think just most don't even know what they are in for yet.

It's just hard for me to take seriously having been there pregnant with a singleton and knowing what I know now, pregnant with twins. I thought I knew what uncomfortable was, until now...

Honestly, it is mainly how they talk about how HUGE they are. You are not HUGE with one baby in your tummy at 5-6 months. LOOK AT MY BELLY. My flippin skin is ripping apart!

I know that this isn't necessarily fair for me to say, but it is how I feel!

Ok, I totally get that FTMs can be downright annoying often, but come on... with your logic nobody is allowed to complain unless they have twins? Pregnancy sucked for me from start to finish regardless of being a FTM or STM. It didn't matter that I was only 25 weeks or only had one baby. Just because 40+ weeks REALLY sucks doesn't mean that the rest of the pg doesn't, if that makes sense? PG is freaking hard and it just seems kind of I don't know... mean? to think that only someone in your situation is allowed to complain. My OB said I was larger than a lot of her twin moms. I'm 4'11" and my muscles were literally tearing as I walked. I was far from 40 weeks with a singleton. I knew what I had left the rest of the pg and it still sucked and I still complained. You can't always judge everyone else's experiences against your own I guess. And even though you (and especially twin moms) are gigantic at 40 weeks doesn't mean that you don't feel huge at 25 weeks when you have a human being living inside of you for the first time. Just feel bad for FTMs I guess, and especially if now their experiences also have to be compared against STM twin pgs lol. 

[biblionerd]

and I try to post on January and every other post is about an u/s. I don't know them and don't really care. I'll occasionally find an interesting post, but maybe I'm heartless. I just really don't care about random peoples' first u/s. Maybe I'm just jealous I'm literally due the last day in the month so am "behind" everyone.