and I try to post on January and every other post is about an u/s. I don't know them and don't really care. I'll occasionally find an interesting post, but maybe I'm heartless. I just really don't care about random peoples' first u/s. Maybe I'm just jealous I'm literally due the last day in the month so am "behind" everyone.
and I try to post on January and every other post is about an u/s. I don't know them and don't really care. I'll occasionally find an interesting post, but maybe I'm heartless. I just really don't care about random peoples' first u/s. Maybe I'm just jealous I'm literally due the last day in the month so am "behind" everyone.
Switch months so you can be first! :-)
Ha, I totally thought about it, but (as long as everything goes ok) I KNOW that I will have a c/s in January. I'd feel like a liar.
I never said people couldn't complain! But I think that the majority of women complaining at 25 weeks pregnant dont really know yet. And it's gets annoying to hear when you are 25 weeks pregnant with twins because I am larger than the size I was at 40 weeks with my first and more uncomfortable than I could have imagined. And, it's just going to get worse! So yeah, I can't help but feel annoyed when someone 5 months is talking about how huge and uncomfortable are..
I don't know how else to explain it, it may be one of those things you don't understand unless you have been there? I know pregnancy is uncomfortable no matter what and everyone is different, and I really am not saying they CAN'T complain, just that its annoying to hear in my situation! If I could go back and listen to myself complaining, I would be annoyed at myself. It's like when EB used to laugh at all the people pregnant with 1 baby talking about how huge they are... I understand now. Or kind of like when you look back at pictures of yourself and thought you were fat but you actually looked super good and you want to yell at your self then for not knowing it... its kind if like that. But also at other people. Does that make sense? Probably not. But, I am not mean, my bmb is pretty annoying... I like the multiples board better.
My new BMB is insanely boring. Everyone is always like "We are such a great group of ladies!!" ugh, shut up! You guys are BORING! I also cant take them seriously talking about how big and uncomfortable they are since I have double what they have in my bell. They are always complaining about how people make remarks about how big they are and wont make it till September, and are like "Yeah, there is only ONE baby in here!" Just shut up.
Similarly, the comments about "oh, I feel so fat" when they're like 5 minutes pregnant always bugged me. I always want to go into all of those posts and say, "Just you wait."
I am trying to like this but having trouble. *like*
I mean, I said I just wanted them to shut up, but I didn't mean they weren't ALLOWED to complain. Of course anyone is allowed to complain. I am just listening to it saying 'Oh my god, shut up." in my head to myself. Or to you guys...
But you guys!!! The only way FTMs will become less annoying is by being educated by MOOKs! Why would they have heard of Bella bands?? Answer: the won't have, unless a MOOK told them about it! Keep posting! I'm not talking about "just you wait" posts, those just come across as obnoxious. But actual real live advice, like "when I was KU with #1 I didn't buy maternity clothes for months because I used this fabulous product called the Bella band..." I learned sooooooo much from the MOOKS on here. MOOKS are not allowed to abandon their BMBs! You must train the next generation!!
I remember eye rolling really hard (oh wait still do when it is brought up by certain people or maybe it is just those people) the "OMG I'M GOING TO HAVE A HUGE BABY!!!!!!" posts. Yeah, the eye rolling commenced when they had a 6 lber. Even more so when the "but but but if he stayed in another week or so he was going to be 10 lbs!!!!". Highly doubtful.
I had a 10 lb 39 weeker and a 9+ lb barely 37 week preemie. I measured at 48 weeks at my 37w0d appt (day of delivery). I WAS HUGE! If someone told me I wasn't because I only had one, I would've smacked them with my bump. Because it would've arrived 20 minutes before I did.
Geez people. jnoellee was just saying its annoying when people are whining about being uncomfortable when it can and will get a whole lot worse! That's like someone who is 20 weeks complaining to someone who is 40 weeks how uncomfortable they are. I'm sure they are, but guess what, the 40 weeker is likely more uncomfortable.
Geez people. jnoellee was just saying its annoying when people are whining about being uncomfortable when it can and will get a whole lot worse! That's like someone who is 20 weeks complaining to someone who is 40 weeks how uncomfortable they are. I'm sure they are, but guess what, the 40 weeker is likely more uncomfortable.
But why does it have to be a contest? Why can't it be "wow, we're both uncomfortable, lets commiserate" instead of "I'm more uncomfortable than you, so shut up"
yeah I felt like I was enormous with only one child! I got so many comments about being huge, however looking back I really wasn't huge. But hey you get pregnant for the first time, you are used to being a certain size and then you begin "largening" at a seemingly alarming rate! It's scary and weird and uncomfortable and for some (for most at some point) its downright painful.
Geez people. jnoellee was just saying its annoying when people are whining about being uncomfortable when it can and will get a whole lot worse! That's like someone who is 20 weeks complaining to someone who is 40 weeks how uncomfortable they are. I'm sure they are, but guess what, the 40 weeker is likely more uncomfortable.
But why does it have to be a contest? Why can't it be "wow, we're both uncomfortable, lets commiserate" instead of "I'm more uncomfortable than you, so shut up"
yeah I don't think its right to say that because someone else might be MORE uncomfortable than you, you don't have a right to complain or feel shitty. Dudes, pregnancy can be MAJOR Suckage at times no matter how many weeks along you are.
the comparison game is stupid anyway no matter what we are talking about.
OH boo hoo to you you can't afford a 3 bed house? well MY FAMILY can't afford a ONE BEDROOM hovel filled with cockroaches. Oh boo hoo your kid fell down and bumped his head and you feel "sad" well my kid fell down FURTHER and had STITCHES so you shouldn't really be complaining. Etc.
I looked like this and remained pregnant for one more month. I felt ENORMOUS and it was just one baby, not a huge baby either. I suppose next time I'll be this size when I'm four months along, great
And if we play that game then there are women pregnant with 6 babies. They win.unless there is someone pregnant with 7 or 8 babies. Ahhhhhhh
yes! there was a link the other day to woman who had conceived quintuplets naturally! odds of one in seven million! I only want those kinds of odds in my favor when we're talking lottery
Yeah, this is the kind of shit I'm talking about. It isn't a fucking contest but its annoying. But this is one of the taboo things that you can't compare or make judgments on because you don't know their lyfe. I think I may be done.
Post by Regina Philange on Jun 4, 2013 7:50:59 GMT -5
I wasn't really around much when we were all pregnant. I didnt really post much until after Lou, but i am so appreciative of the MOOK's who are apart of this board now. So, these BMB's need MOOK'S!
But why does it have to be a contest? Why can't it be "wow, we're both uncomfortable, lets commiserate" instead of "I'm more uncomfortable than you, so shut up"
I admit to getting annoyed at the "I'm so huge" comments because I was so small! My doctors were scaring the shit out of me and I just wanted to be big so I knew the baby was doing ok!
I admit to getting annoyed at the "I'm so huge" comments because I was so small! My doctors were scaring the shit out of me and I just wanted to be big so I knew the baby was doing ok!
Are you tall? A friend of mine I met at birth class never got that crazy huge look even overdue, I think because she is tall. I was jealous of her, ha. She was still wearing regular jeans at like 30 weeks just with the button opened. I wasn't able to wear my old jeans at all after the first trimester.
and I try to post on January and every other post is about an u/s. I don't know them and don't really care. I'll occasionally find an interesting post, but maybe I'm heartless. I just really don't care about random peoples' first u/s. Maybe I'm just jealous I'm literally due the last day in the month so am "behind" everyone.
I can say from experience, having an EDD at the end of the month is kind of a bummer, by the time you get to things people are sort of over it.
That being said, I can see what jnoellee, she's just griping about how FTM can be, and realizes how she's coming across.
It's those of us that have the crappiest sleepers. We roll our eyes when other people talk about having 1 bad night of sleep, but just because we never get to sleep, that doesn't mean other people can't complain about a bit of bad sleeping. Other people are allowed to be tired, but we're also allowed to roll our eyes and say things to the monitor that we'd never type. Right?
I admit to getting annoyed at the "I'm so huge" comments because I was so small! My doctors were scaring the shit out of me and I just wanted to be big so I knew the baby was doing ok!
Are you tall? A friend of mine I met at birth class never got that crazy huge look even overdue, I think because she is tall. I was jealous of her, ha. She was still wearing regular jeans at like 30 weeks just with the button opened. I wasn't able to wear my old jeans at all after the first trimester.
No! I am short! Thad was iugr for no apparent reason. It was stressful to have my belly and my baby measure almost a month behind.
Everyone has a right to complain. This, jnoelle can complain about the complainers.
Are you tall? A friend of mine I met at birth class never got that crazy huge look even overdue, I think because she is tall. I was jealous of her, ha. She was still wearing regular jeans at like 30 weeks just with the button opened. I wasn't able to wear my old jeans at all after the first trimester.
No! I am short! Thad was iugr for no apparent reason. It was stressful to have my belly and my baby measure almost a month behind.
Everyone has a right to complain. This, jnoelle can complain about the complainers.
Gavel.
And people can complain about jnoelle complaining about the complainers! Complaints all around!!
Yeah, this is the kind of shit I'm talking about. It isn't a fucking contest but its annoying. But this is one of the taboo things that you can't compare or make judgments on because you don't know their lyfe. I think I may be done.
I don't think you can't compare or make judgements. You can. We are just discussing different viewpoints...
I am sure I has several mooks eye roll at me. However, I also learned a lot from them. I still learn a lot from them, real life ones and you ladies.
I think the, "oh just you wait" comments are annoying, but very, very helpful, especially when they are acompanied by a little story. Yes, I was super uncomfortable at 35 weeks. Heck, I had intense tailbone pain that brought me to tears from early on, but I remained cognizant that thers had complications and/or were more uncomfortable. It doesn't have to be a pissing match, just don't be so self centered. Kwim?