I'm a mombie.

[cat19]

All I am is a mom. I'm pretty depressed about this. I have no hobbies. I don't see my "friends" - we have nothing in common. All I do is kid and baby related stuff. I don't have time for other stuff. I haven't even been doing yoga because I am one of those people who needs to go to a class and I was nauseous for a while, and then DH was constantly at work. I looked at my calender and it just depressed me. Linz this, Linz that, Lily this, baby that. This sucks.

[ashleydl83]

Wanna form a mombie club? Hanging out with Cream was the only time I've spent with a person my age recently. I went shopping alone this weekend for a couple of hours because my mom was in town and I needed to get out. It had been too long. I don't even know how I'm going to meet anyone if I never get a chance to go out!

[carawestt]

I know how you feel, I'm sorry

[tuck]

I'm there with you. All my friends are Mombies, too. It's kind of lame.

I keep telling myself it's a season. Eventually my interests won't have to completely revolve around the kids.

I know it's baby-related, but how's the babywearing education stuff going? It could be fun to hang out and talk with other moms. That's actually one of the main reasons I'm pursing being a La Leche League leader.

[Deleted]

Same here

ETA: have you SEEN my FB and IG?? Laney, Laney, Laney!

[ashleydl83]

Jun 3, 2013 22:41:56 GMT -5 tuck said:

I'm there with you. All my friends are Mombies, too. It's kind of lame.

I keep telling myself it's a season. Eventually my interests won't have to completely revolve around the kids.

I know it's baby-related, but how's the babywearing education stuff going? It could be fun to hang out and talk with other moms. That's actually one of the main reasons I'm pursing being a La Leche League leader.

It's the longest season ever. Going on 8 years now!

[tuck]

Jun 3, 2013 22:45:33 GMT -5 ashleydl83 said:

Jun 3, 2013 22:41:56 GMT -5 tuck said:

I'm there with you. All my friends are Mombies, too. It's kind of lame.

I keep telling myself it's a season. Eventually my interests won't have to completely revolve around the kids.

I know it's baby-related, but how's the babywearing education stuff going? It could be fun to hang out and talk with other moms. That's actually one of the main reasons I'm pursing being a La Leche League leader.

It's the longest season ever. Going on 8 years now!


Very, very true. One day they'll move out and I'll sit around twiddling my thumbs because I've forgotten how to be a grown-up. Damn kids. 

[ashleydl83]

tuck I know! I heard a country song around Mother's Day about what life is like after the kids grow up and move out. I bawled like a baby.

[Deleted]

Same boat especially since my classes are done for the summer. I need a hobby without Brady or just to shower by myself

[katfco]

I know how you feel. I don't really have any close friends I see that often and I don't know what to do to make more friends. We have no spare cash so even if I did make friends, what would I do with them?

[orriskitten]

I'm right there with you.

Oh wait, no, I also have to ferry my grandma around when she decides she is dying from a utI and is dehydrated and then have to care for great grandma.

Eta: all this while grandma tells me I'll never be able to care for my toddler and a baby. Specifically me, not just people in general. She doesn't remember I'm ttc. Way to boost your only granddaughter's self esteem.

[Deleted]

I am the same. In fact, I just broke down and cried for hours on Sunday because I have no one but DH. There are people I could hang out with (mostly family of DH's) but I just dont feel like we connect. I hate the small talk and its just awkward for me. I dont know anyone IRL with a kid the same age.

[Regina Philange]

This post reminds me of Return to OZ.

But, feel better Cat!

[devonpow]

Is there a MOMS Club in your area? (Momsclub.org) When I had H I didn't have any friends with kids, and was a new SAHM who felt very disconnected and very much mourning my "old" life. I had a lot of trouble settling into my new identity.

anyway, the moms club was the BEST thing I did. It started out just giving me things to do and adults to talk to, and I ended up really connecting with some of the other moms. I now have a group of 4 other moms/families, all of whom have kids the same age, and we do everything together. Kid stuff of course like play groups, etc., but I also go to the gym with them a few days a week, meet for lunch/coffee, book clubs, girls night out, etc etc. We even vacation together now. I also was of the board of my club for 3 years, including President for 1. It was child oriented, but mostly adult interaction. I really, really enjoyed it.

good luck - I know how you are feeling, and it is hard. Hugs.

[cat19]

I've met other moms through the interwebz, but I haven't formed a real connection. There are a few that I see sometimes, but they all see each other a lot more. I'm not gay and I don't teach music, so there's not a ton there other then kids around the same age. (two of the girls are gay, one of them is a music teacher and the other straight girl is also a music teacher)

BLARG!!! Maybe I should try MOM's club - I'm not crunchy enough for the crunchies, but too crunchy for the normals...

[laurack]

Even though I work FT I can still relate to some degree. I lament how it would be fun to just stay in town after work and have drinks but then when I get invited I don't want to. All of my outside work time is with her which is good because I love her but sometimes I want to just GO AWAY but then I don't because I would miss her and feel guilty. We've only had two date nights since she was born. Outside of work I don't think I've been away from her for more than maybe an hour or two here and there.

I always have had a hard time making friends, though yesterday I was talking to another mom at daycare pickup and I gave her my email address! this would bring my total friends to 2. Very exciting.

Hang in there momma. Don't forget you are KTFU and you already have TWO CHILDREN. I think right now, survival is an achievement. Try not to beat yourself up, you are awesome.

[devonpow]

Jun 4, 2013 8:48:39 GMT -5 cat19 said:

I've met other moms through the interwebz, but I haven't formed a real connection. There are a few that I see sometimes, but they all see each other a lot more. I'm not gay and I don't teach music, so there's not a ton there other then kids around the same age. (two of the girls are gay, one of them is a music teacher and the other straight girl is also a music teacher)

BLARG!!! Maybe I should try MOM's club - I'm not crunchy enough for the crunchies, but too crunchy for the normals...

Try it! Some of the other moms will suck hairy balls (oh, I could tell you stories...) but you never know! I have almost nothing in common with my sister wives (as we call each other) - they all have PhDs, all work, are all Jewish, and one is a hippy, lol - but we all very much connect and enjoy boozing while the kids play. 

[fusion]

another MOMs Club fan. I've found some really good friends through them, and they organize to bring meals for two weeks when a new baby comes (life saver!).

[muppetinma]

I'm in a mom's group through meetup.com. Some months, I go to several meetups a week. Some months, I might make it to one. BUT, I like having it. Whenever I feel like I'm getting into a rut and need to get out of the house and see other people, I can pull up the calendar and see what's going on. I like that i don't have to overly commit to anything. They have some activities that just wouldn't be fun for me or Andrew, so we skip those. It also has 80+ moms, with some being more active than others. I found the ones that I get along with and do the meetups that they're doing. That way, I avoid the people who I just don't get along with. It's worth a try for you. Andplusalso, it's free!