Intentional or not, this would be enough for me to switch. I think pinches would be pretty distinct (vs confusing them for a badge/pen poke), but, regardless, the uncomfortable, not-knowing-for-sure would have me switching practices.
Post by pinkplasticdoll on Jun 4, 2013 10:23:55 GMT -5
I find this odd and I started reading this while sitting in the waiting area for the Gyno and was all "what happened". I couldn't finish before I was called back.
I would find a new gyno but I would also call the office manager and let them know that it made you uncomfortable so the issue can be addressed for future patients.
I find this odd and I started reading this while sitting in the waiting area for the Gyno and was all "what happened". I couldn't finish before I was called back.
I would find a new gyno but I would also call the office manager and let them know that it made you uncomfortable so the issue can be addressed for future patients.
I'm pretty sure I would have just said "is there something on my leg?" but that's b/c I love my gyno almost as much as Jesus and would never suspect foul play from him.
OP, I still think it is reasonable, if you wanted to, to call the office and ask to talk to a nurse about what happened. It might put your mind at ease.
Could you call and speak to the nurse who was in the room with you? Just say, I noticed the Dr was doing this but didn't feel comfortable speaking up at the time. Can you tell me what he was doing and why?
What toledo said is exactly how I felt/feel. I was kind of just taken aback. And while I might call the nurse (I do like the thought of that), I might just not go back. I don't feel violated (as unexpected ass play would do), just weird, and I'm not sure it's worth it to me to bring it to her attention.
Could you call and speak to the nurse who was in the room with you? Just say, I noticed the Dr was doing this but didn't feel comfortable speaking up at the time. Can you tell me what he was doing and why?
What toledo said is exactly how I felt/feel. I was kind of just taken aback. And while I might call the nurse (I do like the thought of that), I might just not go back. I don't feel violated (as unexpected ass play would do), just weird, and I'm not sure it's worth it to me to bring it to her attention.
I think it is totally worth it to bring to their attention! If it is not the norm and the doc is being weird, someone should know about it, even if you don't go back there. I say call :-)
Post by sparkythelawyer on Jun 4, 2013 11:25:38 GMT -5
If you have otherwise had a good and professional relationship with this doctor, with no reason to think anything untoward, and you like this doctor and the care you have received, I would err on the side of something unintentional.
It's unhelpful to point out that next time you're at the doctor and s/he does something you are uncomfortable with, it's okay to speak up?
Okay...
It's not like the OP sounded traumatized and needed to be treated with kid gloves. I think she can handle it.
Nope, not traumatized, and not looking for kid-glove treatment. I hear what you're saying, but it didn't come out as forward-looking in your first posts. Of course I considered saying something at the time. But I was pretty taken aback (and was in stirrups), and I didn't, so that ship has sailed.
And I don't think anyone would disagree that it's unhelpful to be reminded that it's okay to speak up in the doctor's office. But sometimes (at least for me, apparently), it's not that easy when you're in the situation.
What toledo said is exactly how I felt/feel. I was kind of just taken aback. And while I might call the nurse (I do like the thought of that), I might just not go back. I don't feel violated (as unexpected ass play would do), just weird, and I'm not sure it's worth it to me to bring it to her attention.
I totally understand. If I did call, I would just phrase it like "something that happend during my appt isn't sitting well with me and I just wanted to run it by you".
I'm glad you don't feel violated but I'm sorry this happened at all. It' sucks questioning if you need to be concerned about something. Either way, I wouldn't go back. You should feel 100% safe and comfortable with your Dr, especially an OB/GYN.
Exactly, and I might (or might not -- I feel better having vented here). And again, if he hadn't already seemed a little bit odd, I'd think even less of this. But this just kind of pushes it over the line for me. (And hell, next time I'll go with my gut more quickly -- he seemed a little bit weird the first time I went to him, but I put it out of my head because he seemed more normal the next couple of times....)