s/o MIL vent

[VeryViolet]

I am going to try and make this somewhat logical while trying to keep it from being a novel so forgive me if it doesn't completely make sense.

My MIL is really selfish. That is the best way I have been able to describe her. DH has been helping with his grandmother (MIL's mother) for about a year. She has dementia and has slowly been declining. She lives out of state and it is tough on him emotionally and just draining of his time as well. He coordinates with her caretakers, makes sure bills and employees are paid, her house is kept up, etc. MIL has done nothing to help, except when we were going through everything with the baby she spent a week with her mother. The primary caretaker was out of town and my husband was supposed to be there but couldn't because I was on bedrest and then limited activity. MIL complained about it before, during and after. So yesterday DH gets a call from his mother because grandma concocted some things that had to do with money and her will. They were not true because well grandma has dimentia and makes things up a lot. Well now MIL is pissed and wants to know what is going on. Mind you she doesn't want to help just make sure that she knows who controls the money. Today it turns out that she has told the caretaker to cc her on all communication. A year after this woman started living with grandma. It would be a relief if she wanted to take some burden off of my husband but I know that is not the case.

To top it off she finished her conversation with her husband about how he needs to get his dad a $70 gift and "something small" for Father's Day. This would be okay if we hadn't given them a significant amount of money a few days ago because they had some car troubles. Not a loan just gave it to them but I guess that wasn't a gift. 

I am not really looking for advice just some hair pets I guess. If you have awful in law stories please feel free to add them too. Misery loves company and all that. 

I reserve the right to DD this because I feel weird about having it out there. I just needed to vent before I screamed. 

[cleo29]

That sucks. If two were my inlaws, the money you gave them for the car would BE the father's day present. lol

Out of this completely shitty situation, I am glad that your H's Grandma has him in her life to watch over her. It's pretty sad that her own daughter is not willing to do the same.

[ering1115]

I would hunt down a Father's Day card with a car on it and sign it from you, DH and fetus. Done and done.

Oh and effffff off to the MIL. My uncle's sister did that to my aunt and I HATED her for it. My aunt waited on her MIL hand and foot and that woman only cared when the $$$$ was involved. I hate her. HATE.

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I can relate. My sMIL only cares about money. I seriously am not exaggerating. My H is a mechanic and she is there at the shop every day, not till 10 or 11 mind you. One day a guy pulled up in his car, got out, and the car's dash had fire coming out of it. Of course H grabbed a fire extinguisher to put the fire out. After all was said and done, and the guy left, sMIL fussed at my H for not charging him first before using the fire extinguisher. I wish I was joking.