Please tell me I'm right

[anlo]

In this one particular instance, I say go to the dinner. Or at least don't give your H hell about him going. It's his birthday, he feels strongly about being there, etc.

However, your second paragraph about his giving being at your expense gives me pause. Is this an ongoing thing?

[anlo]

Jun 4, 2013 21:45:50 GMT -5 loonylunalovegood said:

Jun 4, 2013 19:48:52 GMT -5 anlo said:

In this one particular instance, I say go to the dinner. Or at least don't give your H hell about him going. It's his birthday, he feels strongly about being there, etc.

However, your second paragraph about his giving being at your expense gives me pause. Is this an ongoing thing?

It is an ongoing thing. I knew this would end up being a problem when we were dating and we talked a lot about it then. He had gotten better about it, but the yes man is creeping in again.

We just talked about it. I'm making the cakes, and probably some brownies and cookies too. He really does want to go fishing, so we're going to try to do both. We'll drop off the cakes Friday night. Go fishing Saturday day and then head over to RH and help clean up if that's all we have time for.

Also, I just want to point out that I was never pissed that H wanted to volunteer his time. I was pissed that he made a set stone commitment with my dad before there was a set in stone date for RH. PPs were right that he thought that since we said we would do RH first even though there wasn't a date set, it came before the set in stone fishing date. It doesn't matter now since we've resolved the issue, but I don't want anyone thinking we were going to skimp out of sick kid's families. I would've made the desserts regardless of this outcome.

FWIW, I never thought you were trying to back out on making the cakes. I'm glad you and your H worked it out