I am really upset with my mom

[papie]

I was the one who told her yesterday about my cousin's baby death.
She called today and left me a message saying that she spoke to another uncle who said the baby was born sick and they knew before birth and the he even had surgery and that basically it was nbd.
I called her back and was all: "ok, wtf is your point?"
In her super calming/you're overreacting voice she said "well, I was wondering of it was worth coming all the way here for that? I am wondering if I am going myself..."
Eww, no?she lives 30 minutes from them.
They still lost their child and I am sure it doesn't hurt any less because the baby was sick from birth.

[thatgirl2478]

... seriously? 30 min away is nbd, losing your infant child - whether you expected it or not - IS a big deal. Family should support each other.

[speckledfrog]

She can be very "old world" sometimes. I think it is wonderful that you are wanting to be there to show some support to your cousin.

[game blouses]

That is unkind of her to say. Maybe it's better if she doesn't go, just in case she says something like that to the poor parents.

[papie]

Jun 4, 2013 19:09:51 GMT -5 speckledfrog said:

She can be very "old world" sometimes.

yes, I think there is something there. A few years ago her BFF's daughter lost her baby at 10 days old. BFF said "it was just a passing angel, please don't mention anything to my daughter ever. "

And then we saw her daughter about a month later but the mom told us "remember NOT A WORD" right before so we complied.
I still feel guilty that I never told that poor woman how sorry I was for her loss.

[bab]

I'm sorry papie. I really think she comes from a different generation/mindset. I don't think she is being malicious, but it is like she is severely lacking in common sense. I would be very upset by her comments.

I'm so very sorry for your cousin.

[Moe]

That's such b.s. I'm sorry.

[snickers]

I'm very disappointed in your mom--what a sad sad story

[janiejones]

[Gato]

Maybe in times and places where infant deaths were more common, people had to be more stoic about it? Still, in the world we are living in today, the death of a child, at any age, for any reason, is just about the worst thing that can happen to a person. Your mom needs to get with it.

I'm sorry for your family's loss.

[wrathofkuus]

Your mom is SUPER old world; apparently she comes from the 1800s where the infant mortality rate was outrageously high.