I'm feeling kind of judgy

[EmilieMadison]

So of course, I thought I'd share it here! I'd NEVER say any of this to anyone in my family, but I feel the need to vent a little bit.

My sister's step-daughter just finished her 1st year of college. She started out at SchoolA, which was about 2.5 hours away from her home city. She had a boyfriend who was still in HS back home.

Before she was even half way through the 1st semester, she applied for a transfer to SchoolB which is right near her home and her boyfriend. She transferred to SchoolB for the 2nd semester and she and her boyfriend broke up right after that. 

She started dating someone new within a few weeks and his plan was to transfer to her old school for next year. So guess where she's going to school next year? Back to SchoolA. 

AND, my parents promised to pay her student loan payments if she maintained at least a 3.0. But after talking about about how easy all of her classes have been and how she's not being challenged at all, she only got a 2.6.  And she's FUMING that they're not paying for her loans "like they promised". Ugh.

[snickers]

Oh jeez,I would be annoyed too.
This poor girl doesn't seem to know what she wants.
Also, she didn't hold up her end of the deal, so now she has to put her big girl panties on and go forward!

[EmilieMadison]

AND, she just posted this picture on FB. I was so temped to say "Isn't your life in pretty much EXACTLY in the same place it was at this time last year?"

[pantsoffdanceoff]

I'm glad they aren't paying her loans. The agreement was based on a set of expectations that she did not meet. Tough titties for her.

[Deleted]

God, this reminds me that I was stupid in college. Thank god I wasn't able to flaunt it all over facebook.

You have every right to judge

[EmilieMadison]

Ack...AND! My parents made this deal with her/my BIL (her dad) but also encouraged my BIL to apply for as much student aid as possible. They helped fill out some of the forms because BIL wasn't sure what some of it meant, but my dad kept reminding him that it was really important to get everything in by the deadline because there's a finite amount of money and once it's gone, it's gone. BIL didnt turn anything in by the deadline and step-niece didnt get any of the aide/grants that she had already been approved/qualified for. 

[awick14]

I would judge too. I'm glad her parents aren't paying for the loans.

[dana2006]

They fail at life. I hope your parents wash their hands completely.

[EmilieMadison]

Jun 5, 2013 14:11:30 GMT -5 Que? said:

Oh, come ON. They're parenting this entire family. She's old enough to submit her own applications anyway.

You must want to die of frustration regularly.

Sorry, I meant the FAFSA/financial aid/grant applications, which have to be filled out by the parent/guardian or whomever to determine eligibility.  

[EmilieMadison]

And yes, luckily my parents are basically like "Well, sucks to be you, doesn't it?"

[Deleted]

This sounds like my mother.

[Deleted]

Lol. Kids are idiots, man.

[julez]

I'm glad they're not helping her. Natural consequences!

But yeah, I judge, too. She's going to look back at these two years and regret the heck out of all of her flopping around over a boy. (spoken from experience. sigh.)

[sonrisa]

School A is taking her back? Lucky her. I think it's amazing that your parents offered that at all. Extra amazing they did so for a step-grandchild (some grandparents wouldn't). Will your parents pay some later if she pulls up her grades so that her overall GPA is above 3.0? (Not that I'm suggesting they should). If they would, it might be time for a "get your shit together, get a 3.7 next year, and fix the mess you've made" talk.

[fuckyourcouch]

man. i would judge the shit out of this and i'm glad they are holding her to the arrangement. suck it up, sweetie.

[penelope]

Good for your parents for not paying her loans. If I were them, I would let her deal with the financial aid paperwork herself this time around too.

I work in the Registrar's office at a state university, and nothing makes the entire office eye-roll more than when you get "My son is a grad student there, and he needs to set up a payment plan.", kind of phone calls. Let them out there to do it themselves, and if someone really needs assistance with forms, that's what people get paid to do, and will do it happily for anyone that is taking responsibility for themselves.

[EmilieMadison]

Jun 5, 2013 17:46:04 GMT -5 penelope said:

Good for your parents for not paying her loans. If I were them, I would let her deal with the financial aid paperwork herself this time around too.

I work in the Registrar's office at a state university, and nothing makes the entire office eye-roll more than when you get "My son is a grad student there, and he needs to set up a payment plan.", kind of phone calls. Let them out there to do it themselves, and if someone really needs assistance with forms, that's what people get paid to do, and will do it happily for anyone that is taking responsibility for themselves.

Sorry if I wasn't clear. It's my BIL who had to fill out the forms because it required all of HIS financial info (I think it was FAFSA, along with some other grant type things?). These weren't forms that my step-niece could have filled  out herself. It was my parents helping my BIL with a few of the forms because he didnt understand them. And they're not doing that again lol!

[goaskalice]

I'm judging right along with you! What a cluster. Good luck to her, it doesn't bode well that her father doesn't know how to fill out the FAFSA and follow deadlines...