Text from my MIL made me cry. A lot.

[hotmess]

"We know that you both were put in each others path for a reason. You are a blessing M. I don't think you realize how much. We know you both love each other, our paths just change. Coffee whenever you want, a listening ear and quiet mouth whenever you want, too. Just reach out, I'm here."

Holy shit that brought the waterworks. I am so thankful to have such an amazing MIL that will love me even through divorcing her son. But holy hell, it makes me sad to give her up, too.

[liubotflittyfud]

That is really sweet

[formerlyak]

Not to be bitchy, but be really careful what you choose to confide in her. My ex-MIL said something similar to me during my divorce and I am very glad I never actually continued that relationship.

[usedtobebear]

Wow, that is very sweet and nice, I can see why the tears are flowing, I feel shafted by all of my in-laws. That is one thing that wierds me out about marriage, you have this new family and in my case for 10 years and then BAM, they drop out of your life as if you never existed. Props to your MIL for being there for you regardless of the situation! I hope my in-laws come around eventually..

[hotmess]

formerlyak, I definitely won't confide anything in her - other than I love her son and I am sad that things didn't work out with us. The issues between my STBX & I are between us - and our therapists.

[hotmess]

Jun 12, 2012 17:34:36 GMT -5 usedtobebear said:

Wow, that is very sweet and nice, I can see why the tears are flowing, I feel shafted by all of my in-laws. That is one thing that wierds me out about marriage, you have this new family and in my case for 10 years and then BAM, they drop out of your life as if you never existed. Props to your MIL for being there for you regardless of the situation! I hope my in-laws come around eventually..

That sucks. It's one thing I feared greatly in telling our families. My dad has been like a dad to my H so I know that they'll continue their relationship, I would absolutely hate to see them lose each other. But I was a little worried about my ILs, that'd they'd be defensive for their son. We love each other very much still and want the best for each other, which I think is obvious when we've spoken to our families so that makes things easier.

[Deleted]

When H and I were seperated, my MIL told me that she hopes we work it out but know matter what happens she will always love me and I will always have a place in there home.

It was sweet and I appreciated but if things hadn't worked out and we had gotten divorced I never would have showed up at their door for a visit or anything. Regardless how you feel about the family, IMO when the relationship ends with your spouse, it should also end with your spouses family.

[hotmess]

Eh, right or wrong - weird or not - my dad ended up a bit as a surrogate dad for the H. We got together when we were 15, my H has a lot of things he went through and my dad was there for him. I would never in a million years expect them to drop that relationship just because I'm not married to H anymore.

And I do agree though, it's appreciate but not like I'll just show up and visit. Right now it'd be nice to do coffee and make sure she knows that I love her - but it will be one of those things that we'll be on good terms and it won't suck to see her in the grocery store, but I'm not going over for dinner, either.

[blackkitty]

I've stayed on good terms with my ex-in laws ... I don't hang out with them but can call them if I need to & I'm even FB friends with one of my ex-SILs

[marigoldgirl]

I really like "a listening ear and a quiet mouth" I think a lot of people could use this. It was a nice gesture of her.