What's up with recent posts ladies?

[bowies]

I'm seeing a lot of codependency, stereotyping of "Man behavior," and a hyper focus on dating-while-not-ready. This is no bueno.

I want to personally smack some of you upside the head. You're better than this.

[letyourselfgo]

*ducking a slap*

[blackkitty]

Name names missy!!

[doriswe]

Jun 12, 2012 21:14:08 GMT -5 bowies said:

I'm seeing a lot of codependency, stereotyping of "Man behavior," and a hyper focus on dating-while-not-ready. This is no bueno.

I want to personally smack some of you upside the head. You're better than this.

*golf clap*

[marigoldgirl]

I love Bowies!

[compassrose]

Maybe we need to step it up with the tough love again? Achase hasn't been around as much, and she's usually pretty good at that. There are several of you who are still going strong with smacking the rest of us upside the head when we need it, though!

[Deleted]

Jun 12, 2012 21:16:24 GMT -5 letyourselfgo said:

*ducking a slap*

:Y: me too....

[dakotadangerdog]

Jun 12, 2012 21:14:08 GMT -5 bowies said:

I'm seeing a lot of codependency, stereotyping of "Man behavior," and a hyper focus on dating-while-not-ready. This is no bueno.

I want to personally smack some of you upside the head. You're better than this.

:Y: :Y: :Y:

[bullygirl979]

Jun 12, 2012 21:14:08 GMT -5 bowies said:

I'm seeing a lot of codependency, stereotyping of "Man behavior," and a hyper focus on dating-while-not-ready. This is no bueno.

I want to personally smack some of you upside the head. You're better than this.

Ooh! I am not dating yet!! Do I get a gold star?? ;D

ETA: Bowies, thanks for taking that creepy ass avatar pic out of your profile. That really freaked me the fuck out.

[bowies]

LOL, I think they know who they are. I'm gonna start doling out penance to future violators. Codependents are required to list 10 things that are awesome about their lives at this exact moment in time.

[blackkitty]

I was co-dependent in my marriage but now I'm back to my awesome self
Do I get a gold star?

[bowies]

Jun 12, 2012 21:38:01 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

I was co-dependent in my marriage but now I'm back to my awesome self
Do I get a gold star?

Sure. Past sins have been forgiven.

[letyourselfgo]

I'm still working on those Co-Dependent traits that I have. So, maybe a silver star for me?

[cemacmil]

Jun 12, 2012 21:30:51 GMT -5 bowies said:

LOL, I think they know who they are. I'm gonna start doling out penance to future violators. Codependents are required to list 10 things that are awesome about their lives at this exact moment in time.

1. I went from making all the money and XH physically taking everything, to my own place that is now pretty much fully furnished a year post divorce with savings and a kick ass lawyer on retainer for any family matters.

2. I have been working through and will actually finish "Co-dependent No More" here soon after I "quit" it the first time.

3. I can't fix other people, nor do I want to waste my time anymore doing so.

4. Though they are paid - my counselor and lawyer can deal with the BS for now and meanwhile teach me how to do it fully on my own for the future.

5. My body kicks ass and I am finally getting some lean mass on again!

6. My kid is awesome and thinks I am the best/funniest/awesome person in the world. This will change in approx 12 years, lol.

7. My faith is 1,000 times stronger/better/my own than ever before.

8. Even though I have to get up at 5, I have an awesome, dependable, and good paying job that I not only enjoy but can/want to move up in.

9. I have been doing "The Breakfast Club" dance very frequently.

10. I have a super cute date at the Cheesecake factory on Thursday and had dinner with a new friend tonight...all because I made it happen. And a date is just a date, someone needs to explain this to my co-dependent mother because it's not MY job.

Did I do well ;D

[doriswe]

cemacmil - I like you a lot...and want to hug you! And I'm an icy cold bitch, so that says a lot!

[BookLover]

Can I have a gold star too?

I moved out and divorced an abusive asshole. Stayed single for over a year and went to group counseling. Made female friends and hung out with them only. Started dating a little bit, met a guy and got a little series, then when he showed signs of stage 5 cling, I dropped his ass and have been single for over a year with no dating and I'm almost finished with college.

Oh! And I can ignore my ex with the best of them and also have him give me the compliment of being a frozen bitch. I'm proud of that label. :-)

[cemacmil]

Jun 12, 2012 21:46:41 GMT -5 doriswe said:

cemacmil - I like you a lot...and want to hug you! And I'm an icy cold bitch, so that says a lot!

Thanks - love bitches that wanna hug! *brushes shoulders off*

[marigoldgirl]

Jun 12, 2012 21:59:45 GMT -5 BookLover said:

Can I have a gold star too?

I moved out and divorced an abusive asshole. Stayed single for over a year and went to group counseling. Made female friends and hung out with them only. Started dating a little bit, met a guy and got a little series, then when he showed signs of stage 5 cling, I dropped his ass and have been single for over a year with no dating and I'm almost finished with college.

Oh! And I can ignore my ex with the best of them and also have him give me the compliment of being a frozen bitch. I'm proud of that label. :-)

Frozen Bitch = strong and not able to be manipulated.

[formerlyknownasefl]

I need a platinum star. I'm scared to dish on the dirty details of my douchey soon to be exhusband but once the divorce is final I'll be sure to spill. I'm definitely not even thinking about dating. My DS is the only man worthy enough for my time right now...

[formerlyak]

I've noticed this, too, Bowies. Thank you for pointing it out.

[achase123]

Sorry ladies, I'll try to hang around more often. I wish I knew how to upload a pic into my siggy because I feel like I've lost my identity.

Also, I've been super busy studying for my CFP test!

Agree with you completely Bowies.

[BookLover]

Jun 13, 2012 9:51:40 GMT -5 marigoldgirl said:

Jun 12, 2012 21:59:45 GMT -5 BookLover said:

Can I have a gold star too?

I moved out and divorced an abusive asshole. Stayed single for over a year and went to group counseling. Made female friends and hung out with them only. Started dating a little bit, met a guy and got a little series, then when he showed signs of stage 5 cling, I dropped his ass and have been single for over a year with no dating and I'm almost finished with college.

Oh! And I can ignore my ex with the best of them and also have him give me the compliment of being a frozen bitch. I'm proud of that label. :-)

Frozen Bitch = strong and not able to be manipulated.

It keeps him from contacting, that's for sure.

[roselis]

I realized the other day that it has been 9 months since XH and I separated. Just over a month since the divorce. I have yet to go on a date. Slightly depressing at times, but at least I know I don't feel like I need to be in a relationship and I truly am enjoying the single life.

[nessia]

Bowies, thanks for posting this. I mainly lurk around here and kept seeing stuff about dating and thought there was something wrong with me for not wanting to date yet, a year later. I just don't want to deal with it yet. Maybe it's not so weird to not being ready yet.