Kids and Discipline

[jennlin]

Jun 14, 2013 16:03:47 GMT -5 @legalbritt said:

I would not tell them. If I were that parent I would be so mortified and defense if someone else brought it up that I probably would not be able to be friends with that person anymore.
But, if all the other friends in the circle have a pattern of not hanging out with the "bad" family and she ever brought it up like "Why don't you ever want to schedule play dates with X?" Then I would probably say something to give an explanation.

this.

[sarack]

How old is this kid? Now is the time to tell her. Especially if the kid is still young.. Maybe she just doesn't realize?

I think if you are willing to talk to her without talking down to her but trying to be supportive and helpful and you think she will take it well, talk to her about if.

[sarack]

It seems like you have done all you can. Let it go, stop playing with them, and she will get it. It makes me sad because he isn't going to change unless they make some major changes....

[picksthemusic]

Jun 14, 2013 16:03:47 GMT -5 @legalbritt said:

I would not tell them. If I were that parent I would be so mortified and defense if someone else brought it up that I probably would not be able to be friends with that person anymore.
But, if all the other friends in the circle have a pattern of not hanging out with the "bad" family and she ever brought it up like "Why don't you ever want to schedule play dates with X?" Then I would probably say something to give an explanation.

Yep.

Unless the child is being physically harmful/abusive to my child, then you couldn't control what came out of my mouth.

[niq]

What's age is the problem kid, and what ages are the other kids?

[sarack]

Jun 14, 2013 18:33:03 GMT -5 niq said:

What's age is the problem kid, and what ages are the other kids?

 she mentioned the problem child is 3. and you know about how old her child is.

this is such a hard thing to address. maybe she is just too lazy to keep up with discipline. or maybe she thinks that he's not that bad? or she.. or maybe she has a hard time telling them no. either way, i'd be COMPLETELY embarrassed if my kids acted like this. and i'd hope my friends would tell me before it's too late.

[jennlin]

Jun 14, 2013 19:27:46 GMT -5 @jennuinne said:

You've told her. And her H sees the problem. I don't see what else you can do. Her H really needs to step up.

Yup

[sarack]

Jun 14, 2013 21:55:55 GMT -5 jennlin said:

Jun 14, 2013 19:27:46 GMT -5 @jennuinne said:

You've told her. And her H sees the problem. I don't see what else you can do. Her H really needs to step up.

Yup

yeah. i'd just stop hanging out.

[Deleted]

For me that is not okay at all. At the age of 3 the child should know more than well enough that that sort of attitude or acting out is not okay. I agree that it sounds like you may loose a friend over this but in the long run would you want your child to act like said child?