A coworker kissed me.

[caffeinebean]

Last night my best friend and I went to a CW's birthday party. We were having a blast and I had a little too much to drink. We were outside with another CW who's on my team, who I interact with daily. I had leaned over to say something to BFF and when I straightened up he leaned in and kissed me.

Wtf? He knows I'm in a relationship and I've never led him on. BF is gone for the next two weeks. How do I tell him? Do I even tell him?

I'm sorry if this is a jumbled mess. I'm on my phone and have a hangover from hell.

[joenali]

Did you kiss him back?

[caffeinebean]

Jun 15, 2013 11:13:52 GMT -5 joenali said:

Did you kiss him back?

No. I was shocked and just stood there for a second and then we thanked our host and booked it out of there.

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Jun 15, 2013 11:16:08 GMT -5 caffeinebean said:

Jun 15, 2013 11:13:52 GMT -5 joenali said:

Did you kiss him back?

No. I was shocked and just stood there for a second and then we thanked our host and booked it out of there.

This might be flameful, but I wouldn't tell my bf. it would cause more problems than necessary.

The guy was prob drunk.

[goaskalice]

Ugh. What a mess, I'm sorry you're in that position. I don't know your relationship obviously, but I imagine any reasonable man would know you're telling the truth when you say he came out of seemingly nowhere and you didn't initiate.

I hate to be that person, but that almost borders on sexual harassment. Do you feel comfortable enough with your CW to talk to him about it? He needs to know that's not ok.

[rex]

I don't think I would tell either. You obviously did not want this guy to kiss you, and he was drunk.

I do think it might need to be discussed with the guy who kissed you though.

[caffeinebean]

I'm going to talk to CW on Monday and reiterate my relationship status. He's a good guy and easy to work with so I'm pretty sure he'll be understanding.

Ug, I know if the situation were reversed and someone kissed BF I'd probably want to know. I just feel guilty even though I didn't initiate it and put a stop to it.

[caffeinebean]

Jun 15, 2013 13:11:45 GMT -5 @simpledog said:

I would tell, because if it were reversed, and h didn't tell me and then I found out randomly a year later, I would be pissed. My h wouldn't be mad at me though - and neither should your BF. I would have to worry about him punching my coworker though, ha ha.

The punching is what I'm concerned about lol. This is just such an awkward situation.

[penelope]

Jun 15, 2013 13:11:45 GMT -5 @simpledog said:

I would tell, because if it were reversed, and h didn't tell me and then I found out randomly a year later, I would be pissed. My h wouldn't be mad at me though - and neither should your BF. I would have to worry about him punching my coworker though, ha ha.

Totally agree.  And have you ever noticed that things like this always come back to bite you in the ass? Secrets just aren't good to keep.  It always, somehow, comes out and then its 10x worse, and he'll think you had something to hide.  Being honest now shows you aren't hiding anything.

[snickers]

I would just tell H and get it over with. I would not want to risk someone else telling him, or something else.

[peachdragon]

Jun 15, 2013 11:37:56 GMT -5 caffeinebean said:

I'm going to talk to CW on Monday and reiterate my relationship status. He's a good guy and easy to work with so I'm pretty sure he'll be understanding.

Ug, I know if the situation were reversed and someone kissed BF I'd probably want to know. I just feel guilty even though I didn't initiate it and put a stop to it.

I was thinking this. If someone tried to kiss my husband, I'd want to know. I'd thank him and say some words about the woman.  I'd be really upset that he hadn't told me if I found out later on somehow. 

[kaybee85]

I would also tell because if the reverse happened, I'd want to know.

[snakeoiltanker]

I have been in almost that exact situation. I was mostly afraid to tell my boyfriend because I diddnt want him having bad feeling every time I left for work.
I told him though, and I told the co worker that my boyfriend knew and that it was never to happen again.

Coworker and I are married now though.... So there's that.

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I think I'd have to tell because it would constantly be on my mind that I didn't tell.

[cutecloud]

I would tell. If I were in that situation and a CW kissed my H, I would want to know about it. Sorry you're in such an awkward spot.

[FastHands]

I'd tell

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Jun 15, 2013 17:08:03 GMT -5 snakeoiltanker said:

I have been in almost that exact situation. I was mostly afraid to tell my boyfriend because I diddnt want him having bad feeling every time I left for work.
I told him though, and I told the co worker that my boyfriend knew and that it was never to happen again.

Coworker and I are married now though.... So there's that.

Legit LOL

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Jun 15, 2013 17:18:00 GMT -5 bricco said:

I would want to know, so therefore I'd tell. I think it would look really bad if he found out about it later on and you weren't upfront about it.

My thought, as well.

[caffeinebean]

I'm going to tell him, but I think I'm going to wait until he home.

CW texted me and apologized and said he meant no disrespect he was just drunk and when his friend told him what happened he about had a heart attack lol