I'm very grateful to have an amazing adoptive dad and I enjoyed a wonderful day with him. But...sometimes I wonder if my biological father ever thinks about the little girl he left sitting on the porch swing. And sometimes I hope he feels just as alone today as I felt when he walked down the sidewalk and never came back.
Post by bryantpark on Jun 16, 2013 20:38:07 GMT -5
My flamedful is that I was pissed that my MIL didn't get me a Mother's Day card and we saw her and dh and bil did a big hoopla about her gifts. BIL sent me flowers and so I (spitefully) thanked him in front of her. Bil is very thoughtful. I could see her face turn bc she knew she should have got me a card. So today DH gets a huge gift bag from her and its a sangria pitcher (clearly a womanly gift) and she says "this is a fathers and Mother's Day gift". So now I feel bad that he got shafted on my account!
Post by bryantpark on Jun 16, 2013 20:45:20 GMT -5
I also have a problem with mushy cards. I always feel awkward in the card aisle and wonder if anyone ever notices me slamming down the overly mush ones. Not because they weren't great parents I just can't deal with the mush. For some reason there's like something missing in our relationship that forces me to go for the humor cards. I also have a hard time with looking them in the eye with mush. I can't do it.
I also have a problem with mushy cards. I always feel awkward in the card aisle and wonder if anyone ever notices me slamming down the overly mush ones. Not because they weren't great parents I just can't deal with the mush. For some reason there's like something missing in our relationship that forces me to go for the humor cards. I also have a hard time with looking them in the eye with mush. I can't do it.
I can't do mushy cards either. I always do something funny (not like crass or dirty joke funny, but just kind of "ha ha, that's cute" funny). I am not good with real sentimental stuff.
Your post about slamming down the mushy cards made me laugh because whenever I go card shopping with H, I can tell within the first line or two if the card will be too mushy and I go "noooope" and slam it back down. If he is helping me look for one, he'll say, "This one's not any good. Too mushy for you." He's learning
My Dad is blocked on my phone, but I bet he sent me a nasty text message about me not acknowledging him on Fathers Day. The day Ethan was supposed to die (he knew this from my brother) he sent me a really horrible message saying how I am a terrible parent and daughter, and an even worse Catholic. Funny how little he knows me to think calling me a bad Catholic is really going to rile me up.
My Step Dad is having a rough time today without my Mom. I don't really know what to say to him, and I just want to hug him. But we don't do mushy stuff either. I don't know what to say to him.
My dad is fantastic, but he is not on facebook and I have not been on a computer today (just phone) so I didn't change my picture or anything. I wished him a happy day and gave him a card in person which was a medium he actually received the message from. A Facebook post would have been for my benefit, not his.
I am sorry for those with shitty dads. People amaze me with how awful they can be.
Post by EllieArroway on Jun 17, 2013 0:16:59 GMT -5
The "happy Father's Day" I wrote on his Facebook wall is the only "gift" my dad got from me today. I meant to call him but forgot until it was too late. He's definitely not the world's greatest dad. He was barely in my life at all until the last 10 years or so. He is trying to make up for it and we do get along now, but we are still like strangers in a lot of ways. I actually don't know if I have ever spent Father's Day with my dad... So yeah, I feel you.
Post by borinquen57 on Jun 17, 2013 0:26:34 GMT -5
I didn't really like my dad growing up, and the longer I am DD's parent, the more I realize how shitty and mean he really was. I always had a hard time finding a plain FD card, but now that DD's here, I feel like I'm off the hook and can get him a grandfather's card. He's a much better grandparent anyway. OTOH, I LOVE my FIL! I got him a card from DD and even took the time to have her "sign" it.
My parents divorced when I was very young, and I'm an only child. I only saw my dad twice a month (and I'm not too close with my mom either, though she thinks we are...) Now I know my dad loves me, and that I really changed his outlook on life, but we're just not that close. I guess I wish I could be closer to my parents. They weren't bad, but I've just become distant with most of my family. Sometimes it makes me sad, but it's just the way I am.
I called him, we chatted, and we're still trying to get together for dinner, but other than that... :^)
My dad got a card and I went over to their house for dinner. My stepfather got a card and a happy Father's Day via a call to my mother (he has hearing difficulties and doesn't like to talk on the phone). I posted nothing on FB.
Oh and mh's boss sent him a Happy Father's Day email on Saturday. We have no children and can't have children. His boss knows this because they had a convo about adoption (boss had two adopted kids). I'm sure it was just an oversight, but it really stung MH a bit.
To me, Father's Day is more Hallmark Holliday than not.
Don't feel bad. I really do have the best dad in the world and I didn't post a daddy and me pic today. I don't think people assume anything bad if you don't post a pic or say so,etching nice, at least I don't. I just assume you have better things going on in your life than Facebook.
Kind of shitty, RBP. I'm glad your dad is/was awesome but in a post where most people are sharing about their tough relationships, it's not the place for a big fat YAY on your part.
Kind of shitty, RBP. I'm glad your dad is/was awesome but in a post where most people are sharing about their tough relationships, it's not the place for a big fat YAY on your part.
Sorry, I guess it's not flameful, but I was about to burst into tears all day yesterday because my dad isn't around anymore. I'll keep it to myself from now on.
Kind of shitty, RBP. I'm glad your dad is/was awesome but in a post where most people are sharing about their tough relationships, it's not the place for a big fat YAY on your part.
I believe RBP lost her father. So, that's fucking tough too. I think she is entitled to say that he was awesome. Father's Day is really fucking hard for those of us who have lost our awesome Dads and really miss them.
Kind of shitty, RBP. I'm glad your dad is/was awesome but in a post where most people are sharing about their tough relationships, it's not the place for a big fat YAY on your part.
Sorry, I guess it's not flameful, but I was about to burst into tears all day yesterday because my dad isn't around anymore. I'll keep it to myself from now on.
Sorry RBP. I was in tears all day yesterday too because I really really really miss my Dad too. Hugs.
Kind of shitty, RBP. I'm glad your dad is/was awesome but in a post where most people are sharing about their tough relationships, it's not the place for a big fat YAY on your part.
I believe RBP lost her father. So, that's fucking tough too. I think she is entitled to say that he was awesome. Father's Day is really fucking hard for those of us who have lost our awesome Dads and really miss them.
I had forgotten it was Father's Day until I got to church and the pastor opened with "Happy Father's Day!" I wanted to cry the rest of the service.
Oh FFS, I already said it wasn't clear. So, if it wasn't clear to me, it was obviously hurtful. Knowing now that her father passed away, I can understand the post better. @redbellpeppers, again, I'm sorry for your loss. I don't think I ever knew and if I did I clearly didn't recall it. No malice was intended on my part.
Kind of shitty, RBP. I'm glad your dad is/was awesome but in a post where most people are sharing about their tough relationships, it's not the place for a big fat YAY on your part.
Even if you don't know the difference between is/was, this post is so over the top.
No need to be insulting. It's clear I was mistaken, I apologized and gave my condolences.
Let's just admit that you made a fucking douche comment and then followed it up with a lackluster quasi-apology that essentially blamed RBP for your lack of English comprehension.
Post by dietdrpepper on Jun 17, 2013 10:10:04 GMT -5
Meh. I AW my dad on FB this weekend with a pic of him and I when I was a baby. I don't have many pics of us together because he was always the one taking the pics. The whole point of FB is to be an AW anyway. He died when I was a child. Most of the people in my present day life have never met him or known him. I have FB friends from my childhood who did know him, and they shared some great stories with me and it made me feel connected to him again, as well as sharing a small part of my "old" life with my friends who are part of my "new" life (the one without him).
I also AW my husband because he is a good dad, he is cute, and I like to show him off
Father's Day is a hard day for me, but having a dad to celebrate with my children helps take away some of the pain. I like seeing pics of my friend's dads too, many of whom I know but haven't seen in years, or those who posted pics of dads they lost, so I can relate with them.
My heart goes out to all of you who have lost their dads or who have difficult relationships.