S/O: 10 great things about you!

[liubotflittyfud]

This is going off of Bowie's post about our current boardage.

Co-dependent or not, I think it's great if we can recognize what is awesome about us and our Starting Over journeys!

So post 'em. 10 or more. Any less than 10 gets a tough love slap from MCC.

[bullygirl979]

Start us off, LFF!

[liubotflittyfud]

Mine:

1. I've felt the most emotionally sound than I have since I left my STBXH last April. Only on my one anti-depressant a day and no longer taking xanax or klonapin. I feel wonderful.

2. I am standing up for myself and saying "No" to things I don't want, aren't ready for, unsure about. I normally let people walk all over me.

3. Although my financial situation is a mess, I am taking steps to re-budget, re-save, and get my feet back on the ground. Working hard, long hours, and no frivolous spending.

4. I have never been closer with my mom and dad. My brother is in and out of the picture, but I'm happy to have a family support system and we make sure we tell each other we love each other.

5. I live alone for the first time ever. After kicking xBF out and pressing charges/PFA, I revamped my apartment by moving furniture and painting, and I love MY space and do not want anyone else taking advantage of it.

6. I have been making time to do me things after work and on the weekends. I've started sewing again and I plan on re-working a bunch of boxy old tshirts into cute summer tops this weekend

7. Although I am dating J, I have not slept with him, because I am not ready.

8. I don't want to rely on anyone but myself. I am the only person who can make the right decisions for me and I will do my best every day.

9. I am thinking about the future and things I want for a change. Not what everyone else wants for me or what everyone else wants for themselves through me.

10. I am awesome in every way, shape, and form. I am a strong woman, dedicated to happiness for myself, and I am taking steps in that direction. Although I am a space case and I get side tracked, I am head strong to keep going once I figure it all out. I like that about me. I always get the job done one way or another.

[bullygirl979]

Great answers, LFF! Here are mine.

1) I can make awesome homemade mac and cheese

2) I am a great doggy mom

3) I am there for my friends even when they are being dumb. But I tell them they are being dumb in a very nice way

4) I am financially smart

5) I am very caring and loyal

6) I try to be kind to others. I hold open doors, am nice to wait staff, and smile at people who look like they are having a bad day

7) I recognized that I deserve more from my relationship and dumped XBF. I am finally thinking with my head and not my heart

8) I started therapy yesterday. I recognize that I need to heal from this breakup and am taking the right steps. So I have good self awareness.

9) I own my own home and when I bought it I was making peanuts

10) I love who I am and I won't change for anyone

[aliciar6]

1) I paid off the loan i had to take out for my divorce settlement to pay off worthless leech of an XH
2) I have started running all the time and I think I've signed up for over 20 races this year so far with my co-worker and have had really good progress with minimal effort in getting my 5K times down to almost 25 min
3) I am a superstar at work and the branch, division, and deputy directorate chiefs think i walk on water
4) I finished my Master's in chemical engineering this year
5) I got accepted into the MBA project management program
6) I have learned how to have more patience and be more flexible and less stubborn
7) I'm really trying to like the dog (then she goes and gives me a concussion)
8) I've gotten pretty good at trout fishing a fun hobby that FI got me into
9) I'm getting a lot better with my bow, maybe I'll be ready to bow hunt this year
10) I look freaking hot in my wedding dress. (wish i could find a buyer for the old one)
11) I'm learning on my own all about NJ renter laws and how to evict my tenant...heck I managed my own divorce paperwork, quit claim deed, and rental contract, i can manage eviction processes.
12) I got asked to join the group at work to compete for a spot on the one of our Army 10 miler teams out of the blue

[aliciar6]

oh and 13) i'm a freaking awesome cook, since leaving XH, i've got to experiment a lot more in the kitchen

[liubotflittyfud]

Jun 13, 2012 12:54:53 GMT -5 aliciar6 said:

1) I paid off the loan i had to take out for my divorce settlement to pay off worthless leech of an XH
2) I have started running all the time and I think I've signed up for over 20 races this year so far with my co-worker and have had really good progress with minimal effort in getting my 5K times down to almost 25 min
3) I am a superstar at work and the branch, division, and deputy directorate chiefs think i walk on water
4) I finished my Master's in chemical engineering this year
5) I got accepted into the MBA project management program
6) I have learned how to have more patience and be more flexible and less stubborn
7) I'm really trying to like the dog (then she goes and gives me a concussion)
8) I've gotten pretty good at trout fishing a fun hobby that FI got me into
9) I'm getting a lot better with my bow, maybe I'll be ready to bow hunt this year
10) I look freaking hot in my wedding dress. (wish i could find a buyer for the old one)
11) I'm learning on my own all about NJ renter laws and how to evict my tenant...heck I managed my own divorce paperwork, quit claim deed, and rental contract, i can manage eviction processes.
12) I got asked to join the group at work to compete for a spot on the one of our Army 10 miler teams out of the blue

You are badass. :Y: :Y: :Y:

[aliciar6]

now if only i can learn to like the dog.....which Lord help me, i liked her at first, but something changed. maybe i am jealous of the dog.....

and when the motorcycle is paid off (goal is september) i can hopefully go back to taking one on one boxing lessons again since it will be in the budget.

[gozf]

I'll play:

1. I am working hard to get healthier
2. I'm a good listener
3. I face my fears head on
4. I am a loyal friend
5. I'm unwilling to settle for someone less than extraordinary, and I'm not afraid to walk away if things go south
6. I've become a much better cook and am becoming quite a good baker
7. I've learned to appreciate alone time
8. I'm more fiscally responsible
9. I'm confident in my ability to take care of myself
10. I'm more prone to step out of the box and do interesting things, from something as silly as taking an impromptu road trip, to things like returning to the theatre and embarking on the modeling. I'd never have done that before.

[liubotflittyfud]

Jun 13, 2012 13:00:31 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

10. I orgasm easily

Love it!

[aliciar6]

Jun 13, 2012 13:00:31 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

Haha, LFF about the love smacks!

1. I have a killer hook and round house kick!
2. My nails are always red--it makes me feel sassy
3. I have great hair...and boobs
4. I'm a good listener and give good advice
5. I'm a DIY'er and have gotten really good at refinishing furniture over the years
6. I'm no longer angry at XH
7. I'm having a ton of fun being single
8. I'm an awesome aunt to my brother's 3 year old son!
9. In July I will be moving out of my parents' house and finally be financially stable!
10. I orgasm easily

lol at 10!!!!!

[compassrose]

1) I am compassionate and good in tough times. I'm the one you call at 3 am when your life falls apart.
2) Although I am a great friend (as per #1), I have learned in the last few years that there are limits to what I can give. I very sadly had to end my relationship with my BFF of 10 years 3 years ago because I could no longer handle her treatment of me when she was on the downswing of her bipolar cycle.
3) I will make an awesome mom someday. I am good with BF's kids, and I will be a great doggie mom when my puppy comes home in July.
4) I am finally doing things for myself that I needed to feel confident and successful and enjoy life again. I picked up and moved to Boston and started a new job (my old boss was toxic), and I am making a new life here that I love.
5) I am a great scientist and I will (hopefully) have a good experience on the job market this fall. In the mean time, I am working my butt off to make sure I am ready.
6) I am a great cook, and my friends come over for dinner several times a month because they love my cooking.
7) I have a great eye for design. My roommate just bought a new house and I have been helping with the renovation plans. Several times, salespeople have asked if I am the decorator because they are impressed with my choices.
8) I have been getting into meditation, and I am proud of myself for sticking with it. It improves my quality of life 1000%.
9) I am a great roommate, which my roommate tells me all the time. I cook, I shop, I meal plan, and I clean (although I don't do all of it).
10). I am a fantastic girlfriend. I do my best to be supportive of my BF, both when he was job hunting and now that he has one he hates (he was very supportive the whole 18 months of my last job with the toxic boss). And I have helped him out financially quite a bit while he was a PhD student and not getting paid and not legally allowed to work.

ETA: Brevity is not one of my good qualities, apparently.

[udscoobychick]

1. I am a great friend. I've been known to drop everything and show up at a friend's house with wine and chocolate when she's having a bad day.
2. I don't owe anybody anything. I paid for my car in full, I never took out student loans, and I have never carried a balance on my CC.
3. I am a flipping awesome baker/cook.
4. I'm really strong. I can grab the top of a doorjam with my fingertips and do pull ups.
5. I'm good at my job. I got put in charge of a task when I had only been there 6 months, and I have people with higher degrees and more experience working under me for it.
6. I'm a good GF. I cook for BF, and I drove his son into town for dance lessons every week last summer while I was unemployed, since BF had to work.
7. I'm smart.
8. I'm confident.
9. I'm getting much better at teaching. I teach dance, and I'm getting better at explaining the moves and breaking them down. The owner of the studio said that she has seen a lot of improvement in my teaching, which is awesome.
10. I'm sexy (and I know it). The general consensus among my male friends is that I'm not "hot" in a conventional sense, but that I have a quiet sexiness, and the more you get to know me, the sexier I seem.

[letyourselfgo]

1. I am finally taking care of myself, and making an effort to look presentable.

2. I am working at a job that I LOVE to pieces and that hasn't really happened before. Yay!

3. I learned how to fish.....and that's what I like to do on Saturdays.....go trout fishing....alone.

4. (An extension of #3) I've realized that even though I am not in a relationship and am not dating for the foreseeable future.....I'm still as much of a kick butt person anyway.

5. I'm not afraid to stand up for myself and speak out....even if people may disagree. Goodbye People Pleaser! Hello Confident, Sassy Woman!

6. I am sweet as pie. It's true. Okay....when I'm not snarking on people.

7. I have a great therapist that I really click with.

8. Finally got the correct diagnosis.....after years of off the mark diagnoses.

9. I am a strong, capable woman who is learning to be comfortable with being me. Even though I am not perfect.

10. I am whip smart.

[stephbfan]

1. I'm a fast learner. I have been able to learn languages pretty easily when I see other people struggling.

2. I'm a good mom.

3. I no longer have a low self esteem. I used to focus on the fact that I was over weight. I used to go from BF to BF so I would feel self worth. I was a mess.

4. Last year I decided to be more physically active and took up tennis. I have been doing it for 9 months and I dont see myself stopping any time soon.

5. I moved to my own place with DD and I'm trying to eat healthier.

6. I'm a good friend, I'm a good listener and I'm straight forward and honest.

7. I have a good heart and I will help people even if it means I'm sacrificing something. I took my cousins daughter who is 2y/o and I got her medical treatment for several months out of my pocket. Until that bitch made me give her back to her even though she has no way to support her or her other 3 children.

8. I love that I have a good relationship with my ex and we put DD's interest first.

9. I feel good being on my own. I haven't dated anyone since my ex and I don't feel the need to find anyone. If someone comes along great, if not I will be fine too.

10. I'm a great dancer.

[jade28]

1. I found my new place all by myself and I love it. I really held out for what I wanted for myself. It is by far my favorite place I have ever lived and gives me the kind of life I always wanted.

2. I made a whole new set of friends after the divorce that I love and accept me as I am. It took guts to go out by myself and meet people but I did it and am so happy with all the social activities I have now.

3. I got accepted into GW grad school.

4. I am a darn good writer and hope to start submitting creative nonfiction pieces and lyrics to contests and publications.

5. I am finally dating someone that actually likes me! I know what I deserve now and what I want from someone.

6. I am not nearly as bad as a people pleaser as I used to be. I can say no a lot more and I do what I want...even it means hurting people.

7. I got to strenuous level on hiking and have challenged myself physically with my hiking. I LOVE hiking and am so glad I got back into it. It challenges me and empowers me.

8. I survived crazy surgery and recovery on my own and am now healthier than ever! YAY!

9. Before meeting D, I could honestly say I was happy being solo and single. I have still been able to maintain my own activities and independence while dating and that makes me happy.

10. I finally have some of my passion, excitement and goofiness back that I thought I lost forever.

[lovelybb]

1. I bought my own house that I love! It's awesome!!!

2. I've learned to set boundaries with my friends and D so I don't feel like I'm being taken advantage of... I still slip from time to time, but I've learned to listen to my gut and if I feel like I shouldn't give in, then I don't.

3. I'm a great photographer

4. I'm a great friend.

5. I tend to give really good advice which is why I'm thinking about going back to school to be a counselor.

6. I'm insightful

7. I have a wicked sense of humor

8. I am an excellent partner

9. I enjoy my own company

10. I run half-marathons... not well, but I do it!!!

[achase123]

Great post!

1) I'm a really good cook-I love to bake and have people over for dinner or wine and appetizers. One of my specialties is baked brie with sundried tomatoes and pesto-yum!!!

2) I am in really good shape because working out and eating healthy are very important to me.

3) I'm a truly loyal and great friend

4) I'm very outgoing and social

5) I will speak the truth even if it hurts sometimes

6) I have learned to not regret anything and that everything happens for a reason so that makes me positive as well as realistic about life.

7) I'm a hardworker and very dedicated in what I do

8) I'm incredibly stubborn so if I put my mind to something I usually accomplish it

9) I am very close with my family and make an effort to see them as much as possible

10) I am a great mom!

[doriswe]

1. I'm awesome and practically a ninja!
2. I am the most emotionally sound I've ever been thanks to a fantabulous counselor who called me out on my shit and allowed me to focus on me for once
3. I'm a damn good mom and I've been told by a lot of people how well behaved my kids are
4. I am extremely loyal and a great friend
5. I have recently started living outside of my box and am taking new risks and loving it!!
6. I'm a damn good social worker and I love that I get paid for hanging out with people and allowing them to share pieces of their lives with me.
7. I have awesome boobs!
8. I'm really fucking funny...and if you don't agree, you suck!!
9. I'm smart
10. I have a weird knack for remembering useless stuff (zip codes, directions, weird facts about people!)
11. I am really in a good place in my life and am finally able to appreciate all of the amazing people in it!!

[hobs209]

1. I'm really funny. I've always wondered if I'm actually funny or if it was just my ex that liked my sense of humor, but I've had a couple of friends (and my ex's friends) cracking up this entire trip.
2. I look the best that I have in years.
3. I don't just dream of changing the world, I do it. I've improved many peoples' lives already and I'm just getting started.
4. I have a really, really big heart.
5. I'm an awesome dog mom and pit bull advocate.
6. I love myself enough to get the help I need to move forward in a healthy way.
7. I have a great relationship with my family.
8. I'm pretty active and always game for trying new things.
9. I'm a smartie pants when it comes to things I care about. Math is another story.
10. I have a lot of insight and self-awareness that I think is serving me well right now.