Weekend happenings?

[dixienormous]

Saturday we ran errands. I got to go to the eye doc and we went to Costco to get my frames. I was SHOCKED at the prices. I got 3 (yes, THREE) pairs of glasses - 2 regular and 1 sunglasses) for less than the cost of 1 pair of Lenscrafters that I usually get. Even with my horrible prescription. I was so excited. I also got some super cute shoes from Costco.

Saturday evening H made ribs (8 freakin' pounds of St. Louis ribs). They were incredible. Luckily one of our friends was able to come up and help us eat. We polished off a rack and a half, sent her home with half a rack and then finished the last rack last night. We also had corn bread muffins, baked beans, corn, cole slaw and potato salad.

Yesterday H had to study. It was his birthday and Father's Day and he shoo'd me and PF out for the day so he could work. We had a low key evening last night and ended the weekend on a high note.

[cuddlyevil]

Saturday we had a pleasant surprise, the roofers came and replaced the roof on the garage. They were done in less than 6 hours too. MIL picked up the kids because they were spending the night over there. DH got home late, but was ready in enough time that we were able to see a movie.

Sunday we were supposed to get the kids early, but then were told to delay. So we ran a couple errands, then got the kids. We then went shopping, DD & I went to DSW for some shoes (I am wearing my new work pair right now but have to return the ones I bought to go with the graduation dress) and DH & the boys went to Dick's. Then we did our grocery shopping and then we went home to ear linner.

DH took a nap, while he was sleeping I got the kids in bed and watched masterpiece mystery. Then he got up and did laundry and watched the wire.

[Muddled]

We went to ameliapond's for a bbq. Fun times.

I really need to make an eye appt. I am long overdue. ugh.

[dixienormous]

Jun 17, 2013 9:30:52 GMT -5 Muddled said:

We went to ameliapond's for a bbq. Fun times.

I really need to make an eye appt. I am long overdue. ugh.

I'm sad that I wasn't able to make it to her BBQ. We need to plan another GTG

[Deleted]

We watched This is 40 on Friday night - terrible and depressing movie. Just have another baby and stay in a miserable marriage! Yeah! Oh we love each other so that solves all our issues! I think we should have opted for Dijango.

I had a busy weekend with the dog rescue - helped out at their adopt-a-thon on Saturday and DH and I hung out with some of the people I have met from the group at a local winery. It was fun! I told the girl I work with directly about our situation with the Murph and I am worried she thinks less of me now, I hope not. I really like her.

Yesterday I took our current foster pup to some training to help him through some of his anxious behaviors. It was 90 degrees and outside for two hours, so the poor guy was exhausted and not feeling so great. He did well though and now I have listed him on the website to see if I can find someone who is similar to us that will work with him on his issues.

[captainmel]

WHY ARE WE NOT PIP-ING ALL OF THESE NEW SHOES?!?!?! Ahem... I like shoes and want to live vicariously through you.

I sort of already talked about my weekend, Saturday was actually still fun even though I fucked up my already fucked up ankle. I really enjoy hiking and I sort of forget how accessible or is where I live. I live in such a pretty area. I should go hiking every weekend.

Also, while we were hiking a red tailed hawk swooped about 4 feet away from us. I love birds.

Sunday was really nice until the whole ER trip thing. We had a gread lunch with Boyfriends family, then we had dinner and a movie with my family.

[motzie]

H had to study most of the weekend, but I managed to keep A entertained enough so I could get some things done around the house. I had some houseplants that needed some attending to, and our outdoor furniture still wasn't quite set up. So now the deck is spiffed up for the season. Hopefully it will stop raining long enough to use it. That and some other cleaning made me feel a bit better about the status of our house.

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Jun 17, 2013 9:30:52 GMT -5 Muddled said:

We went to ameliapond's for a bbq. Fun times.

How did it go? 

[cuddlyevil]

These are the ones that are going back:
Got them in pewter{/url]

I am wearing these in black right now:
They're on clearance.

[Muddled]

Jun 17, 2013 10:42:54 GMT -5 doglove said:

Jun 17, 2013 9:30:52 GMT -5 Muddled said:

We went to ameliapond's for a bbq. Fun times.

How did it go? 

It was fun! Of course, when we first walked in, she was nowhere to be seen and it was completely awkward, but some drinks and getting introduced to cosmos saved me.

[partiallysunny]

Sunday I had a cousin's graduation party to go to. It was really fun and I got to see family I don't usually see.

Saturday we went to the ILs for a BBQ. I tried calling my dad, but he didn't answer and he never called back. We got home and the kid and I took a nap. H said it was the best Father's Day present we could have given him, lol. Peace and quite for two hours.

I talked to someone about a place we were looking at moving to (someone from the area)... got bad news and now I feel like I'm at square one. Blah.

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Jun 17, 2013 10:55:16 GMT -5 Muddled said:

Jun 17, 2013 10:42:54 GMT -5 doglove said:

How did it go? 

It was fun! Of course, when we first walked in, she was nowhere to be seen and it was completely awkward, but some drinks and getting introduced to cosmos saved me.

Haha yeah, I hear ya, my weekend outing was similar at first, but it dissipated quickly. 

[neonpink]

This weekend was so much fun. Friday I went to dinner and came across a surprise beach party. They closed the entire downtown area and filled it full of sand, live music and beach drinks. Saturday I got to ride with a pro driver on a track in an Ariel Atom. It was intense and amazing. Last night I went to a Braves game with my Inlaws and SIL, BILS and my parents and brother. It was great. It was one of those perfect weekends.

[imoan]

We ended up getting a showing request after mr. imoan had already left for the cabin for the weekend. So my ILs picked Lorelai up and took her to a picnic at my MIL's bff's house while I got to clean the house. It wasn't too bad because I've been good at keeping the clutter at bay as I'm on maternity leave... but I was still PIIIIISSED that it was the THIRD time I had to clean the house to get it show-ready all by myself (last two times, we got last minute requests while mr. imoan was at work).

Yesterday, I drove around with Lorelai as we waited for the people to look at our house... got coffee, I got my car washed and vacuumed it. By the time we got home, mr. imoan was back from the cabin. We went down to my dad's house for a bit and then went to the IL's house for dinner.

Next weekend will be EXPONENTIALLY better (hint: dixienormous and Le Petite Fleur are coming to see me and Miss L!!!)

[Muddled]

Jun 17, 2013 11:59:50 GMT -5 imoan said:

We ended up getting a showing request after mr. imoan had already left for the cabin for the weekend. So my ILs picked Lorelai up and took her to a picnic at my MIL's bff's house while I got to clean the house. It wasn't too bad because I've been good at keeping the clutter at bay as I'm on maternity leave... but I was still PIIIIISSED that it was the THIRD time I had to clean the house to get it show-ready all by myself (last two times, we got last minute requests while mr. imoan was at work).

Yesterday, I drove around with Lorelai as we waited for the people to look at our house... got coffee, I got my car washed and vacuumed it. By the time we got home, mr. imoan was back from the cabin. We went down to my dad's house for a bit and then went to the IL's house for dinner.

Next weekend will be EXPONENTIALLY better (hint: dixienormous and Le Petite Fleur are coming to see me and Miss L!!!)

Fun!!!

[captainmel]

neonpink - Do you have pictures of the Atom? Boyfriend is pretty obsessed with that car and I like it quite a lot too. Was it a V8 or the 6 cylinder? I am jealous!!!!

[partiallysunny]

Jun 17, 2013 10:53:23 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

These are the ones that are going back:
Got them in pewter{/url]

I am wearing these in black right now:
They're on clearance.

I love the black ones!

[gault]

I was stressed out this weekend but also had fun - went to a music festival, hung out with puppy guy, hung out with the fam. Today is better, mood-wise. I got my period early which didn't help the mood thing.

[cuddlyevil]

Jun 17, 2013 14:49:55 GMT -5 partiallysunny said:

Jun 17, 2013 10:53:23 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

These are the ones that are going back:
Got them in pewter{/url]

I am wearing these in black right now:
They're on clearance.

I love the black ones!

Thanks! Me too They are pretty comfy.

[neonpink]

Jun 17, 2013 13:17:59 GMT -5 captainmel said:

neonpink - Do you have pictures of the Atom? Boyfriend is pretty obsessed with that car and I like it quite a lot too. Was it a V8 or the 6 cylinder? I am jealous!!!!

It was the Spec Racer so it's just for Track Days. I have sat in the Street Legal one and now ridden/sat in a Spec Racer.  It's based on the Ariel Atom 3, but a few things are changed for the track.

TMI was on site when they delivered them. They brought 6 to live at the Atlanta Motorsports Park.

www.arielatom.com/race_an_atom-buy.php

I do have some pictures but I don't know how to post them! I was the first one to go. I was so excited. It was an unbelievable rush.

[tiramisu]

The best part of my weekend was the foot reflexology massage. And surprising my dad by showing up on Friday night when I purposely led him to believe I wouldn't be there until Saturday.

[captainmel]

That really is excellent neonpink.

[starrieskies]

I know I'm super late posting today, I've tried to pop in here and there, but it's been really busy today!

This weekend was full of ups and downs for me.

I finally got to have that uncomfortable conversation with H. I very calmly told him that his behavior during last week's "incident" was ridiculous and inappropriate. He surprisingly stayed calm as well, but insists that his behavior was justified and he did nothing wrong. I told him that we'll have to agree to disagree in this instance, but if it happens again, it will be a different story. Then DS and I went to a party and left H at home.

Saturday was pretty quiet and mellow, H was gone all day so it was just me and the munchkin. It was really nice until DS climbed up on the couch next to me and put his head on my shoulder and said with heavy sigh, "Mommy, I miss Daddy..." It broke my heart...

Sunday, I ran a couple of errands, and while DS was taking a nap I did my 3 mile walk. I decided to start on Sunday so I could time myself and guage how early I needed to get up today. The walk felt great, but by the time I got back home I had huge blisters on the backs of my heels and spent a fair amount of time standing in DS's pool "cooling my heels".

I did get up this morning and walk again, but only did 2 miles instead of 3 because it hurt my feet. I'm not sure what to do about this issue... I REALLY want to make this walking/jogging thing work, but it's discouraging that my feet hurt.

[Muddled]

starrieskies- I think I missed something. You ok?

Please remember that if you do end your marriage, you will not be taking Daddy away from DS. They will probably actually spend a lot more time together than they do now.

May I recommend moleskin and better socks? Are you sure your new shoes fit well? Running shoes shouldn't have a break-in period. I am proud of you for walking.

[starrieskies]

yeah, I'm ok. Thanks for asking. I kind of skirted around the issue, and never really explained last week. H lost his temper with DS last week, and it freaked me out. I had to have the "I will not tolerate this behavior around DS" talk and try to explain (again) that DS looks to us to learn how to act, and if we stomp and scream and throw fits, that's what he's going to do. I'm easily intimidated by H's temper, so I can only imagine how it would appear to a 4 year old!

I took notes on everything that happened and brought my journal to work so it's in a safe place. At this point once we leave I would really like to see H go through some anger management counseling before he is allowed to have unsupervised visits with DS, but I'm not sure how realistic that is... Its something I need to talk to my lawyer about.

I'll try the moleskin, and some new socks too. I'm hoping the foot pain can be remedied with something like that, and I won't have to buy new shoes. But it is entirely possible that they don't fit right. I didn't go in and get myself fitted for them, I just bought them off the shelf.

[Muddled]

You may be able to take your shoes back. It's worth a try.

As for the husband... well, you know how we feel about this one. Anything custody related definitely needs to go through your lawyer, but you know there are some posters on SO that have experiences with this. The main thing is that it sounds like you have made a threat and I do hope that you are prepared to act on it.

Wasn't July the month you were aiming for? It's so close.

[partiallysunny]

starrieskies Just remember, you are not taking your son away from your husband. Just because you are making the decision to leave does not mean it's your fault.

You know you have our full support. Are you any closer to moving forward?

Edit: And yeah for walking!!! It could be your shoes? Or maybe you just did 'too much' for your first time walking?

[starrieskies]

yes, I was shooting for July. Unfortunately, it's looking more like August. I think that's one of the reasons that last week's incident hit me so hard. I'd just had lunch with my mom to touch bases on our plan earlier that day, and she basically told me that I'd have to sit tight a little bit longer. But if H is losing his temper again, I don't know that I want to wait that long.

He's been pretty good at keeping it under control until last week. I know everyone loses their temper sometimes, and I'm not upset that he gets mad, what bothers me is how he behaves when he's mad. Of course, every time I bring it up, it is my fault because I'm not hard enough on him and if I stepped up and disciplined him more we wouldn't have this problem. Not that I believe that for a second, because I do discipline my child, but that's what H tells me to deflect the blame for his own actions.

[tiramisu]

starrieskies, if you need to leave sooner, do. There are places you can go, though the idea probably sounds less than ideal. I'm sure there's a shelter in your general area where you two could stay until things align with your family. You can call the national domestic violence hotline for referrals to services in your area or you can call the YWCA, if you have one locally or local-ish.

There may also be shelters for families without any domestic violence qualifier. I don't know resource numbers in your area, but a quick googling may give you that. They also can hook you up with all kind of resources, including counseling, maybe referrals to subsidized day care, foods stamps if necessary, etc. There are resources out there for you. If you want to PM me your general location, I can try to find some numbers for you, so your search history stays clear.

[starrieskies]

Thanks tiramisu. I've actually been doing some research at the library on my lunch breaks and have made some phone calls too. You're right, it's not ideal, but its something.

I recently reconnected with my best friend from high school as well. She lives in the same town as my parents, and has been really supportive. She may let me stay there for a little while until I can do something more permanent as well. I'm trying to schedule a lunch date with her to kind of "feel it out". As of right now, that would be my ideal solution if I'm not able to go to my parents' house for a while.