GG Is Staying Here

[orriskitten]

I had it out with my grandmother yesterday and it wasn't pretty.

She said that once GG dies she has nothing to live for. Do you know how tired I am of people not wanting to stick around for me and my child? How hard it is to hear from people you bend over backwards that they just don't give a shit about being there for you? So I had the last ounce of patience. I don't care that she is in pain, that she survived cancer, you grab hold to the people around you, you don't use them and then tell them they don't matter.

Anyway... took GG to a home that we decided she is not going to in order to get a certain piece of paperwork (a PRI) and when we got out of the car to go in, GG got so scared. She started to cry and say she didn't want to go in. We explained that she would not be staying and that we would just be getting paperwork. So we got in and got the paperwork done and left. My grandmother decided to keep fighting in the car and I called her on some shit which she informed me "she forgave herself." Well bully for you. She then went on to say how she doesn't judge people (ha!)and I told her that I guess she is just a better person than me. She badly abused my mom as a child and she had every excuse in the book, and then she tried to hurt me by telling me things I supposedly didn't know about my mom. Except I did know and I saw right through why she was saying what she did.

Maybe its just me, but you don't take out a PINS on your 13 year old child and give them up. Yes, my mom did bad things, but you don't turn your back on your child. Then when you have shit with your grown child, you don't refuse to leave their house forcing your child and grandchild to leave- multiple times.

So I said what she did to my mom aside, she hurt me plenty and she wouldn't acknowledge it.

Whatever, fuck her. DH is probably going to call her and have it out with her.

GG is staying here until we go to Iceland on July 11th (will be going into a home temporarily while we are gone) and then she will be coming back here. I will not let her be verbally abused by a bitch who has issues. (She was so oblivious to how much she hurt GG. I'll admit, I took joy in telling her that her shit treatment of GG makes her question if her own daughter loves her.) And since she is so scared of being in a home, I cannot do that to her. She deserves better.

Hershey ladies, jfh, Regina Philange do either of you want my room at the hotel? Its very unlikely that we will be going.

[katfco]

I'm sorry it's working out that way. Can you maybe revisit the idea of a home with your great-grandmother at a later time? What changed from the time you made the plans to now that made her afraid?

[orriskitten]

Jun 21, 2013 7:45:49 GMT -5 katfco said:

I'm sorry it's working out that way. Can you maybe revisit the idea of a home with your great-grandmother at a later time? What changed from the time you made the plans to now that made her afraid?

We definitely will. She will have to be in a home while we're in Iceland so we don't have a choice. If she is thriving, then we will talk about her staying.

[mrsjaymay]

I'm sorry lady. ((hugs))

[Dorothy Zbornak]

I cannot believe how fucking strong you are for being SO. YOUNG.

You are AWESOME, AWESOME, AWESOME, and never let that hosebeast of a tattooed Grandma of yours ever tell you any different.

[orriskitten]

Jun 21, 2013 8:13:02 GMT -5 Dorothy Zbornak said:

I cannot believe how fucking strong you are for being SO. YOUNG.

You are AWESOME, AWESOME, AWESOME, and never let that hosebeast of a tattooed Grandma of yours ever tell you any different.

Seriously, you just made me tear up a bit.

Thank you, kind internet stranger/potentially creepy dude in a basement who pretends to have children

No, seriously, I think sometimes I just need to hear that because the people who should be saying it just don't. Except DH. I think if he were religious he would deserve a sainthood. This has been putting strain on us, but he understands. He is happy to have gg here as long as grandma backs off.

[Dorothy Zbornak]

Jun 21, 2013 8:20:33 GMT -5 orriskitten said:

Jun 21, 2013 8:13:02 GMT -5 Dorothy Zbornak said:

I cannot believe how fucking strong you are for being SO. YOUNG.

You are AWESOME, AWESOME, AWESOME, and never let that hosebeast of a tattooed Grandma of yours ever tell you any different.

Seriously, you just made me tear up a bit.

Thank you, kind internet stranger/potentially creepy dude in a basement who pretends to have children

No, seriously, I think sometimes I just need to hear that because the people who should be saying it just don't. Except DH. I think if he were religious he would deserve a sainthood. This has been putting strain on us, but he understands. He is happy to have gg here as long as grandma backs off.

I should have said it a long time ago; I think it every time you post stuff like this.

But then either my mom called me upstairs for dinner or my blow-up sex doll Shanda started deflating ....

Oh. I've said too much.

[kdrake8]

Jun 21, 2013 8:13:02 GMT -5 Dorothy Zbornak said:

I cannot believe how fucking strong you are for being SO. YOUNG.

You are AWESOME, AWESOME, AWESOME, and never let that hosebeast of a tattooed Grandma of yours ever tell you any different.

Mobile like to this. This Is absolutely 100% the truth. Never forget that.

[cat19]

I'm so sorry that this is continuing like this. If there is a hell, I'm fairly sure your Grandmother has a ticket on the express train. You have been amazing through all of this - your great grandmother needs you in her life, and even though you are sacrificing so much you are doing all the right things. I need to come out with the girls (or just the little one if it's after camp starts next week) and do something.

(((hugs)))

[Regina Philange]

You are such a strong woman. I am sorry you are going through all this! We have a hotel for Saturday but thanks so much for the offer. I am bummed i wont be meeting you though!

[orriskitten]

Jun 24, 2013 8:55:36 GMT -5 Regina Philange said:

You are such a strong woman. I am sorry you are going through all this! We have a hotel for Saturday but thanks so much for the offer. I am bummed i wont be meeting you though!

we will plan something soon! How far are you from great adventure?

[Regina Philange]

Jun 24, 2013 9:36:23 GMT -5 orriskitten said:

Jun 24, 2013 8:55:36 GMT -5 Regina Philange said:

You are such a strong woman. I am sorry you are going through all this! We have a hotel for Saturday but thanks so much for the offer. I am bummed i wont be meeting you though!

we will plan something soon! How far are you from great adventure?

Not far at all! Usually its 45ish minutes if we stay at the shore but its not there this year because of stupid Sandy. Its 1.5 hours from my house so i can shoot over there anytime.

[Regina Philange]

Jun 24, 2013 9:36:23 GMT -5 orriskitten said:

Jun 24, 2013 8:55:36 GMT -5 Regina Philange said:

You are such a strong woman. I am sorry you are going through all this! We have a hotel for Saturday but thanks so much for the offer. I am bummed i wont be meeting you though!

we will plan something soon! How far are you from great adventure?

We should get wine in Warwick soon too!

[orriskitten]

Jun 24, 2013 9:47:52 GMT -5 Regina Philange said:

Jun 24, 2013 9:36:23 GMT -5 orriskitten said:

we will plan something soon! How far are you from great adventure?

We should get wine in Warwick soon too!

Yes to both! I haven't been to hurricane harbor since I was 12. I wasn't to be in a lazy river at a water park so. Bad. Our drive is probably the same as yours, give or take some.

[Regina Philange]

There is nothing more i want to do right at this moment then be in a lazy river.