What to do with STBXH's belongs??

[raine424]

Jun 22, 2013 8:04:18 GMT -5 @godawgs said:

What a douche.  I'm glad you are leaving him because he is really a jerk.  Good for you.

I would box up his things and put it in a storage unit, paying for one month.  Just make sure you don't sign a contract where they will send you to collections or something if the stuff is still there after one month and you don't pay.  Send him a letter telling him that the unit is paid through X date and he needs to come pick up the items.  If the storage unit is cheap, then maybe consider paying for it until you hire a lawyer and receive advice on the issue.  Just make sure that the worst thing the storage place can do is sell the stuff if you don't pay because you don't want to be stuck having to move it again or it hurting your credit if you stop paying.

If the storage unit isn't feasible, then I'd send him a certified letter that his belongings are packed up, you move on X date, and he needs to get his things prior to that date.  Let him know you are firm on the issue.  If there are a few things that are clearly sentimental then I would go ahead and send those to him.

I think it's best to always take the high road, not let yourself get walked all over, but also do a bit more than necessary so if the other person bitches and moans to the judge it is clear that they are an ass and you really tried to accommodate them.

Thanks for the advice. I will definitely consider the storage unit and sending that letter to him. I am trying to take the high road as much as possible. I have been beyond nice in all contact that I have had with him even though I really really didn't want to be. I am trying to be as accommodating as possible. I am praying that will look good during court. 

[raine424]

Jun 22, 2013 8:12:54 GMT -5 livinitup said:

Who's to say what he left behind? His lease is up on July 31st. Beyond what may or may not have gone on between you two this year, he will no longer have a legal right to store items on this property. He knows this. You have informed him several times. His refusal to make arrangements doesn't make it your problem to solve. His demands that you photo, sort and send it to him doesn't make it your problem to solve.

If you leave it for your landlord, you are going to loose your security deposit.

I would sell anything I could get money for. The camping stuff sounds promising. I'd inform him by certified mail that you will leave all of it in the designated trash/rubbish spot on July 31st unless he makes his own arrangements otherwise. Your lease is up. Storage is over. Come get your shit or it goes out.

He's going to bite you in the ass a hundred different ways before this divorce is over. What's stopping him from claiming he left behind a $1K Rolex watch? Or a vintage comic book? Nothing. Deal with the facts in front of you. He doesn't have proof of what he left behind. Don't give him any. Don't take pictures. Good luck moving forward.

Good point. That's what I was worried about with leaving everything behind at the apartment. I won't leave it to the landlords. I never planned to give him photos. When he made the demand I was not emotionally-stable enough to go through with that anyways. I am praying he doesn't try to claim that he had stuff here that really wasn't here. I honestly wouldn't put anything past him. I think today I'm going to go through his stuff and take pictures of what is really hear for my own records that way I know what is here and he can't screw me over in that part. 

[raine424]

Jun 22, 2013 9:24:30 GMT -5 vanillacourage said:

Jun 22, 2013 8:13:41 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

I'd leave it in the apartment, Let the landlord deal with it, and then never look back.

Please don't do this. I'm a landlord and in many states the LL has to jump through all sorts of hurdles (certified notices, storing items in a secure place, holding a publicized public auction if the value is over $300.....) to get rid of stuff. It's not right to pass that headache on to your LL, plus if it happened to me you can bet I'd retain the security deposit plus give you a really bad reference when called by your future prospective LL's.

I would do what other ladies have suggested about putting it in the mail to him C.O.D., or storing it for one month. Sorry you're going through this.

Don't worry, I'm not planning on leaving it at the apartment. I like my landlord way too much to do that to her. I'm planning on the storage unit or mailing it to him. Thanks for the advice though. 

[AHappierHour]

Ship him those 6 boxes, pay for it and then put it in your divorce that he owes you the shipping fee.