things you shouldn't say to a pregnant woman.

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"i KNEW you were having a boy before you even told me.  your face is so much fuller this time and you're retaining water."



this was a person who works in my building (not a colleague).  can i get her banned?  the security guards like me.

[sonrisa]

WTF?

Plus: Isn't it "girls steal your beauty"? "I knew you were having a boy" should be a compliment followed by "because you look so fantastic!"

[missajane]

The only thing to say to a pregnant woman is "I knew you were having a boy.  I have these weird feelings.  And by the way, you are the most stunning person I've ever met!"

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Jun 24, 2013 20:21:10 GMT -5 sonrisa said:

WTF?

Plus: Isn't it "girls steal your beauty"? "I knew you were having a boy" should be a compliment followed by "because you look so fantastic!"

not this time.  apparently my whale-sized ankles and moon face were too obvious to ignore.  yes, she mentioned my ankles.

[underwaterrhymes]

People just don't think.

I had a guy in my building say, "Due around Christmas?"

I laughed and told him March.

He said, "No. I think definitely Christmas."

Motherfucker.

[Deleted]

I assumed this was a comment from Crazy Cat Lady Secretary until I got to the end of your post. WTF, lady? WTF??

[cookie510]

Ugh that's terrible.

H's aunt said something like that to me at my baby shower, screw you lady.

[LeggsBenedict]

what an asshole!

[Deleted]

"So what's your excuse?" would have been an appropriate reply.

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Jun 24, 2013 20:24:44 GMT -5 @weeble said:

I assumed this was a comment from Crazy Cat Lady Secretary until I got to the end of your post. WTF, lady? WTF??

no.  she works in the little restaurant.  TO BE CLEAR, I WAS BUYING A COFFEE.  i wasn't buying a danish even.  i hate her because now when i don't want shitty flavia coffee at the office i'm going to have to walk across the street to starbucks and pay too much for a decent cuppa.


crazy cat lady is afraid to acknowledge my pregnancy within earshot, but i heard (because she's so freaking loud) her asking someone when i was due and making those old lady "aww" cutesy noises.  my due date is cute!  but i am scary (i guess).  and also bloated, apparently.

[rupertpenny]

I am too sensitive, I don't even like compliments. Whenever people tell me I look great I always hear it with a tone of surprise, like they expected me to look like shit and are slightly disappointed that I don't.

I just wish everyone would ignore the fact that I'm obviously pregnant.

[VeryViolet]

I keep getting are you sure there aren't twins in there. This is fucked up on so many levels for me personally and regardless a dick thing to say.

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Jun 24, 2013 20:27:25 GMT -5 cville said:

Jun 24, 2013 20:24:44 GMT -5 @weeble said:

I assumed this was a comment from Crazy Cat Lady Secretary until I got to the end of your post. WTF, lady? WTF??

no.  she works in the little restaurant.  TO BE CLEAR, I WAS BUYING A COFFEE.  i wasn't buying a danish even.  i hate her because now when i don't want shitty flavia coffee at the office i'm going to have to walk across the street to starbucks and pay too much for a decent cuppa.


crazy cat lady is afraid to acknowledge my pregnancy within earshot, but i heard (because she's so freaking loud) her asking someone when i was due and making those old lady "aww" cutesy noises.  my due date is cute!  but i am scary (i guess).  and also bloated, apparently.

Dude, I hate flavia.  Luckily, Starbucks was downstairs so I didn't have to travel far.  But yes, I understand the NEED to escape the flavia.  But seriously, eff her and her dumb opinions.  Get your coffee downstairs and shoot her the evil eye while you're doing it.  And LOL at your cute due date. Awww!

[Moe]

I'm seriously happy it wasn't stuffed cat lady. Because I was getting ready to cut a bitch.

Though this one deserves it too.

I'm sorry people are insensitive.

[rex]

Jun 24, 2013 20:27:51 GMT -5 rupertpenny said:

I am too sensitive, I don't even like compliments. Whenever people tell me I look great I always hear it with a tone of surprise, like they expected me to look like shit and are slightly disappointed that I don't.

I just wish everyone would ignore the fact that I'm obviously pregnant.

I feel the same. I wish people would just say nothing. I feel self-conscious enough already, people.

[Deleted]

i'm with you other pregnants. let's stop talking about how i appear (good or bad) while carrying my (beloved) parasite and just talk about the weather or baseball or something.

[osulori]

People lose their filters (if they had them in the first place) and any sense of what is polite/appropriate in the presence of a pregnant woman, I swear. A couple of gems I've gotten-"Are you sure you're not having twins?" (Yes, we're sure. I just had my anatomy scan FFS. What you're seeing is one human baby and one food baby because I just ate lunch) and "Oh, you're getting big. I bet you'll end up on bed rest or go early." (Said at not even 30 weeks. Yes, because either prospect is a good thing and something you should "bet" on.) Not surprisingly, both came from the same person. Along with a few other lines that make me want to bang my head against the wall.

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Jun 24, 2013 20:27:04 GMT -5 @beagle said:

What the fuck?

I hope she gets massive diarrhea and her emergency pants person is on vacation.

Winner!

And it's always other WOMEN, most who already have children!

Lets all take a vow. Never forget!

[Marle]

Stupid stupid clueless people!

I got the "you are definitely having a girl because of how wide your hips are".
Guess what bitch! it wasn't a girl!

[snickers]

What an ass.
Sorry you had to hear that

[jane6672]

When a woman has told me from her own mouth that she is expecting, I then feel free to say "you look amazing!"

Otherwise, say nothing.

[AHappierHour]

What a snatch! I hate the rude comments people make. I have a monthly bunko group and one lady said "wow your already so big" it made me feel like such crap.

[Jalapeñomel]

[sonrisa]

Jun 24, 2013 20:30:27 GMT -5 VeryViolet said:

I keep getting are you sure there aren't twins in there. This is fucked up on so many levels for me personally and regardless a dick thing to say.

I'm so sorry you have to deal with that. Hugs.

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Jun 24, 2013 20:46:39 GMT -5 sonrisa said:

Jun 24, 2013 20:30:27 GMT -5 VeryViolet said:

I keep getting are you sure there aren't twins in there. This is fucked up on so many levels for me personally and regardless a dick thing to say.

I'm so sorry you have to deal with that. Hugs.

agreed.

violet, just punch them right in the face. 

[rupertpenny]

Jun 24, 2013 20:46:52 GMT -5 luckydog said:

Jun 24, 2013 20:27:51 GMT -5 rupertpenny said:

I am too sensitive, I don't even like compliments. Whenever people tell me I look great I always hear it with a tone of surprise, like they expected me to look like shit and are slightly disappointed that I don't.

I just wish everyone would ignore the fact that I'm obviously pregnant.

I never know what to say if anything so I pretend the miracle of life is not happening. I got the feeling pregnant women appreciated that we could talk business without a baby preamble.

I know I appreciate it. I have a lot of other things going on in my life beside growing a person, and I would rather talk about those things. 

I was the same way when I was engaged, I HATED talking about my wedding. 

There is more to me than my relationship or gestational status people!

[VeryViolet]

Jun 24, 2013 20:47:25 GMT -5 cville said:

Jun 24, 2013 20:46:39 GMT -5 sonrisa said:

I'm so sorry you have to deal with that. Hugs.

agreed.

violet, just punch them right in the face.

Thanks, it's not like these assholes know anything that happened but every time I have to hold back tears and the laugh it off. Then I walk away and get the second realization that I must look huge. Why can't people just say, "you look WONDERFUL" pregnant or not that always makes me feel good.

[SKP82]

A bitch at work told me I was "really big" for 5 months pregnant. And that she wasn't even showing when she was 5 months along. She also threw out the "are you sure it's not twins?" stupidity. I wanted to throat punch her.

[iamgrace]

I hate people who told meI looked tired.

Really? I'm fucking 40 weeks pregnant with no end in sight (well, last week, lol). You do not say that to a pregnant woman.

You say YOU LOOK GREAT.

That's it. That's all you're allowed to say.

[kristie]

Well I must be having a boy then too. Lol. OMG, I am 9 wks and 4 days and I have gained 8 pounds. 8!!!!! I gained 30 the whole time with the last one.