I keep having dreams with my ex

[stephbfan]

I always dream that I want to go back with him and he doesn't want me.
In most dreams he has a GF prettier than I am and it makes me feel bad (in the dream).

Last night I wanted to kiss him and he wouldn't let me and I kept saying just a little kiss lol.

It will be four years and I'm still having dreams with him. I am 100% in real life that I don't want to be with him so these dreams are weird to me lol.

[letyourselfgo]

I don't dream of my Ex-H or Ex-FI. I DO, however, dream of the guy I was in love with for about five years when I was in my late teens/early twenties who never reciprocated my feelings.

How is that for WTF?

[stephbfan]

Jun 14, 2012 16:48:46 GMT -5 letyourselfgo said:

I don't dream of my Ex-H or Ex-FI. I DO, however, dream of the guy I was in love with for about five years when I was in my late teens/early twenties who never reciprocated my feelings.

How is that for WTF?

You know whats the difference, that after a dream of mine, I have actually have to deal with him pretty much on a daily basis.
He is coming to pick up DD at the end of the month and is staying at my place. I'm going to keep playing the kiss scene in my head when he is here.

[explorer2001]

I'm not sure what to say. Whenever I have a dream with exH in it he is trying to kill me, beating me, etc. Nothing surprising there since it just means I'm processing stuff about the abuse and it only happens after seeing him in person at events, after a counseling session focused on something like that, etc.

Good luck and hang in there.

[dakotadangerdog]

I have dreams about my xh and it's usually the exact same dream. We are divorced, but he's living with me and kind of trying to make it work. I always realize I just can't live like that and I have to tell him it's really over and he needs to move out. It's always really hard and he's sad and I hate making him sad. Which is weird cuz I was so glad to kick him out when I finally did haha. Completely different.

[starburst604]

After my ex-FI and I broke up, after I started in a new relationship I would keep dreaming about ex, in the context that we were back together but I couldn't figure out why and what had happened to my current BF! I always woke up in sort of a panic and so relieved it was just a dream. I still have similar dreams about exes when I'm in another relationship.

[doriswe]

Do you think it has anything to do with him coming your way to get DD soon? Not like you're wanting him in that way, but he's been on your mind because you're gearing up for his visit and for DD to leave again?

Not that any of that works with the kissing scenario!!

[stephbfan]

Jun 14, 2012 21:25:20 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Do you think it has anything to do with him coming your way to get DD soon? Not like you're wanting him in that way, but he's been on your mind because you're gearing up for his visit and for DD to leave again?
Not that any of that works with the kissing scenario!!

I dont know maybe? Sometimes these dreams come out of nowhere. People do tease me and keep saying that Valeria needs a sibling so some friends keep talking about it +o( .

[stephbfan]

Jun 14, 2012 17:19:45 GMT -5 explorer2001 said:

I'm not sure what to say. Whenever I have a dream with exH in it he is trying to kill me, beating me, etc. Nothing surprising there since it just means I'm processing stuff about the abuse and it only happens after seeing him in person at events, after a counseling session focused on something like that, etc.

Good luck and hang in there.

Wow, that is actually an awful dream!

[doriswe]

Jun 14, 2012 23:30:27 GMT -5 stephbfan said:

Jun 14, 2012 21:25:20 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Do you think it has anything to do with him coming your way to get DD soon? Not like you're wanting him in that way, but he's been on your mind because you're gearing up for his visit and for DD to leave again?
Not that any of that works with the kissing scenario!!

I dont know maybe? Sometimes these dreams come out of nowhere. People do tease me and keep saying that Valeria needs a sibling so some friends keep talking about it .

Well you two DO make beautiful babies

I know I have dreams about XH when I know there is some sort of out of the norm interaction that will take place. Thankfully, we're on a pretty low maintenance schedule, so it's few and far between!