I need to get my mojo back

[heyjojo]

JoJo needs her mojo!

It's been weeks since we DTD and was weeks before that time. I don't know if its me or him that's not interested. I feel like you girls are always talking about your husbands hounding you for sex, and that just doesn't happen here. It's always good (or sometimes just ok) when it happens, but I'm starting to feel like I'm sleeping in a bed with my room mate. That feeling sucks.
Also, sex only happens if one of us has had a bit to drink. Then it's like there's no "initiation" needed and we just do it. During normal day to day I feel like I have no idea how to make the move, and he definitely isn't either. It doesn't help that I have some pp body insecurities but I don't make that abundantly clear to him. I don't hide my body, I don't complain about it, and I try to carry myself with confidence. If I'm feeling really down, I will sometimes talk to him about it and he's always very supportive. Plus he looks amazing these days and it makes me want to either punch him, or screw him. Can't decide. Lol
Anyway, I guess we are in the dreaded rut. Any advice?

[unclejesse]

We get drunk and honry.

[heyjojo]

Hahaa yeah I was waiting for someone to tell me to just drink more.
If I happen to wake up and NOT have to nurse a baby in the MOTN then I will try the old sleeper move on him.
Silas is asleep in his own bed FOR ONCE and DF is just blissfully snoring away next to me. I kinda feel like we should be having sex right now, dammit.

[steph196]

We're right there with you. It sucks.

[biblionerd]

Well, our go-to was drinking. Sooooo... we've had sex once since conceiving this one. It was absolutely horrible. Like, the first time ever I was literally just staring at the ceiling wishing he would just get the fuck off of me. That bad. The next day he told me to please never have sex with him again unless I was in the mood. So we haven't had sex since. So I guess I'm no help.

[Dorothy Zbornak]

Um, Heyjojo ... have you not learned what can happen when you have sex around here?

Stay off the peen!

[devotchka]

you're not alone! we've been in a rut lately too. maybe watch some pr0n together or something? wear some skanky lingerie? my husband is really easy, but any actual effort i make, he loves.

[kdrake8]

Jul 16, 2013 0:23:57 GMT -5 Dorothy Zbornak said:

Um, Heyjojo ... have you not learned what can happen when you have sex around here?

Stay off the peen!

/dead.

[formerlyllizzyb]

I need a drink; h doesn't. But we're only having TTC sex. He works long hours, I'm tired, etc. it would be a problem if it were a problem, KWIM? But neither of us is crying in our cereal over it. I think we're ok with this chapter of life.

[muppetinma]

Masturbate. You can't expect to want to have sex with anybody if you don't want to sex yourself up. I know it sounds like a joke, but trust me on this one. Whenever DH and I go through a dry spell, this is my go-to resolution. It makes me feel horny, sexy, and in control, which revs up my sex drive in general.

I try to do it when DH doesn't know, but that's not always easy to do. The shower works well for that. But if DH does know, I'm upfront that it isn't foreplay and he doesn't get to watch. This is for me and me alone.

[katfco]

Have you talked to your H about it? DH was always waiting for me to make the first move, but eventually I managed to drill into his head that it doesn't work like that. He can't go days without touching me and then expect me to suddenly jump him, or to think that one good kiss at dinner time means I'll be in the mood 3 hours later. We had to talk about our expectations.

[heyjojo]

I have seen the damage the peen has done, DZ! I have an IUD though and that bitch better do her job.
muppetinma I DO that, often actually. That's why I was kinda feeling like well shit, I know my sex drive isn't down. I have a lot more time on my hands though :ahem: I just suck at being upfront about wanting to have sex. I've never had to "ask" for it before. I'm starting to think he's broken. Like for example, I wrote him I.O.U's for his birthday that included things like back rubs, movie of his choice, and sexual favors. 6 months later they are unused. Is he crazy, or what??!