Why is every discussion categorized as a mommy war? It's something people disagree about. That's all. No one's saying "Oh, you're a bad mom if you do this" or "you're crazy if you don't do this." We're discussing an issue and there happens to be a difference of opinion. I don't get why people are so outraged and derisive that someone disagrees.
Why is every discussion categorized as a mommy war? It's something people disagree about. That's all. No one's saying "Oh, you're a bad mom if you do this" or "you're crazy if you don't do this." We're discussing an issue and there happens to be a difference of opinion. I don't get why people are so outraged and derisive that someone disagrees.
Um, you're calling people thieves. That is where the outrages comes from.
This topic, and the "its stealing" comments really make me snort in derision. Its really one of the most ridiculous mommy wars things I've encountered because it doesn't even make any sense! I just do not get why anyone would give a shit whether my kid sucks down her overpriced pear and pea mush before of after I pay for it.
Your moral compass is obviously broken.
You don't know my LYFE
Your story made me think of my dad. He was always up to something at the grocery store when we were growing up. At the store they have the pick and mix candy like you put 8 mini mars/twix etc in a bag and pay. He used to try to put more than 8 and he got away with it because they used to not count, but once he went too far and the bag was OVERFLOWING. The lady was like.. Umm its only 8 for 99p or whatever.
We hated going to the store with him because of his antics
NO WONDER IM SUCH A SCREWED UP POUCH THIEF. Thanks a lot, dad
Why is every discussion categorized as a mommy war? It's something people disagree about. That's all. No one's saying "Oh, you're a bad mom if you do this" or "you're crazy if you don't do this." We're discussing an issue and there happens to be a difference of opinion. I don't get why people are so outraged and derisive that someone disagrees.
Um, you're calling people thieves. That is where the outrages comes from.
Well, not me actually, but I did forget that someone said it was definitely stealing.
Why is every discussion categorized as a mommy war? It's something people disagree about. That's all. No one's saying "Oh, you're a bad mom if you do this" or "you're crazy if you don't do this." We're discussing an issue and there happens to be a difference of opinion. I don't get why people are so outraged and derisive that someone disagrees.
There was a lot of judging going on in here from a lot of people. When moms give the serious side eye and judgement to other moms, I'd categorize it as mommy wars. When people tell me that paying for goldfish that are half eaten is stealing and accuse me of being a thief (despite what the law or store policy say), I call that mommy wars, not an intellectual discussion.
ETA, I am not saying you did that, but others sure did.
Why is every discussion categorized as a mommy war? It's something people disagree about. That's all. No one's saying "Oh, you're a bad mom if you do this" or "you're crazy if you don't do this." We're discussing an issue and there happens to be a difference of opinion. I don't get why people are so outraged and derisive that someone disagrees.
I have to agree, it's not a "Mommy" war, at least to me. I just think it's bad manners in general. I don't care if it's teenagers cracking open chips and a coke, or Mum getting a muesli bar for the kid. I was brought up that you don't open something before you pay for it. I will teach my kids the same thing.
I intended to stay away from this one, but who am I kidding.
I don't think it is stealing, but I admit that I have judged people for doing it because it is sooooo not classy. Now that I have a toddler I judge less, but my kid doesn't demand food in the store sooooooooo I'm just a judge mcJudgerpants.
Why is every discussion categorized as a mommy war? It's something people disagree about. That's all. No one's saying "Oh, you're a bad mom if you do this" or "you're crazy if you don't do this." We're discussing an issue and there happens to be a difference of opinion. I don't get why people are so outraged and derisive that someone disagrees.
I have to agree, it's not a "Mommy" war, at least to me. I just think it's bad manners in general. I don't care if it's teenagers cracking open chips and a coke, or Mum getting a muesli bar for the kid. I was brought up that you don't open something before you pay for it. I will teach my kids the same thing.
We can agree to disagree
Mummy war!
I have to throw in here that I don't let H open up shit willy nilly in the store. If she wants to, I do tell her that we have to pay for it first. The exception is, of course, the pretzels, because no child can ignore their siren call apparently.
Post by Dorothy Zbornak on Jul 17, 2013 7:04:03 GMT -5
Also, sorry, loves, but I did kind of get the "better mommy" vibe from those of you who always have wholesome Tupperware bowls of delicious, toddler-placating snacks on hand. I am not singling anyone out, because I obviously can't remember who the hell said what in this thread.
Also, this vibe might also come from my own feeling of my sometimes unpreparedness as a mother. So, take it with a grain of salt.
I think it's stealing. Obviously, I can't be friends with any of you anymore .
Obviously, I'm in the minority here. Just because I think it's stealing doesn't mean I expect any of you to suddenly change your habits. And it doesn't mean I think any less of any of you.
I'm in the "not stealing" camp but I do think it's silly to call it a mommy war. People without kids disagree about this. I guess there's more motivation to do it when you have kids, but it's not a kid-specific thing.
I intended to stay away from this one, but who am I kidding.
I don't think it is stealing, but I admit that I have judged people for doing it because it is sooooo not classy. Now that I have a toddler I judge less, but my kid doesn't demand food in the store sooooooooo I'm just a judge mcJudgerpants.
If I know we're going grocery shopping, I bring a full snack cup of puffs and goldfish (also, these bunnies you people talk of, they're just organic goldfish???) for him to snack on. I personally feel squicky about opening stuff before it's been paid for, partially because I'm afraid I'll lose the empty package.
I intended to stay away from this one, but who am I kidding.
I don't think it is stealing, but I admit that I have judged people for doing it because it is sooooo not classy. Now that I have a toddler I judge less, but my kid doesn't demand food in the store sooooooooo I'm just a judge mcJudgerpants.
I'm classy, and I do this.
Of course you are classy! Your name is French!
I am just conditioned by YEARS of watching rednecks open bags of chips and soda while walking around grocery stores to think that opening food for any reason is, um, rednecky. I don't really think that anymore but I can't bring myself to do it.
But I have opened food at the checkout immediately after scanning.
Different counties of the same state have different laws for what can be considered retail theft.
In one of my stores you have to wait until the person has passed the cash register and is headed to the door before you can detain them. In another store in a different county simply concealing an item or removing tags is enough.
The only food I I would never be able to let A see in a store is bananas, but I would give him one right away to prevent a meltdown. I'm too paranoid and would be afraid of someone thinking I was stealing though and would try to pay ASAP.
I'm in the "not stealing" camp but I do think it's silly to call it a mommy war. People without kids disagree about this. I guess there's more motivation to do it when you have kids, but it's not a kid-specific thing.
This. It involves everybody, not just moms. Therefore, I would not consider it a mommy war.
Post by UnicornDog on Jul 17, 2013 10:30:41 GMT -5
I've never done it, but I would in a heartbeat if it prevented a meltdown at the store.
I personally feel strange about eating at the store ever since I read how much fecal contamination there is on common surfaces at grocery stores. Then I turn around and eat things from wrappers without washing my hands. LOL.
Also, packing a snack may not work for some kids, because they don't want the one they can have. They want THAT ONE!
Why is every discussion categorized as a mommy war? It's something people disagree about. That's all. No one's saying "Oh, you're a bad mom if you do this" or "you're crazy if you don't do this." We're discussing an issue and there happens to be a difference of opinion. I don't get why people are so outraged and derisive that someone disagrees.
There was a lot of judging going on in here from a lot of people. When moms give the serious side eye and judgement to other moms, I'd categorize it as mommy wars. When people tell me that paying for goldfish that are half eaten is stealing and accuse me of being a thief (despite what the law or store policy say), I call that mommy wars, not an intellectual discussion.
ETA, I am not saying you did that, but others sure did.
Okay I said I give the serious stink eye but I never said to whom but since you asked (or didn't) my stink eye was reserved for the 50 something woman in BJ's that was walking around eating chips out of those mega chip bags and drinking a can of soda from the case in her cart while touching various items with her dirty hands.
I guess she could be someone's mother.
And most people that I see do this NEVER have kids with them. I don't think this is a mommy-war topic as I see plenty of men do it too.
Also, sorry, loves, but I did kind of get the "better mommy" vibe from those of you who always have wholesome Tupperware bowls of delicious, toddler-placating snacks on hand. I am not singling anyone out, because I obviously can't remember who the hell said what in this thread.
Also, this vibe might also come from my own feeling of my sometimes unpreparedness as a mother. So, take it with a grain of salt.
THAT YOU HAVE PAID FOR FIRST!
Ah, shit. I did not mean for it to sound like that. Claire was just a monster if she didn't have a snack right.this.minute. when she was younger, so I had them everywhere we went. She trained me. lol
I also think if it prevents a melt down/whiney pre-schooler, DO IT.
My mother-in-law just told me that she was walking by a fruit stand, and C just whipped his hand out and popped a peach in his mouth. She tried to take it away, but there was a lot of screaming. The fruit stand guy just laughed and told her not to worry about paying for it.
Moral of the story: it's not stealing if you're cute enough to get away with it.