MIL and I get along really well and enjoy each other a lot. I don't necessarily care much for FIL, but he likes me for the most part. He is an alcoholic and I've been known to be cold toward him when he gets out of control.
FiL is okay with me. MiL not so much. She was very put out when I laughed at the "my perfect DIL would be..." email. She may have stopped actively campaigning for a divorce, though. I think. Or DH has just stopped telling me.
FiL is okay with me. MiL not so much. She was very put out when I laughed at the "my perfect DIL would be..." email. She may have stopped actively campaigning for a divorce, though. I think. Or DH has just stopped telling me.
So what would her perfect DIL be? And OMG that she actually sent an email about it.
After being together 13 yrs and married almost 7, you would think I would know the answer, but I don't, at least in regards to MIL. MIL says she does, but I'm doubtful, if only that I am the mother of her granddaughters I think. Our relationship was pretty good, until we got married and had kids. Plus we've had a couple occasions of miscommunication and overreaction (on her part) that have made me step back, reassess how much energy I want to expend on that kind of stuff, and let DH run the show with the ILs. And that is okay with me. FIL, I think he really likes me
FIL definitely does. He is not super affectionate but yet every time we visit, he has to come get his hug from me and tells me he loves me. Which is really sweet.
MIL - it depends on the day. Most days, I would say yes. Others, I feel like she thinks H could have done better because (a) oh nos! I'm from a "broken" home and (b) I'm not Suzy Homemaker. Plus, unlike H's sisters, she has ZERO control over me and by extension, him.
But from the horror stories I see on here from time to time, I could have done far worse with MIL.
Yes. MIL and I have a great relationship, and she often comes with DH and I on weekend trips to Atlantic City or to visit my family. MIL and FIL are divorced and he lives out of state so we don't see him as often, but he likes me as well. We have VERY different opinions on many things, but we get along well nonetheless.
Post by pillowpants on Jul 18, 2013 9:00:31 GMT -5
When H and I first started dating I wasn't sure. They were still attached to one of his previous girlfriends. H saw how much that bothered me and told them that she was pretty much a manipulative, self-centered bitch to him and that there was no chance in hell they would ever get back together. After we got married they grew closer to me and after DD was born, even closer. So, ya, we have a pretty good relationship and MIL has told me that I am doing a wonderful job with raising DD.
Post by melodramatic26 on Jul 18, 2013 9:30:28 GMT -5
No. they think I changed dh from the country boy he was when he was younger. I didn't, his college experience and subsequent career path did. But whatever.
Yes, they do. They aren't very demonstrative, which is the opposite of my own mom, but they have been very good to me over the years and treat me like one of their own.
FiL is okay with me. MiL not so much. She was very put out when I laughed at the "my perfect DIL would be..." email. She may have stopped actively campaigning for a divorce, though. I think. Or DH has just stopped telling me.
So what would her perfect DIL be? And OMG that she actually sent an email about it.
It was a whole bunch of Bible verses. Submissive, quiet, gentle, respectful of elders, religious, etc. My favorite one was "a good wife is as a crown upon her husband's head. A bad wife withers his bones to dust."