CIO @ bed: how long?

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How long do you let your baby CIO at bedtime? We've been doing 10-15 min, but sometimes I feel that isn't long enough. Tonight for example, H is crazy tired, but cried in his crib for about 10-15 min. Now, we are in his nursery with the lights out and he's playing with books on the floor. It's 9pm, go to bed!!!!

[imimahoney]

30ish probably assuming that he wasn't in pain and still had his lovie. But I am in the camp of not going in when they need to go sleep.

But Ari as never cried longer than 15 minutes so I haven't had to really follow that timeline.

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It really depends. She pretty much can't go to sleep without crying a bit but she has breaks between the crys/screams and as long as the breaks keep getting longer I let her go. On bad nights it takes up to 30 minutes, but normally it is under 10. If she needs something, she has a pretty distinctive cry and if I hear that one, I go in pretty quickly.

[sunshineluv]

On a bad night it can be about 20 or 30 minutes. If I go in there he calms down for a bit but won't go to sleep in my arms, and gets mad when I put him back down, so back at square one. We really try not to go in, but sometimes we have to.

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Jul 17, 2013 19:51:26 GMT -5 @vsalt31 said:

How long do you let your baby CIO at bedtime? We've been doing 10-15 min, but sometimes I feel that isn't long enough. Tonight for example, H is crazy tired, but cried in his crib for about 10-15 min. Now, we are in his nursery with the lights out and he's playing with books on the floor. It's 9pm, go to bed!!!!

Dude. I think our kids plotted against us tonight. Mine is playing this game too.

I only go about 10-15 because he doesn't settle if he is bawling too hard. He just revs himself up more.

[livinreality]

We go 15-20, check on paci, blankets and normally lay him back down pat him on the back and tell him it time to go to sleep, night night, etc and then let him cry another 20-30 minutes at that point we decide whether to attempt to soothe again or to let him get up. Sometimes a cup of water is very helpful to calm him down.

[blondiesbored]

W has a mixed bag of tricks. Some nights I rock her after reading books and we sing a little and talk, I kiss her palms which sounds weird but it works for us. She will go right down still awake. She will just roll over, stick her butt in the air and go to sleep.
Then there is the really fun nights where I can rock her for 20 minutes. I go to put her down and she will arch her back, scream like she is injured and jump up and down for up to 40 minutes. We will check on her
in those 40 minutes and it will only make her worse and prolong the tantrum.
Most nights it is a 20 minute deal she goes through phases though.

[formerlyllizzyb]

He rarely cries at bedtime or nap time anymore, but I would do checks at five or ten minutes. I like more frequent checkins for us because he gets the picture that yes, we do respond, but he stil doesn't get what e wants (out of bed). So that way he's not crying and hoping forever, KWIM? We just go in, pat, say I love you, night night time, and leave.

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Jul 17, 2013 20:00:13 GMT -5 sunshineluv said:

On a bad night it can be about 20 or 30 minutes. If I go in there he calms down for a bit but won't go to sleep in my arms, and gets mad when I put him back down, so back at square one. We really try not to go in, but sometimes we have to.

I know! Sometimes going in just makes it worse!

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Jul 17, 2013 20:04:09 GMT -5 @thadsrad said:

Jul 17, 2013 19:51:26 GMT -5 @vsalt31 said:

How long do you let your baby CIO at bedtime? We've been doing 10-15 min, but sometimes I feel that isn't long enough. Tonight for example, H is crazy tired, but cried in his crib for about 10-15 min. Now, we are in his nursery with the lights out and he's playing with books on the floor. It's 9pm, go to bed!!!!

Dude. I think our kids plotted against us tonight. Mine is playing this game too.

I only go about 10-15 because he doesn't settle if he is bawling too hard. He just revs himself up more.

I know! Sometimes I wonder what my neighbor thinks is going on. H will cry bloody murder some nights. It's bad.

[DesertMoon]

As long as it takes. If I go in and hold him and he stops crying, i don't pick him up again. I did check in's too. I did this at 8 months, it's worked he sleeps just fine now, but he needs his lovie. I did this to break butt patting, i was getting tired of patting his butt for 30 mins hunched over his crib...i also did it to make him nap in his crib instead of in my bed with me.

[laurack]

Matilda has in the last few days become terrible and she goes to bed kicking and screaming. We've had to start letting her cry as no matter how long we stay singing and patting her she will just try to escape.

It's only around 5-10 minutes because she is so exhausted.

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As long as it takes. I never let him get out though. I may hold him, rock him in my arms a bit, but I always put him back down within a few minutes. Sometimes I'll squat next to the crib and hush him and tell him to lay down. He still cries once I leave the room again, but usually those things help and he goes down almost immediately after. He's RARELY cried longer than 5-10 minutes. There was this night, like 2-3 weeks ago, where he cried/screamed/whined for an hour. I went in a few times and checked on him, but he was just not having bedtime for some reason. It was weird.

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Jul 17, 2013 20:38:55 GMT -5 @vsalt31 said:

Jul 17, 2013 20:04:09 GMT -5 @thadsrad said:

Dude. I think our kids plotted against us tonight. Mine is playing this game too.

I only go about 10-15 because he doesn't settle if he is bawling too hard. He just revs himself up more.

I know! Sometimes I wonder what my neighbor thinks is going on. H will cry bloody murder some nights. It's bad.

Hope you had luck! After he screamed so hard he puked we got him to sleep. It was only 12 minutes! The kid isn't going to let me let him cry!

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I just wanted to come in and say, my kid hasn't made a peep at nap/bedtime since he was an infant, however recently, in the last few weeks he's started bedtime shenanigans. I think (hope) it's a phase..?! He will stand up and cry and rattle the crib bars. wtf.

Anyway I go in to check he hasn't lost his rag or needs a nappy change, but otherwise I leave him be. It usually takes 5-10 mins. Who knows what this latest craziness is all about. Hope it ends soon for everyone