Honestly, how many times a year would you say you have a meltdown? You know, when things just keep overhwleming you and it eventually makes you ugly cry?
Do you ever have those weeks where you and your H or SO just seem "off"?
Post by NachoProblem on Jun 15, 2012 21:02:55 GMT -5
Meltdowns - more frequently than I'd like to admit. Especially recently.
And yes. Like when H goes, "do you want some of this ice cream?" Me: "No thank you" H: HERE EAT THE ICE CREAM ::thrusts spoon in face:: (this just happened) I told H that just because he thinks something is nice doesn't mean I agree with him all the time. KWIM?
Mine have been a lot more recently too. I'm a closet crier. I will literally go hide in a closet or shower.
Mine decided to quit nicotine cold Turkey (I wasn't even pressuring him!) And he literally is a monster. I'm about to force feed him tobacco products before I chew his face off zombie apocalypse style.
Post by NachoProblem on Jun 15, 2012 21:22:14 GMT -5
lol. No problems can be solved by eating YH's face. At least he has a reason why he's being a pain in the ass. I just feel like MH has no interest in listening to me. He thinks he knows what I want more than I do.
About the meltdowns, they definitely snowball. And shit all seems to happen at once. Are you ok though? Zombie hugs!!!
At least if his face was chewed off he couldn't talk? They definitely snowball. And I'm the type of person who once I get upset and start thinking my mind goes EVERYwhere. Too analytical and retrospective for my own good.
Thank you ({) (}) zombie hugs for you and nacho doggie
Post by misshark122 on Jun 15, 2012 21:50:18 GMT -5
I'd say a couple times a year. Not too crazy often but it happens to the best of us! and it always seems like shit hits the fan all at once. you know, the whole when it rains it pours thing.... zombie hugs all around!
I usually don't. But I can easily have one right now and I am trying to let it go without over reacting. I was trying to keep my mind off of it by coming to this board to take away the focus but ha! No escape!
Mine have been a lot more recently too. I'm a closet crier. I will literally go hide in a closet or shower.
Mine decided to quit nicotine cold Turkey (I wasn't even pressuring him!) And he literally is a monster. I'm about to force feed him tobacco products before I chew his face off zombie apocalypse style.
My Dh quit smoking and has been randomly chewing the gum. It helps kick the cravings.
Bring your hubby to Miami, we can probably find another "Zombie" so you dont have to the dirty job, meanwhile you and I can hang out wearing our nude pumps, bubble necklace, naked palette, laguna bronzer etc etc hehe.
I dont have meltdowns with my Hubby, I have meltdowns because I dont have a hubby I guess it has been kind of hard for me the last 2 years becuase I really would like to meet a nice guy and have kids and have my fairytale with lots of glitter. But on the other hand, I really try to have a positive outlook on life and try to appreciate what I do have, but yeah sometimes is just hard.
Hang in there, I know it must be hard but its nice that your hurband is trying to quit smoking, have you tried to talk to him?
Post by FormerCityGirl on Jun 16, 2012 2:03:55 GMT -5
Ugh! I hear ya. I have about one a season usually when DH works over 220 hours in the month. Lately, there is so much shit hitting the fan that I seem to be ugly crying at the drop of a hat. DH has a great schedule, but when the person who covers for him takes a vacation every season I tend to meltdown since my family doesn't understand 20+ back to back 10-12 hour shifts means he sleeps, showers, and leaves. He focuses so much on work and powering through his months on that I only talk to him or see him for about 30 minutes or less a night if even. I try to make dinner or pick stuff up and he packs it up for work instead of eating with me. He's just oblivious and I think that's when I melt down, especially if other stuff is going on.
({) (}) ({) (}) I get where you are coming from though since everyone in my life except for DH is chewing everyone else a new one daily. It's insanity. Tonight I'm irked since my friends told me to meet them somewhere and ditched out early without telling me. I really needed to let of some steam with adults.
Totally! I have a good ugly cry about 3 times per year. Mine are usually school related, but usually blow up when other things are outta wack too. H and I are pretty good at communicating our frustrations, but every once in awhile there's just a breakdown. A lot of times its just stupid stuff, but the stress from our careers builds up and boom! Meltdown.
Hang in there girl! There's plenty of glitter and unicorns over here to cheer u up!
Definite zombie hugs from me. This year has been the worst for work-related bullshit and now I have more family drama that I am immaturely ignoring and not dealing with because I know it will make me cry. Thankfully, my H is a really good listener (or more often text-reader) and my two BFF's are supportive.
Try going for brisk walks, especially when your H gets nic-fit cranky. Maybe start exercising more routinely. Try to keep positive friends on speed dial.
Well ladies wish I could give some insight to this since I've been married for 27 years but there are still times when I'm annoyed because of his breathing. LOL That's when I know it must be me cuz poor man MUST BREATHE!
But the best advice I've heard was from an old couple who had been married for a LONG time, they were in their 90's and he said, we've never fallen out of love at the same time. And that has stayed with me cuz you won't always love your SO, as a matter of fact sometimes you may despise him and him you, but at the end of the day, know that tomorrow is another day and the sun will rise and all will be ok.
Meltdowns happen a lot more frequently for me lately, I'm under a ton of stress, little sleep and a very screwed up living situation that makes me not want to be home. Sometimes I feel like my meltdowns start with me being so angry or frustrated and feeling like no one understands me which typically, eventually leads to the ugly cry.
SO and I have been really off lately but I think it's because of our living situation, which is in the middle of being remedied, somewhat, which I'm hoping will make things with us better.