I know second showers are looked down on by some people, but expecting twins the second time around is a bit different to me. It would have been nice to have more notice, so if you can't or don't want to go, don't. But I don't think a shower in and of itself is bad etiquette in this instance.
I just got a shower invitation a week ago for a shower on Saturday. I wasn't annoyed but was surprised; I would think most people have plans a week ahead of time in the summer. My MIL received hers at the same time.
It totally sucks and I don't think you should go esp since you'd be breaking plans.
But just a leeeeetle bit of insight -- if she's a) starting to have problems in pregnancy or b) getting nervous about potential problems, she might have wanted to have it sooner than originally planned. A lot of twin pregnancies have their showers earlier than most because of things like this. I had mine "late" (even my OB and MFM said it was late) at 32 weeks. I can see her bringing this up and the shower planners being like ".....shit!" and rushing to get it done.
So what if people are irritated? The world won't end.
Also, why is your DH's family's "expectations" (and in turn irritations) more important than your friends (or whoever your plans are with) and their possible "irritation" at you breaking plans?
If you have plans, you have plans. It's a risk they took giving people such short notice.
I don't mind second showers or sprinkles. In normal situations, if the kids are close in age or the same sex, I don't expect the need for gifts, but I am behind celebrating the new baby.
It totally sucks and I don't think you should go esp since you'd be breaking plans.
But just a leeeeetle bit of insight -- if she's a) starting to have problems in pregnancy or b) getting nervous about potential problems, she might have wanted to have it sooner than originally planned. A lot of twin pregnancies have their showers earlier than most because of things like this. I had mine "late" (even my OB and MFM said it was late) at 32 weeks. I can see her bringing this up and the shower planners being like ".....shit!" and rushing to get it done.
I agree with this. We have friends who are expecting twins and my H and I were going to host a celebratory bbq for them and we decided to do it the last weekend of June and she is due in August. She ended up being put on bed rest the Wednesday before the party and we had to cancel last minute. All parties involved were bummed.
It totally sucks and I don't think you should go esp since you'd be breaking plans.
But just a leeeeetle bit of insight -- if she's a) starting to have problems in pregnancy or b) getting nervous about potential problems, she might have wanted to have it sooner than originally planned. A lot of twin pregnancies have their showers earlier than most because of things like this. I had mine "late" (even my OB and MFM said it was late) at 32 weeks. I can see her bringing this up and the shower planners being like ".....shit!" and rushing to get it done.
I agree with this. We have friends who are expecting twins and my H and I were going to host a celebratory bbq for them and we decided to do it the last weekend of June and she is due in August. She ended up being put on bed rest the Wednesday before the party and we had to cancel last minute. All parties involved were bummed.
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Ugh - this is what I'm afraid of. Thankfully my larger showers are during weeks 26 and 27, with the latest one at week 30, but it still makes me nervous.
And yes, I'm having 3 showers - it was not my idea. However the invites for the first one went out this week, so yay for not doing it last minute?
Longer notice would have been nice given the distance. But sometimes these sorts of this are last minute and very casual. If you can't make it, don't kill yourself. A three hour drive excuses you from a must attend status.