MOOKS, what words don't you let your kids say?

[biblionerd]

I guess it could apply to babies from this month too. Fiona's hardly talking so it's hard for me to imagine! But with DS we've discouraged words like oh gosh, darn, god, etc. We say "oh goodness" or "oh man" and boy was that hard to retrain myself to do. But he, like every other toddler on earth, is a damn sponge and I feel like everything leads to the occasional cuss word he's heard. MIL and FIL haven't said anything specifically, but I can tell they think we're being too strict. They're over here a LOT helping us get our house ready to sell and MIL will NOT stop saying "oh darn" and "oh crap". DS says oh darn constantly when she's here and when she leaves. She always corrects herself when she says it, but the damage is done with a toddler. I don't know. Darn isn't a bad word, but it just sounds... meh I guess to hear a 2 year old walking around saying oh darn, oh damn (which he always bridges the gap to once he starts saying darn), oh gosh, oh god. We weren't allowed to say those growing up, so maybe that's just the way I was raised. We're not religious, but I just think there are other words to use more 2 year old appropriate. I mean, it's not like a huge OMG what am I going to do ordeal, but I'm just curious what other probies do/say at 2 years old. Am I being a prude? 

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No, I don't think you are being a prude at all. My 4 year old isn't allowed to say anything. Well he can say oh my goodness and we allow gosh. I know that is a substitute for God but we aren't super religious so I let it go. He also can say for Pete's sake.

I really try not to swear around him at all. Sometimes the occasional one gets out in the car while driving for example. When he was little he repeated a few bloody hells and we laughed but now he's old enough to understand that only grown ups can say those words. He's absolutely not allowed. No crap, turd, I don't even like stupid.

[fusion]

J doesn't really talk too much, he has some pretty severe speech delays. One thing he does say is "Oh Geez!". When we got back from Barbados we noticed he would say what sounded like "Oh Jesus!" Apparently my MIL got all offended when she was watching them. She coached him, without ever asking or telling us, to try to say "Oh Gee Whiz" (because that is so much better?!), and because of his speech issues it comes out sounding so different. We had to go and ask her what the deal was. She is extremely religious too, so we thought she was feeding him a bunch of Jesus lines while we were away. Now what was an innocent (to me) phrase has been twisted into something that sounds so much worse.

[joyhart02]

Jul 19, 2013 20:02:12 GMT -5 @pcloadletter said:

Besides the usual bad words I don't like her saying crap, fart, shut up, stupid, and idiot. Oh and Cailou or however you spell that little asshole's name.

Pretty much all of this, but we let her say fart, I didn't realize it was bad. 

She started saying crap a few months ago "I need to move all my crap". We stopped that very quickly. 

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Oh my gosh! This reminds me- my SIL thinks it's okay for little kids to say "pissed"!! That's not okay right?! She has a horrible cussing issue and were working on it so we say "baby alert!" Anytime she cusses- she's doing better but when we said baby alert for "pissed" the other day she argued that it wasn't a bad word! Ugh!

I wasn't allowed to say sucks growing up, I could say "that stinks!" I think in general I'm okay with the replaced words- stinks, gosh, darn, shoot- but I won't encourage them. I don't like fart, crap, or any name calling either! Laney already says "oh shoot" sometimes

[skwcm80]

We don't let her say the usual bad words, she isn't allowed to say dumb, stupid, crap, etc. We take it on a case by case basis.

[devonpow]

He isn't allowed to say hate, stupid, oh my god, or shut up. We alsohave many,many, many issues/conversations about "potty talk words". Oh my lord, 6 year old boys and potty talk. Drives me crazy.

[thedahliharpa]

The one she says a lot that I try to discourage is butt. My grandma hated butt and it stuck with me. We went through a "Jesus Christ" phase but it seems to have been forgotten. Dammit is the really only bad one that she says, because of me mostly, on occasion. Stupid, jerk, dumb, bratt, etc. will all be forbidden for many years. The "R" word and derogatory phrases regarding sexuality and the like will be on the ban later list.

We did have a humorous dammit spree last month. H was in the car with DH and when asked how her day was she said "I tripped over a dammit rock!". The next day I knocked down some clothes hanging in the door way and the hanger hit my glasses against my nose bridge hard. I started to yell "daaaaa" but stopped myself just in time to hear Harper shout "Dammit sissy!" at D from the other room.

[katfco]

Pretty much everything @pcloadletter said. The worst thing we say is crap and I try not to say it. I'm pretty sure I've never said it in front of her. Hate and stupid we try to avoid her saying even about inanimate objects because of the sentiment behind it, not because of the words themselves.

[livinreality]

Pretty much discourage most of the words mentioned - butt, stupid, crap, gosh, god, damn, crap, shut up and probably some more, they are labeled as unkind or straight up naughty

Some where between 2 and 3 DS1 was able to pick up that uncle could say naughty words but that he could not, he also knows if I slip up and say something he can point it out politely but not repeat it.

[biblionerd]

Thanks ladies!