Thanks ladies! I'm actually busy today so I don't have time to be anxious about it. It will be good to get an outside perspective on everything, I don't think she'll pressure me one way or the other either--which is what I want.
Post by cuddlyevil on Jul 24, 2013 16:02:49 GMT -5
Back! She is really nice. She thinks that seeing someone together is our last straw and that his response to the suggestion of it will be all the indication I need to move forward
Post by starrieskies on Jul 24, 2013 16:25:24 GMT -5
I'm glad it went well! How do you feel?
After my first appointment, I felt a million different things... I felt relief, sadness, overwhelmed, and as bizarre as it sounds, I actually felt a little guilty for unloading everything on my therapist. I mentioned that to her at my next appointment, and she said those feelings of guilt were normal because I'd gotten so used to bottling everything up and not telling anyone.
Post by partiallysunny on Jul 25, 2013 10:00:55 GMT -5
I'm so glad you enjoy therapy and it has made you feel validated. I know this is a step in the right direction for you and it will help you figure out what your next step should be.
Post by cuddlyevil on Jul 25, 2013 15:25:15 GMT -5
I don't know. He's a good person outside of all the game stuff, so I feel bad because I know how much my leaving will hurt him and the kids. I don't like being that person. Plus, my parents will be celebrating their 41st wedding anniversary on Monday--it makes me sad that I may not get to celebrate a big milestone like that.
Post by starrieskies on Jul 25, 2013 15:34:57 GMT -5
Don't feel guily, cuddly. You're not doing anything wrong, you haven't even made a decision on what you're going to do. You're just gathering information at this point. There is absolutely nothing wrong with protecting yourself and preparing for whatever the future holds!
I don't know. He's a good person outside of all the game stuff, so I feel bad because I know how much my leaving will hurt him and the kids. I don't like being that person. Plus, my parents will be celebrating their 41st wedding anniversary on Monday--it makes me sad that I may not get to celebrate a big milestone like that.
Please don't feel guilty. I know it's part of the process, but let me just remind you, he is not a good husband and he is not being a good father. Yes, he will be hurt, but this is his own making. And while the kids maybe have some trouble with the initial change, they will be just fine. They will be much better off having a strong, confident, HAPPY, mother. You know all of this.
Post by cuddlyevil on Jul 25, 2013 15:40:48 GMT -5
Thanks you guys. This is all new territory for me, people in general stay with the first person they married for life. And I tend to try not to hurt people, so considering something that I know will hurt a lot of people sucks donkey balls.