Sometimes H makes things so much easier for me

[starrieskies]

Not for himself, but definitely for me.

I was informed last night that the annual guys only "camping" trip is the second weekend in August and he is planning on going.  If there weren't already a million nails in the coffin already, this would be the final one. He has completely sealed his fate with this decision, and has provided me with the perfect opportunity to get all of my stuff out without incident.

This camping trip really is a "lets see how much alcohol and weed we can pack into this seculded camping spot and spend an entire weekend getting wasted without any women or kids around".   Normally  this would not be a big deal, but  with our history, and the conversations we've had, it should be no surprise when he returns home and I'm gone.

There are a couple of complications that I'll have to deal with since he sprung this one me though.  This happens to be the same day as my big charity event, and it leaves me without anyone to watch DS.  My parents are going to be OOT that weekend, so I may have to bring DS with me and hope that I can keep him entertained for the day and still be able to get things done at the event.   Also, the charity event is going to suck up an entire day (probably 6:30 am to 8:00 pm),  so I won't have that day to pack.    But I will have already cleaned out a lot of clutter with donations to the event, so it shouldn't be too bad.

All in all, I think that despite the additional complications the situation presents, it really kind of simplifies the process.

[cuddlyevil]

So, this is good news then

Are there any sort of little jobs DS could help you with while he's there with you?

[starrieskies]

Probably. It's a big garage sale, silent auction, and raffle, so there's a lot going on. My main concern is keeping tabs on him and making sure he's not in the way or breaking things. He's not typically one to sit still. I usually work the register at the event, but I might have to ask that I work the day as the "greeter", talking with people as they come in and making sure that they know what we're doing and why and making sure that they are aware of the silent auction and raffle tables. He's a pretty outgoing and friendly kid, so I'm sure he can help me with that.

For a split second I thought about asking the ILs to keep DS overnight Friday and Saturday for the sale, but given the circumstances that seemed to be in really poor taste.

[cuddlyevil]

Yeah, probably not a good idea to have the IL's watch him the weekend you move out.

Do you have a friend you could bring to the event with you so they can help keep tabs on DS?

[imoan]

I can't wrap my head around that he doesn't think he's at all responsible for the care of DS. Like "I know you have X thing going on... but last minute I've decided I want to do Y... so it's on you to figure out who will watch him". Yup- makes your decision SUPER easy. You're already a sing parent... might as well make it official!

[dixienormous]

I'm glad that his irresponsibility and disregard for you and your son will make this transition period slightly easier. I'm also glad that it's finally time for you to leave!

[margarita]

This makes me really happy for you.

[starrieskies]

I do have a friend who volunteered to come and help out at the event. Her job may become watching DS for me. LOL! I think it will all work out just fine. There will be plenty of eyes around, and really its the kind of social event where DS really seems to be in his element.

It's really kind of funny because I had already planned on leaving either the first or second weekend in August. So, his impromptu plans really didn't change mine much, they just made it a little bit easier.

[margarita]

Perfect.

[motzie]

Wow. I can't believe this will actually be happening so soon. I'm so excited for you, and I'm really, really proud of you.

[Deleted]

This is great news. What a dingbat.

[starrieskies]

Jul 24, 2013 13:11:13 GMT -5 motzie said:

Wow. I can't believe this will actually be happening so soon. I'm so excited for you, and I'm really, really proud of you.

Thanks, motzie! I appreciate it! I don't know why it took me so long to admit that this needed to happen. It's really kind of embarassing that I've let things continue this long. I think I knew for a long time but didn't want to admit it.

Knowing that you are all in my corner even though I've never met you in IRL is both comforting and humbling at the same time!

[captainmel]

I am so excited for you. What an easy opportunity.
This will be excellent!

[neonpink]

I am excited for you! Since your H seems a bit obtuse could some of your "donating" for charity that week be subtle packing to make your life easier?

I am excited for you.

[starrieskies]

Jul 24, 2013 13:43:56 GMT -5 neonpink said:

I am excited for you! Since your H seems a bit obtuse could some of your "donating" for charity that week be subtle packing to make your life easier?

I am excited for you.

that's exactly what I'm doing. Organizing, downsizing, etc.

[gault]

High fives to you, girl. It will make things so much easier logistically...if you don't count the whole no babysitter thing.

[neonpink]

Jul 24, 2013 15:17:24 GMT -5 starrieskies said:

Jul 24, 2013 13:43:56 GMT -5 neonpink said:

I am excited for you! Since your H seems a bit obtuse could some of your "donating" for charity that week be subtle packing to make your life easier?

I am excited for you.

that's exactly what I'm doing. Organizing, downsizing, etc.

I'm so excited, I wrote it twice. 

[Muddled]

A date on the calendar!!!!

[doctorchick]

Good luck with the stealth downsizing! At least it'll be (relatively) easy to slip out.

[tiramisu]

I'm so excited for you! Good luck with the stealth part of your plan. I'm glad YH is being a selfish asshole so you have a little more time to clear yourself out of there.

[captainmel]

I'm still excited for you. I already posted, but I wanted to tell you again how happy I am for you!

[awick14]

Yah! I'm glad his last minute plans help you so much more then originally planned!

[partiallysunny]

I'm giggling like a school girl for you! I saw the title and was hoping something like this would be in here!

I wish I could come help you.

[starrieskies]

PS, your post made me smile. It's sad that I'm smiling about getting a divorce. But given the situation, I'm pretty excited about moving forward and how things have kind of fallen into place. I can't imagine a better scenario right now.

[partiallysunny]

Don't feel bad about being happy or smiling. This is a brand NE start for you. You should be ecstatic!

[mcc]

I'm glad you have a date set. Good luck!