In which I blab about things

[gault]

You can blab too.


I opened up to pup guy about my marriage last night. It went really really well. It's not hard to talk about but I don't want to be treated like I'm going to break once people know the haps. So how much info do I give out, which details aren't important to what people etc. Just part of the whole discussion process you have to get through.
He asked questions and opened up about some of his past relationships. Lasted for a good few hours and learned a lot about each other. He's a good one, you guys. Human as we all are but a good person.

Bagels are death with holes in them. They send my body into a downward hate spiral. But I can't quit them. Having a brueggers within driving distance from work is so tempting.

[cuddlyevil]

Yay! I am glad you guys had a great talk.

H made me cry this morning. Essentially, he went off on me because I didn't buy the correct amount of lunch meat and he freaked be cause it wouldn't be enough for a large sandwich today and for the remainder of the week. There is other food in the house and I utilized all available funds for groceries. He told me he'd yell more when I got home from work. I fully expect it to suck.

I just called for child support numbers. It might make staying in the house doable. Maybe. Need to do more math though.

[partiallysunny]

that's a big strip, gault. I'm glad you got a good one!

[Muddled]

I'm glad you are able to be honest with him, gault. It's a really positive thing to just be able to be yourself with someone.

cuddlyevil, don't you dare even stay in the room for that. It's just as easy for him to go to the store and pick up more of anything as it is for you. Take a lesson from him and walk away from this one. This is not worth it. Not even a little bit.

[starrieskies]

I'm meeting with a friend at lunch today and I'm really nervous. I am going to ask her if we can use her truck on moving day... The nervous part is that her bf is friends with H, although he is currently working out of state. I hate to ask a friend to keep a secret from their s/o, but I am afraid that if he finds out he will call H and it'll be awful...

I read through some of my old diary entries over the weekend. It kind scared me, I knew that what was happening wasn't right, but I blamed myself for it all... And I'd forgotten about some of the things he'd done/said... I feel like I'm taking a big risk just meeting this friend for lunch... I'm scared you guys. I couldn't sleep last night at all.

Somebody please tell me that it's going to be ok, and that I'm freaking out over nothing!!! I only have a half hour to go until our lunch date...

[starrieskies]

Jul 29, 2013 13:41:50 GMT -5 Muddled said:

cuddlyevil, don't you dare even stay in the room for that. It's just as easy for him to go to the store and pick up more of anything as it is for you. Take a lesson from him and walk away from this one. This is not worth it. Not even a little bit.

THIS EXACTLY!!!

Who the hell does he think he is??   Informing you of the fact that he'll continue to yell after you get home??  Fuck.that. noise!  You deserve so much better!

[cuddlyevil]

Good luck Starries!

Thanks Muddled, I'm not sure what I am walking into when I get home, I hope he's cooled off some though. This morning he admitted to being really stressed out lately, I don't know if that's playing into this.

[Muddled]

Jul 29, 2013 13:43:03 GMT -5 starrieskies said:

I'm meeting with a friend at lunch today and I'm really nervous. I am going to ask her if we can use her truck on moving day... The nervous part is that her bf is friends with H, although he is currently working out of state. I hate to ask a friend to keep a secret from their s/o, but I am afraid that if he finds out he will call H and it'll be awful...

I read through some of my old diary entries over the weekend. It kind scared me, I knew that what was happening wasn't right, but I blamed myself for it all... And I'd forgotten about some of the things he'd done/said... I feel like I'm taking a big risk just meeting this friend for lunch... I'm scared you guys. I couldn't sleep last night at all.

Somebody please tell me that it's going to be ok, and that I'm freaking out over nothing!!! I only have a half hour to go until our lunch date...

Don't put her in that position. Lie about why you need the truck.

You are going to be fine. 2 more weeks!

[bowies]

I have been looking all over the place for this one dress that is sold out online.  I think it may be gone-gone because OF COURSE IT IS.  I hate when that happens.  It would have been perfect for Mexico.

As consolation I bought myself some magic slenderizing pants from NY&C.  They are not appropriate for Mexico.


Cuddly, I wish you could see my face regarding your douchenozzle of an H.  He is a grown man, he can get his own sliced turkey FFS. 

[Muddled]

Jul 29, 2013 13:48:43 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

Good luck Starries!

Thanks Muddled, I'm not sure what I am walking into when I get home, I hope he's cooled off some though. This morning he admitted to being really stressed out lately, I don't know if that's playing into this.

I'm sure he is. A new job + an impending divorce = stress. HOWEVER, that doesn't mean that he gets to yell at you over lunch meat. And, if he does, the normal reaction is to realize that you are overreacting and apologize immediately, not let you know that he is saving it all up for this evening. It's fucking lunch meat.  What? He's not playing enough video games to get this all out of his system.

[neonpink]

Starrieskies I would lie about why you need the truck... Maybe say it's for the charity thing you are doing.

[bowies]

Starrie, I know how scary this whole process is and how nerve-wracking. I'm still practically giddy over the fact that he'll walk into an emptyish house after his Boys Weekend in a couple of weeks. Like, I'm EXCITED for you.

[gault]

cuddlyevil, how considerate of him to let you know his antics will continue later. Dont engage. Such a child.

You can do it starries. How much time in between the talk and the move out date?

[cuddlyevil]

Jul 29, 2013 13:56:47 GMT -5 neonpink said:

Starrieskies I would lie about why you need the truck... Maybe say it's for the charity thing you are doing.

This is a fabulous idea.

[dixienormous]

cuddlyevil - his stress level is not your concern when he's flipping out over something this trivial. ESPECIALLY in light of the bullshit he's been pulling and the negligence.

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I have gault's number now and can now flash her anytime I WANT TO.

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Jul 29, 2013 13:55:21 GMT -5 bowies said:

Cuddly, I wish you could see my face regarding your douchenozzle of an H.  He is a grown man, he can get his own sliced turkey FFS. 

Yeah, fuck that guy. 

[cuddlyevil]

Jul 29, 2013 14:08:00 GMT -5 dixienormous said:

cuddlyevil - his stress level is not your concern when he's flipping out over something this trivial. ESPECIALLY in light of the bullshit he's been pulling and the negligence.

I bet his Mom has called and he told her all about it.

[margarita]

gault, that is awesome. I am glad you had a great talk.

Good Luck starrieskies! You are so close to Moving Day!

cuddlyevil, you should have seen my face when I read your post. I know you still love him, but I kind of want to drive to your house with the express purpose of giving him a junkpunch of epic proportions after reading that.
Over lunch meat?? Fuck that. Check yourself, dude.

[cuddlyevil]

Depending on how he is when I get home tonight, I might take the kids for a walk after dinner and look around for houses for rent in the neighborhood.

[gault]

Jul 29, 2013 14:28:01 GMT -5 doglove said:

I have gault's number now and can now flash her anytime I WANT TO.

App LIKE!

[Wrath0fKuus]

Jul 29, 2013 13:48:43 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

Good luck Starries!

Thanks Muddled, I'm not sure what I am walking into when I get home, I hope he's cooled off some though. This morning he admitted to being really stressed out lately, I don't know if that's playing into this.

He should be stressed - his wife is getting ready to leave him!  Somehow, though, I doubt that was what he meant.

[starrieskies]

I lied. I told her it was to transport stuff for the event. She said she doesn't think it will be a problem and that she will talk to her s/o. I feel bad about lying, but it was the best thing to do. I will tell her eventually but today was not that day.

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Cud-stick some fucking lunch meat in his friggin pillow case and leave it out in the sun all day!

[partiallysunny]

Jul 29, 2013 13:36:23 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

Yay! I am glad you guys had a great talk.

H made me cry this morning. Essentially, he went off on me because I didn't buy the correct amount of lunch meat and he freaked be cause it wouldn't be enough for a large sandwich today and for the remainder of the week. There is other food in the house and I utilized all available funds for groceries. He told me he'd yell more when I got home from work. I fully expect it to suck.

I just called for child support numbers. It might make staying in the house doable. Maybe. Need to do more math though.

I can't believe I missed this earlier. I'm so fucking angry for you right now.

[cuddlyevil]

He was VERY sheepish when I got home and apologized. Still not off the hook though, he was "stressed" at the level ofsupplies in the house. He doesn't know he made me cry.

[starrieskies]

I'm still mad for you, cuddly! His behavior was Completely uncalled for! I'd like to hulk smash him in the head with a frying pan!

(this, of course, coming from the person who's H yelled at her over the weekend for using fabric softener when she washed the towels instead of saying "Thanks for doing the laundry!")

[Muddled]

Jul 29, 2013 17:49:12 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

He was VERY sheepish when I got home and apologized. Still not off the hook though, he was "stressed" at the level ofsupplies in the house. He doesn't know he made me cry.

Stressed at the level of supplies in the house? Yeah, no.

Perhaps he should take over the job of supplying to ensure that it is up to his standards.

This ain't right, CE.

[cuddlyevil]

Usually it is a group trip but yesterday was a solo trip. Doesn't make what he said right.

[bowies]

I'm gonna need to know why fabric softener is a no-no for towels. Because I like mine soft and fluffy.