Who is nicer?

[charlielove]

Elaborate too!

[TrudyCampbell]

Mobile version?

[charlielove]

Brought to you by the fact that all of our neighbors will run across the street dodging traffic to talk to DH. But not me. I like it that way. He is like the nicest person ever though, I can't even compete.

[carawestt]

What's the question? Who's nicer between me or H?

[charlielove]

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[TrudyCampbell]

DH is nicer BY FAR. He's so good in situations where he doesn't know anyone. I'm more socially awkward.

[charlielove]

Jul 31, 2013 15:29:27 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

DH is nicer BY FAR. He's so good in situations where he doesn't know anyone. I'm more socially awkward.

YES. My DH can talk to a doorknob. One time he was talking to this guy about football. Just on and on. Finally I asked - since when do you know anything about football? He said, uh, I don't. He is good.

[fusion]

I'm much nicer. H is an enginerd and I suspect Aspbergers, so is really awkward in social situations.

[kemangel124]

I am so much nicer than DH. I CONTINUALLY think about others to my own detriment. Even if it negatively impacts myself, as long as everyone else is happy, I am happy. I rarely think about myself first. I don't know why I am like this.

[carawestt]

My H is nicer. I always joke that he's more of the woman in our relationship. He talks to people when we're out and waves, holds doors open even if like 15 people are walking in. He also goes out of his way to make me happy more than I do for him. We got in a fight last week and he left with Lincoln, when he came back he had bought me a dress haha.

[Regina Philange]

Jul 31, 2013 15:27:14 GMT -5 charlielove said:

Brought to you by the fact that all of our neighbors will run across the street dodging traffic to talk to DH. But not me. I like it that way. He is like the nicest person ever though, I can't even compete.

Same for me. I like to think of myself as the mysterious neighbor.

Everyone loves my H.

[rjamz]

Jul 31, 2013 15:29:27 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

DH is nicer BY FAR. He's so good in situations where he doesn't know anyone. I'm more socially awkward.

Same, I have him make friends with people first and then intro me

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[Regina Philange]

Jul 31, 2013 15:29:27 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

DH is nicer BY FAR. He's so good in situations where he doesn't know anyone. I'm more socially awkward.

lol this for me too!!

[charlielove]

Jul 31, 2013 15:33:27 GMT -5 Regina Philange said:

Jul 31, 2013 15:27:14 GMT -5 charlielove said:

Brought to you by the fact that all of our neighbors will run across the street dodging traffic to talk to DH. But not me. I like it that way. He is like the nicest person ever though, I can't even compete.

Same for me. I like to think of myself as the mysterious neighbor.

Everyone loves my H.

Ha! I avoid my neighbors so much that one time I walked outside while DH was chatting with one by accident, and the neighbor was like YOU'RE PREGNANT? And I was 9 months. heh

[nilex0102]

dH by a long stretch. I need to keep him in check so people don't take advantage of him too much. Jk
But this is also one of the reasons I am married to him.

[katfco]

DH is because he hates conflict--he'd rather give in or avoid the issue than resolve them.

[chasbride07]

Jul 31, 2013 15:29:27 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

DH is nicer BY FAR. He's so good in situations where he doesn't know anyone. I'm more socially awkward.

Same for me.  I take time to warm up and I'm terrible in large groups of people I don't know.  Plus I have a terrible case RBF.

[Deleted]

Definitely me. DH is quiet and very straight forward. For example: my mom is getting into painting and I think they are great. He is a designer so is looking at her stuff with an artists/professional eye and therefore doesn't think it's so great. I told him he needs to realize she's just starting out and he should compliment her work since it would mean a lot coming from an artist.. He said "why? I don't think it's that great." Sooooo.. Just tell her it's looking good anyway!

I actually have a hard time with him sometimes because he seems upset but he's just so much more quiet and reserved than I am and I take it the wrong way. He has gotten in trouble at work before because he comes off as disrespectful, it's just his tone of voice but he doesn't get it and has a hard time changing it.

Sorry, long version of "I'm nicer!" Also, this makes him sound like a jerk, he's totally not a jerk!!

[mumegs]

I said me but reading all the responses I might have to change to DH. He is also the social one who can talk to anyone, makes friends wherever he goes, and chats with the neighbors and stuff, I am the anti social one!
I think I am nicer to people I care about, I have a lot of patience and hardly ever lose my temper. But I don't care to really go out of my way to talk to new people or people at the store, neighbors, etc. We have lived here since 06 and I still don't know hardly any of our neighbors whereas he knows them all.

[heyjojo]

We are equally as nice, but I'm much much more social. Only thing is he looks friendlier on account of my "bitchy resting face", people always think I'm not friendly.

[SteelCity44]

Weird that on an internet forum, the spouses are in the majority here for being less socially awkward. Hmmm.

[creamsiclechica]

I think I want you guys to guess if me or
Matt is nicer lol

[bigapple]

Me, definitely. DH is always amazed when doormen and cart guys greet me by name when I pass because he would never think of pausing to chat. Or just compare our career paths: public service and nonprofits vs. Big Law and investment banks.

[carawestt]

ladybug I get what you're saying about Ian but he was very nice! Once he warms up to everyone, he's fun!

[The Foozzler]

Jul 31, 2013 15:27:08 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

H is more interested in making other people happy. I am more interested in making myself happy. So ... I guess him? lol

This. Exactly this.

[kdrake8]

H is much much nicer. He will be polite til the bitter end of any situation of possible. I will turn into bitch mode pretty quick.

All the old ladies in our townhouse neighborhood loved him and not many of them even bothered talking to me. Lol.

[charlielove]

Jul 31, 2013 15:40:45 GMT -5 creamsiclechica said:

I think I want you guys to guess if me or
Matt is nicer lol

You!

[carawestt]

Jul 31, 2013 15:40:00 GMT -5 @therealmc said:

E and I are equally mean to all people. But seriously, E is nice and respectful to everyone and almost never opens his mouth if someone pisses him off (unless it is severe or he knows the person well). I, on the other hand, can be quite rude and bitchy to annoying people but I am always pleasant to pleasant people.

We sound so alike!

[irish625]

I'm the nicer one I guess. I'm more of a people pleaser and can pretty easily talk to anyone, and DH is more quiet and less trusting of people. I think he's more realistic in this way and I want to believe in puppies and rainbows.

[carawestt]

Jul 31, 2013 15:46:26 GMT -5 @therealmc said:

Jul 31, 2013 15:43:51 GMT -5 carawestt said:

We sound so alike!

It drives E crazy sometimes but I seriously have almost zero tolerance for people who completely unaware that other people exist within their radius.  I think it is more pronounced for me since I live in such a large city and have people in such close quarters.  People here can be so oblivious, it makes me insane.

I was in a bitchy mood the whole time I was in NY, everyone pissed me off. I can't imagine how mean I'd be if I lived there.