I am so much nicer than DH. I CONTINUALLY think about others to my own detriment. Even if it negatively impacts myself, as long as everyone else is happy, I am happy. I rarely think about myself first. I don't know why I am like this.
I am the exact same way.
And now, a situational example. MH and I play ultimate frisbee (it's like football and soccer rolled into one, but using a frisbee instead of a ball). MH will routinely argue about the rules with people we are playing against, much to my embarrassment. I usually run over and calm down any "discussions" that get heated, because CAN'T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG!?!
We are nice in different ways. My H is laid back and everyone seems to like him. He was Mr Nice guy in college. I get really bitchy but think of others more and am more charitable. When I'm nice I'm really nice - go out of my way for you nice - and H is more obligatory nice all the time.
I am rather socially awkward and H is 100x worse. Sadly, all of our shared traits are bad ones (socially awkward, procrastinators, messy, pack rat, hated school work). A is in trouble...
Hmm it's hard to say. I'm very "nice" to people usually because I dislike confrontation (in person. Obviously I am fine with Internet confrontation lol).
But I don't start talking to neighbors or random people and I get nervous about social situations. Hubby would talk to anyone anywhere, he speaks with neighbors, by choice! Gasp.
But he's also not at all afraid of confrontation and likes nothing better than a heated debate about religion, politic etc. also he's not very nice In The car, like he gets ragey and will scream at people sometimes. I am a sheepish overly nice driver who is always taken advantage of.
DH is nicer. Very calm, very kind, very patient. I tend to get impatient and pissed off with people/situations pretty easily. The only thing where I may edge him a bit is thoughtfulness - he will give you the shirt off his back, but only after you ask. He can be so preoccupied with work, etc that he doesn't notice things. Only a teeny issue, though. Otherwise, he wins.
DH is definitely nicer. If someone annoys him, he'll just shrug it off and ignore it. If someone annoys me, I usually tell them to eff off. That also includes family.
Post by imimahoney on Jul 31, 2013 19:45:09 GMT -5
I don't know!
In general we are both very nice BUT I can get extremely bitchy and catty. But he can be super introverted and come off as not so nice. I would say I am more bitchy than he is introverted so, he is nicer than I am. I guess...
Underneath, DH and I are equal. On the surface, he's nicer. He just doesn't like to rock the boat with people and will agree with people and be nice when he doesn't mean it.
It depends. In general, I am the more social of the two of us and genuinely enjoy people (even random strangers), whereas he's more socially awkward and often waaaay too blunt. That said, he's much more patient than I am with colleagues/employees. I have a low tolerance for office BS, and he's always willing to give people another shot. We balance each other nicely, I think.
I am way nicer. Even if I have resting bitchface some of the time.
Not that DH isn't nice, per se, but he is very ambitious and motivated and a lightning rod for drama and assholes. He attracts a lot of conflict, it's something about his personality. So, nice isn't a word I'd use to describe him. He can talk to anyone though, we joke he could make conversation with a rock.