Post by starrieskies on Aug 2, 2013 10:23:35 GMT -5
Comfortable. She and I have been through a lot together, so most of the time when we get together we either talk non stop or just enjoy having the other person around. We're both going through a bit of a rough patch lately, so we spend a lot of time assuring the other person that everything will be ok.
Sadly, I don't get to spend as much time as I would like with her, but that will get easier soon I'm sure.
Post by partiallysunny on Aug 2, 2013 10:33:01 GMT -5
BFF from high school - okay. We're both hermits, so it's hard to get together and make plans.
BFF from work - great. We text ever couple of says, but I miss her like crazy.
BFF mother figure - also okay. I don't see her as much as I'd like. I should try harder.
But being friends with me is hard, I admit. I'm usually content to text every once and awhile to keep in touch and make an effort to visit once a month.
My bestie friend just got engaged. I am so excited for her! We don't see or talk to each other as much as I'd like. She goes to school on the other side of the country.
I'm a hermit too. I have a hard time making/keeping friends.
I'm usually content to just hang out once in awhile and text here and there, but most people want to go to every.single.thing that looks even remotely interesting in a 50 mile radius. It looks exhausting.
I mean, I skipped the whole party thing in my early 20's because I'd be the idiot who showed up to the bars at 6 pm and couldn't figure out why it was empty. Apparently people don't go out until 11 pm. Dude, by that hour, I'm in bed watching tv.
DAMN KIDS, GET OFF MY LAWN!!!
ETA: Oh yeah, the question... I dumped my closest friend a couple years ago. She got to the point where she'd only call or text if she broke up with her BF and needed help moving. Sorry, find another schmuck to move your couch. Again.
BFF - We've known each other since kindergarten, and are very close. She's more like a sister to me. We try to email pretty regularly and we chat on the phone probably once every couple of weeks. We get together about once a month, and I sometimes wish it was more often, but life gets busy. She got married last year, and our H's also get along great and call or text each other. I'd say most of our get-togethers are double-dates out, or dinner the four of us at one of our houses. It's always a good time, and I love them both as family. They mean a lot to us.
my friend K - I've known her since grade 6 or 7. We'll email or use FB or gmail chat most of the time to catch up. We don't see each other that often anymore (probably once or twice a year.) But when I do see her, we pick up right where we left off, as if no time has passed. It's great.
my friend L - I've known her since high school. When she was local, we used to email or call each other every day. Her and her H actually moved a couple of years ago, and they now have two young kids. We don't see them much, and I do find that since she's become a mom, she spends a lot more time with her other friends who are moms. I'm not really bothered by it, and I guess it's pretty normal, but I definitely miss her at times.
My closest friend we talk daily during work, and get together when we can.
My other friends live so far away that it is hard.
All my friends from HS have such different lives than me that the friendships faded away. I was the only one that moved away for college and now live in a city. They have families and live in the town we grew up in. They are still nice people we just don't have much in common anymore.
Post by pinkplasticdoll on Aug 2, 2013 12:07:50 GMT -5
I talk to them daily. They give fantastic advice. They are in different places in their life than I am but they are supportive of everything I do.They are amazing ladies who know me very well. I have only met them once and they live in my computer.
hmmmm....my bf seems to rotate for a group of 3. we are all friends,but depending on life really dictates to who I am closest to in the group. One's dad dies last week and he had been suffering for a bit, so Ive really be BF with her in the last year or so. We have had parallel lives...our kids are a year apart...our divorce a year apart...our remarriage a year apart...we talk a few times a week...travel together to festivals...we are most alike of the 4 of us. She lives 2 hours away so we don't physically see each other too much..every couple of months.
I talk to them daily. They give fantastic advice. They are in different places in their life than I am but they are supportive of everything I do.They are amazing ladies who know me very well. I have only met them once and they live in my computer.
My BFF from high school and I don't talk anymore. I don't know what her deal is. I got tired of one-sidedly trying to keep the friendship going. She didn't contact me at all when she got pregnant. I found out and wrote congrats to her, and got nothing back, so I am done.
My two for real BFFs are old modeling friends. I've known them for 17 years now. I talk/text/email with both of them nearly every day. They both live on the other side of the country, which sucks.
Post by notsureboutlife on Aug 8, 2013 15:51:56 GMT -5
We have been married for almost 16 years and I think I am just waking up to find out I have been living a nightmare. It's not me it's Him! I think you all are witnessing my epiphany! He has been isolating me from people.
We have been married for almost 16 years and I think I am just waking up to find out I have been living a nightmare. It's not me it's Him! I think you all are witnessing my epiphany! He has been isolating me from people.
My H tried to do this to me as well. Sadly, I allowed it for a while. Happily, I don't anymore and you don't have to either.
Post by notsureboutlife on Aug 8, 2013 16:13:21 GMT -5
That is what my councilor has pointed out. He has slowly been doing this and I have let him! I am a stronger person than this. I am going to give it one last shot at showing him how he is treating me. I suspect that he already knows this and will just tell me to leave. I am scared to death, but feel more empowered just knowing I am not crazy he really is doing this.
That is what my councilor has pointed out. He has slowly been doing this and I have let him! I am a stronger person than this. I am going to give it one last shot at showing him how he is treating me. I suspect that he already knows this and will just tell me to leave. I am scared to death, but feel more empowered just knowing I am not crazy he really is doing this.
I'm sorry you've been through that.
Welcome to the board...you should stick around! The ladies here are great.
I'm glad we got to witness your epiphany. Definitely stick around, the ladies here are very supportive. Good for you for realizing what he's doing and deciding to do something about it.