DH starts his new job in two weeks

[cuddlyevil]

And he may have a Monday through Friday schedule.

I don't what sort of an impact this will have on our situation.

[tiramisu]

That still depends on his attitude and behavior, I would imagine.

[margarita]

That's good. I know you were saying that his job situation wasn't ideal and was getting him down. I hope this will be a positive thing for you guys.

How are you doing, BTW?

[cuddlyevil]

He will be gone for five days for training too. So I will have a few days with just the kids and I.

I know some of his stress will go away because of the new job. But the hours may be longer so we shall see if it affects his overall attitude.

I don't have high hopes.

[cuddlyevil]

I am okay. Got another therapy session on Monday.

Am not sure where I am on it all. I was amorous on Wednesday and then last night was all "OMG stop touching me!".when he put his hand on my leg. He has been calling me at work to see how I am doing. So I think he is attempting to try but he is still playing the game until way late.

[tiramisu]

It's like every now and then he almost gets it, but not quite. I'll frustrated for you. Also I'm trying to hold some hope for you two, but I know his actions (or inaction) will determine your course of action and I think that's smart.

[cuddlyevil]

Yeah, he knows something is up and is trying to find a way to fix it without over exerting himself.

[motzie]

Aug 2, 2013 19:11:03 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

Yeah, he knows something is up and is trying to find a way to fix it without over exerting himself.

Right. He's still not willing to give up the game.

[cuddlyevil]

Exactly Motzie. It is just a matter of time before the other shoe drops and things go back to normal.

[captainmel]

Didn't he tell you he was going to do just enough to satisfy you until he could go back to being lazy?
That's what he is doing.

How is therapy going?

[cuddlyevil]

I've only had one session so far. I go again on Monday. I like her and I am interested in what she thinks about some of the things that happened over the last two weeks.

[imoan]

This isn't going to change him. You just keep waiting for something to magically fix him. Any man who'd rather spend all day playing video games instead of spending time with his family is unfixable. I'm not sure why you think a different work schedule will fix him. Im assuming it's wishful thinking.

[Muddled]

Hasn't he told you that he doesn't want to change? Why don't you believe him?

He has used work as an excuse for a while. I am interested to see what happens when he doesn't have that one to fall back on anymore.

I hope your next session goes well.

[cuddlyevil]

Maybe it's just wishful thinking. I know his current position causes him a lot of stress and when he is stressed he withdraws. I don't know if the new job will help or hurt.

I am going to bring it up in my session on Monday.

I want to be sure I have tried everything before saying "that's it, I am done"

[starrieskies]

Aug 3, 2013 17:49:26 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

I completely understand this, cuddlyevil!  I hope your session today goes well!  I was thinking about you all weekend!

Just please remember that all of your efforts won't change anything unless your H decides to make a change too.