Update on situation with XH/visitation

[achase123]

I still haven't heard back from my lawyer which is frustrating.

However, I ended up dropping P off at XH's sister's house and he was there for about three hours for a BBQ. His grandparents brought him home.

I spoke to his sister beforehand because she had called me and asked if I'd be willing to let P come to the BBQ. I said I needed to be frank with her and tell her that under NO circumstances was she to let XH drive with P. I told her I was trusting her as P's auntie and as a mom. I also filled her in on XH lying to me about drinking and driving with P, since she was already getting involved I figured I'd let her know where I was coming from.

When I dropped P off I asked XH to talk outside and I reiterated that he was NOT to go anywhere with P. I also told him that the more I thought about him lying to me about having drank and drove with P, the more furious I got. I said I simply was astounded at the lengths he went to trying to make me feel guilty for questionning his "sobriety" when, in fact, he HAD been drinking!!! I said "you're incredibly SICK". He looked at me and said "Hey, I'm sorry, A". I said "You SHOULD be". And then I left.

He also went on and on about what's going to happen going forward and kept saying "you HAVE to let my dad or my GF come and pick him up, you HAVE to let me have my eight hour visit on Sunday". I told him "I don't have to do anything and don't you dare suggest that I do".

I just figured I'd update you ladies about everything. Thanks for your encouragement and words of support!

[explorer2001]

Good for you for being strong. Good that you are protecting P. Hugs.

[doriswe]

Hopefully you'll hear from your lawyer soon!

[dakotadangerdog]

Way to go A! Don't let him try to tell you what you HAVE to do. The only thing you HAVE to do is protect your son, and that's what you are doing.

[hotmess]

What an incredibly frustrating and angry situation. You're a good mom - and I hope this legally is resolved for you quickly.

[heavenly]

Standing your grounds makes you an excellent mother Achase!

[mandimija]

Is this idiot really so *dense* as to not realize the kind of reaction one provokes when you willfully endanger a woman's child? Especially when one then lies about it? Fuckwit...

I hope this gets sorted soon. P is lucky to have you as a mom.

[hainesherway]

Great job, AChase!

[kellbell191]

You have given him just enough rope to hang himself with. I have a feeling this will come out in your favor and am crossing my fingers.

[udscoobychick]

Good for you for standing up to him...I hope this all gets resolved soon!

[Deleted]

I'm glad you are standing your ground. When you first had your suspicions I suggested only doing supervised visits and his actions have only affirmed this.

Good luck. I know dealing with him is just one big migraine after the next.

[compassrose]

It sounds like you made the best of the situation. P got to see that side of the family, and you were able to made sure he was safe. And no excuses from your ex, just an apology. Sounds like a good day's work to me.

[theycallmeliz]

How frustrating it must be for you to have to go through all these extra lengths because your X cannot be trusted. You are a super mom for even considering his side of the family and going out of your way. Stay strong and I hope you hear from your lawyer soon!