Did you have a bachelorette party?

[Deleted]

What did you do?? I have zero female friends down here - depressing, but am thinking of trying to get my sisters and some friends that will be in town together while I'm in my hometown next month. Dinner, drinks and dancing sounds good to me!

Is 3+ months before too early to party or what? ;D

[ECB]

We went out drinking at the local popular "bar scene" section of town. We used my house as home base, cabbed over. Once we were 'over' that scene, we came back to my neighborhood and hit a local bar. Nothing fancy, but a ton of fun!

[fussbucket]

I had two, one with school friends who largely were not invited to the wedding but who wanted to go out drinking to celebrate anyways, and the other with my local friends who were going to the wedding -- also just a night out drinking on the town. Both were a mix of men and women.

[partiallysunny]

We had a joint bachelor/ bachelorette party that the best man threw at his house. About 15-20 friends at best man's house. It was a ton of fun.

It was the night before the wedding, but I don't see anything wrong with having it a couple months before especially if travelling is involved.

[Muddled]

I didn't, but I don't think there is anything wrong with havign a party 3 months before the wedding. In fact, I think that's the best way to go. It's convenient and those are the people you want there. Do it.

[margarita]

I didn't, but the one I went to this weekend was pretty good.

We went into the city for the night and had dinner at this restaurant that the bride loves. Then, we went to a club/bar for drinking and dancing. We also took her to the fire hall, which she thoroughly enjoyed.

I think 3 months before sounds fine. You should do it!

[exploding people]

My friends threw me a Pure Romance party and then we went to the bar. Mine was the week before, but I don't see anything wrong with 3 months.

[mrssavy42112]

Nope. My MOH dropped off the face of the earth a month before my wedding, so no bach for me. It was no biggie, I'm not into that stuff anyway.

[bowies]

I'll come drink with you DL! Or you can come up here and we can pick up some Russian prostitutes at the oceanfront.

I had a small bachelorette party about a month beforehand. I just wanted to go to some bars and hang out, but the girlfriend of a friend decided that was lame and tried to force me into the "dress up and have a scavenger hunt" thing. It ended up being the suck.

[imoan]

Yes. My parents threw H's bachelor party and my bachelorette party. Friday night- they did the traditional drinks and stripper for H. Then the very next night, I got shiiiiiiitfaced and my sister and I MAY have chased the stripper out of the house yelling "Giovanni- we want to have your babies!". This was also the night we told my mom and stepmom the weirdest places we've had sex. ::hangs head in shame::

The funniest part was Saturday afternoon, I'm cleaning up from H's bachelor party and getting read for my bachelorette. I find H's button down shirt (he left in just a t-shirt) and his belt BEHIND the tv! LMFAO!

[sillygoosegirl]

No. Half the people I would have wanted to invite were guys, it would have required most of us to fly as I didn't live near my friends (which none of us could afford), and I'm not into traditional bachelorette party stuff anyway. I would have liked it if we could have done a non-traditional bachelor/bachelorette party (like mini golf or D&D or something), but again there was the flying problem.

[kellbell191]

Yes, all my friends are OOT so we met in Atlantic city. I just went to one in Miami and am going to one in DC next month. All of these have been several months out from the wedding so that doesn't seem off to me.

[dev22]

We went to a spa. It was wild

[maucat]

Yes, it was the same day as my bridal shower because my best friend & MoH flew across the country to be here for them. We pre-partied at a friend's condo, then were driven downtown by get boyfriend and his friends. We did dinner and then drinks & dancing and had a blast. I think this was about 3 months before the wedding.

[idris]

Yeah, about a week before the wedding. It was at my aunt's house. We played games and won dirty prizes. It was fun. We're doing my future SIL's party a couple weeks before the wedding. She's getting married in Disney. Then we are going to have another small one in Disney (drinking around the world at Epcot).

[roselis]

Yes, but with how it went, I wish I didn't.
My sister/MOH was incredibly shy and reserved so she asked my bridesmaids to plan one for me. My friend J took over. I had several other friends offer and I directed them to her. She came up with the plan that Saturday night we have a small party and then Sunday we go to the Renaissance Faire. I loved the idea.
Instead, she planned her moving date for that Saturday, so only a few people came to the "party" and everyone went to bed early because they were tired. Sunday was a disaster too.

[Deleted]

We had a joint bachelor / bachelorette party and it was AMAZING. It was about a month before the wedding.

The MOH and BM rented a party bus and drove to the Rennaissance Faire. Then we got dinner at this awesome Mediterannean place on the way home that my sister found. Then we went back to my parents' house and hung out by the pool. It was seriously amazing.

[bullygirl979]

I did a weekend away with my bridal party. We rented a cottage at Niagara on the Lake and went on a wine tour and had a spa day. Crazy times!!!

[roselis]

Jun 19, 2012 8:03:52 GMT -5 @feinicstine said:

We had a joint bachelor / bachelorette party and it was AMAZING. It was about a month before the wedding.

The MOH and BM rented a party bus and drove to the Rennaissance Faire. Then we got dinner at this awesome Mediterannean place on the way home that my sister found. Then we went back to my parents' house and hung out by the pool. It was seriously amazing.

Ok, I must admit that I love that we both had our bachelorette at the renfaire.......

[Deleted]

Sounds like some interesting stories ladies! I think I will do it, my good friend who will be in town said she will help me plan it. It'll just be a few friends including my fab gay male friends and my sisters/sister in law. I am looking forward to it. I wish my FI's sisters were in the area, they are lots of fun too. I'll have to plan something special with them when they come in to town for the wedding.

And Bowies, I'll never turn down some drinks with you!

[beebeeeater]

That sounds fun DL!

I did have one, but since all four sisters (two mine, two DHs) were under 21 at the time, my mom and MIL came so it wasn't too wild - we took a party bus to Boston, walked around shopping, went to a Red Sox game (where we played bachelorette party games in the underneath part of Fenway Park and got to try on the world series ring since it was 08 and they had just won like 6 months before), then went out to dinner in the North End and drank pitchers of sangria before getting back on the bus to go home. It was really fun.

[macmars45]

My four older sister threw a surprise bachelorette party for me two days before my wedding. Well it was suppose to be a surprise but my MOH and oldest sister let it slip. It was really fun and a nice thing for my sisters to do for me. They invited my three BFFs, my mom, aunts and cousins. You'd think that would be weird but it was okay.

3 months beforehand is fine if that's what works for all your friends and you.

[BettyBookWorm]

Jun 18, 2012 14:12:15 GMT -5 doglove said:

What did you do?? I have zero female friends down here - depressing, but am thinking of trying to get my sisters and some friends that will be in town together while I'm in my hometown next month. Dinner, drinks and dancing sounds good to me!

Is 3+ months before too early to party or what? ;D

Yes, I had one. We just went downtown and bar-hopped a bit. We had a good time, but the pregnant (16 weeks) bridesmaid didn't feel well after a while, and so we came home to do girlie movies & smores.

Honestly I would have loved just the movie + smores all along, but my MoH wanted me to have the traditional type of party.

I say if you want to have take out with your friends, bring booze (if you choose) and watch movies then go for it. If you want strippers and body shots you can do that too lol.

[tacokick]

I didn't. I don't like a lot of ladies and the whole idea seems lame-ish.

[Muddled]

Jun 19, 2012 12:21:57 GMT -5 tacokick said:

I didn't. I don't like a lot of ladies and the whole idea seems lame-ish.

Hard to go out with your girlfriends if you don't have any, I guess.

Why is it lame to celebrate with your friends?

[So_Fetch]

We ended up having to do mine in August even though we got married in October - everyone's schedules were so crazy. We did a weekend in Reno, NV (less than 2 hours away). We sat by the pool and thrift shopped by day and went out to a club and dinner at night. I believe the first night we played a dirty truth or dare type game. It was fun - my bridesmaids, my mom, and my aunt. (my aunt got incredibly drunk and was the only one who threw up). GOOD TIMES.

[crabby]

We did a joint bachelor/bachelorette party because we knew the guys and girls would end up going to the same places anyway. We did it about a month before, but I say do it whenever you can! You can come visit me - I'll drink with you :-)

[Deleted]

Crabby - you know I would love to have drinks with you!

[tmonoxide]

No.

A friend of mine named Arlene got some of us together -- me, my good friend who was in the wedding party and, sheesh, 3 or 4 of Arlene's friends, 2 of who I didn't even know (To this day, I still don't know why she asked those 2 people along; they weren't even friends of hers, just acquaintances) and me.

My MOH and other BM decided not to go (I had 3 women in my BP and only the afore-mentioned BM friend who was in the wedding party attended); they "boycotted", they said, because Arlene backed out of being in my wedding.

They could have attended, just for solidarity's sake.

We all went to a local restaurant that had a live band play after the dinner hour. It's actually a real popular place to go, even now, it's been there since forever; it draws a mixed crowd on weekends. The bands there are usually some of the best.

I think bachelorette parties suck, on the whole. Dumb drinking and stupid shitty "games" -- ask the bride what SHE would like to do!

IT's her party, after all.

Maybe she wants to see a play or musical or go to the nearest big city and just hang out, or one of a hundred other things.

If it was up to me, I'd rather have seen a Broadway show and then had dinner in the city, or went to a Knicks game and dinner instead. Or the bunch of us go down the shore and to one of the bars/restaurants/clubs there.