Is your husband sensitive about his weight?

[charlielove]

I was discussing this with my friend. She had a baby 6 months ago, and was telling me she's lost all of the baby weight, but her husband hasn't. She (gently) brought it up to him and he proceeded to pout for the next 2 days.

My H is the exact same way. Down to the pregnancy weight he's gained with my 2 pregnancies and hasn't lost. lol

[TrudyCampbell]

I wish my husband could ever gain an ounce! He eats SO MUCH CRAP and he is so skinny. Drives me nuts.

[Deleted]

Mine is. He monitors his weight on his own and will exercise to lose weight when he thinks he needs to. I think it is because he was overweight as a child and he doesn't want to be again.

[JuliaGulia]

My DH is very sensitive about it. He has gained 80lbs since we got married. He did really good for awhile before his back surgery but lately he has been gaining a lot. I never say anything directly but I will say we need to eat better and we should go for a walk etc etc. I don't want to hurt his feelings but I do wish he would lose some weight specially since he has had back surgery already and extra weight can be really bad for it.

[Deleted]

Mine is very self conscious but it has to do with his job as a personal trainer

[katie]

I think a little bit. He does randomly exercise and tries to cut out certain foods. He sartrd before our beach vacation and it worked. I on the other hand sat and ate the portions he didn't. I wish I was motivated.

[carawestt]

Mine isn't sensitive about it but never thinks he looks good enough, even though I always tell him he does.

ETA our pedi asked if he lost weight at Lincoln's appt last week and H lit up haha.

[jfh]

He's a little sensitive. He gained sympathy weight with Kai and he hasn't lost it. I don't notice his sensitivity until he tells me to delete a photo or something because his belly is sticking out.

[fusion]

Not really. He's lost 20 lbs recently though and thinks he's the shit

[eav2c]

Extremely. He is technically overweight but I do think BMI is a bit of a sham. When I got pennant with C he also started a desk job so his activity changed a lot and then in combination with some serious bad eating habits, mostly due to me being a pig, he put on 60lbs. I love him, I don't think he looks bad or is big but for health reasons I do hope he gets healthier as heart problems run in his family.

[sunshineluv]

Aug 7, 2013 17:52:20 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

I wish my husband could ever gain an ounce! He eats SO MUCH CRAP and he is so skinny. Drives me nuts.

This is my DH too. 

[spaghetticat]

Yes.

But if he went to me and said I needed to lose weight, I would pout about it too.

I do tell him I want us to be healthier but it's not so much bc of weight. I worry about his health.

[charlielove]

Aug 7, 2013 18:16:13 GMT -5 spaghetticat said:

Yes.

But if he went to me and said I needed to lose weight, I would pout about it too.

I do tell him I want us to be healthier but it's not so much bc of weight. I worry about his health.

Oh, if he dared tell me I needed to lose weight I would be so pissed! haha I've always gone about it in a "we need to eat healthier, work out" sort of way, but he still pouts, which I think is humorous since he acts like he couldn't care less about it generally.

[Deleted]

Very. He gained the same amount I did during my pregnancy, and has kept gaining. He gets really bent if I bring it up, and keeps saying he wants to lose it, but doesn't do anything about it.

[creamsiclechica]

Sort of. Matt's is more about his physical fitness (and the appearance hat comes with it). You guys have seen my husband, he is FINE, but he is stuck on this idea he can't do what he used to. He always tells me he's skinny fat (which he explains in guy speak means fat stomach/skinny, un-muscular arms). He CAN'T do what he used to because of his multitude of injuries from deploying, but don't let that fool you, he's a fucking robot. He can't go to the gym and lift because he had elbow surgery in February and that's about all he can't do.

He just did a 63 mile bike race with no training. WTF. Infuriating.

[charlielove]

Yeah, DH can just pick up and run 5 miles out of nowhere. Ugh.

[imimahoney]

Yes. He is very self conscious. He has had weight issues his entire life and is always working out, trying to get fit. Sometimes he is worse than me. 

[creamsiclechica]

Aug 7, 2013 18:42:17 GMT -5 charlielove said:

Yeah, DH can just pick up and run 5 miles out of nowhere. Ugh.

Right?!  Like I love and hate him for it.  I'm proud of what he can do.  And he's so supportive of me running, etc, but the whole time he's running next to me, I'm angry thinking how easy it is for him when I'm sucking so bad, lol.

[teamhayes]

mine is self conscious about it especially when clothes don't fit or it is bathing suit season. he is more concerned with being big thatn overweight though

we started insanity and a modified south beach and he is doing well minus the beer and cupcake he even signed up for myfitness pal

[jaime183]

Aug 7, 2013 18:16:02 GMT -5 sunshineluv said:

Aug 7, 2013 17:52:20 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

I wish my husband could ever gain an ounce! He eats SO MUCH CRAP and he is so skinny. Drives me nuts.

This is my DH too. 

me too

[bigapple]

My husband gets really self conscious if he loses his muscle tone. He's pretty lean and tries hard to pack on muscle. I don't think he'll ever be fat, though. Everyone in his family is very slim.

[lauranicole91]

Mine is self conscious about how skinny he is. Does that count? He hates when he loses weight and gets frustrated when he shops because not many styles seem to carry a size 28(at least not where we shop). He wouldn't necessarily pout if someone commented but he does mention now and again that he wishes he could pack on some pounds.

[helicase]

Yes. MH gains in the winter and loses in the summer. He's currently on an eating healthy kick and he's doing a great job. I hope he maintains it this winter to break the cycle (for his sake, not mine. I think he always looks good).

[mrsjaymay]

Yes, and it's frustrating. We eat pretty healthy but we aren't perfect. H is the type that needs to work out and work out HARD to lose weight. I feel badly for him because it's been a constant struggle. He needs to lose 30-40lbs to be at a happy weight.

I've lost all my baby weight and while I'm not really that happy with my muscle tone, I'm ok with the number on the scale and have zero motivation to work out. When he gets upset about his weight he blames me for not being supportive of his endeavors to lose. But I am supportive! I just can't get motivated to do it myself. Le sigh...

[rjamz]

Sometimes, he's thin but gets a belly when he gains weight. But he rarely does anything about it. I've stopped commenting bc I realized I was saying stuff to him when I was really upset with the way I look. Luckily he understood that way before I did so he didn't take it personally.

[careyalis]

Jeff has never been sensitive about his weight, but he has never really been overweight. He was chubby in college, but that's about it. He is just pretty active in general and eats decently healthy without trying so it balances out.

[Beener]

Extremely. He used to be fat through high school and tells me all the time his worst memories are when he had to shop in the "husky" section for school clothes. He dropped a ton of weight in college and, coincidentally, that's when we met and started dating so he is convinced I only find him attractive when he's that fit, even though I told him that when I look back at pictures of us then he looks too skinny to me.

His self consciousness has gotten way worse since his hair loss kicked into overdrive. Oy.

[juliamastro]

My H is a little insecure and I can tell he gets the sads from it. apparently he was a big hot shot basketball guy in high school and quit working out and eating right all together after that. I think hes gained about 40 lbs since we have known each other. He sometimes says, "I need to start running I'm getting so fat..." but never cares enough to actually do something about it
He doesn't look very over weight, I can tell he has gained but I still think he looks good! I would never tell him I think he needs to lose weight, because it would hurt my feelings if he told me that. 

[Deleted]

Mine isn't sensitive about it. I wish he was, just a little bit, lol. He could stand to lose 10lbs but he's not motivated.
I wish us women could just "switch off" WRT weight and self image like men can.

[bigapple]

Aug 7, 2013 19:44:23 GMT -5 lauranicole91 said:

Mine is self conscious about how skinny he is. Does that count? He hates when he loses weight and gets frustrated when he shops because not many styles seem to carry a size 28(at least not where we shop). He wouldn't necessarily pout if someone commented but he does mention now and again that he wishes he could pack on some pounds.

Mine has trouble with pants, too. He wears a 32W/36L, which is pretty much impossible to find.