Sad news (loss mentioned)

[raynes]

We got a call from SIL last night and it was not good news.

She went for her NT/IPS scan yesterday and there was no heartbeat.  The baby stopped growing 5 weeks ago.

Poor girl is just devastated.  She'd finally gotten to a place where she was excited about the baby.  She goes for a D&C tomorrow.

I'd posted before about them trying to decide whether or not to get married this year or next year (they decided next year).

I want to do something for her, but I don't know what.  They live 2.5 hours away, so it'll have to be mailed/ordered.  I know that they generally say not to do flowers 'cause they die and stuff, but what about a potted plant?  Or just g/c for food?  Or just a card? 

If you have any suggestions I'd love to hear them.

[TrudyCampbell]

Ugh, that's just awful. I'm so sorry.

I think anything you send would be a nice gesture. I like the idea of a plant or someone the other day suggested comfy pjs.

[Beener]

Aww man that sucks. Maybe a g.c. to a nice restaurant so they could have a night out to try to forget (as much as possible) about this?

[bebeetmoi]

That is so terrible. So heartbreaking:(. I think a plant would be a lovely gesture.

[charmediamsure]

When this happened to a friend of mine I sent her a basket of things: some Bath and Body Works stuff, candy, a few teas that she likes, and a Willow Tree Angel. I think it was the Angel of Remembrance. I also found a really good card specific to miscarriages at Hallmark, it talked about hope and said things better than I ever could have.

[Deleted]

Something pretty and easy to keep alive would be nice. Like moss roses or bamboo.

I love the comfy pj idea.

[sunshineluv]

I am so sorry, that is so sad.

[skiesthelimit]

Oh no, I'm sorry

[formerlyllizzyb]

So sad. I'm sorry. I have my girl friend a care package for her late loss: throw blanket, baked goodies, tea, hot chocolate, magazines.

[raynes]

These are great ideas ladies, thank you.

[livinreality]

I am so sorry, absolutely horrible time for them. Nothing worse than an ultrasound and no heartbeat. This happened to me between DS1 and DS2 and I think a gift card for food or PJs sound like a great idea. I was unable to cook dinner for a couple of weeks and a gift card for take out would have been nice (like someone saying it was ok not to feel up to making dinner).

[fryjack2]

I don't like caring for plants, so I'd hate that

How about a GC for a spa treatment?

[melis74]

I'm so sorry, that is awful. I like the pjs suggestion and/or restaurant gc.

[katfco]

I think all the suggestions above are good, but I just want to say I'm so sorry for her.

[raynes]

Would something like this be inappropriate? Maybe wait a bit to see how she wants to deal with it? www.etsy.com/listing/76710023/miscarriage-infant-pregnancy-loss?ref=shop_home_active

[bean47]

So heartbreaking

[breezy8407]

I'm sorry.

This happened to a friend/co-worker years back. Two of us went together and got a nice plant. She is a plant person though.

[ruby412]

Oh gosh, how sad.

[carawestt]

Aw I'm sorry, that's really sad

[livinreality]

Aug 8, 2013 10:08:58 GMT -5 raynes said:

Would something like this be inappropriate? Maybe wait a bit to see how she wants to deal with it? www.etsy.com/listing/76710023/miscarriage-infant-pregnancy-loss?ref=shop_home_active

Maybe? I would wait to see how she deals with it.  I would have appreciated it a couple weeks after the fact, but not right away.

[rxbeth]

Oh, no. That's horrilbe. I'll think of them.