Post by starrieskies on Aug 8, 2013 10:39:25 GMT -5
I think I have it all covered here on my end... I'm just nervous and feel like I'm going to have a panic attack. I can't believe I'm doing this. I'm glad I'm doing it, and I'm not turning back now, I'm just kind of freaking out a little bit...
H said when he was leaving that he thinks they'll probably be home around 6 or 7 Sunday night. That gives me a little more time than I'd originally thought.
I wish I didn't have to be at work today, but the little girl we're doing the charity event for this weekend is coming to meet us. I can't miss that.
Post by starrieskies on Aug 8, 2013 11:57:33 GMT -5
Thanks guys! I'm just ready for this part to be over.
I've decided to leave a note. I'm still struggling with what to say and how much detail to go into, but I think that's the easiest way to ensure my safety and DS's too. (not to mention my sanity)
Take lots of deep breaths and remind yourself of all the reasons you have been planning and waiting for this day. It's the start of a new chapter. You have got this.
Are you staying with family? (no need to respond in case H could find you here) Have you discussed what to do in case of H stalking?
Post by starrieskies on Aug 8, 2013 12:21:30 GMT -5
Yes, staying with family. And I'm planning on being done before noon on Sunday. I might not even go back to the house Saturday night. It depends on how quickly I can get this all done.
If stalking and harassment becomes an issue, I have already downloaded the paperwork to fill out for a temporary protection order for myself and DS. I have more than enough evidence built up that I should have no problem getting one, but don't want to take that step unless I absolutely have to.
Oh YES! I almost forgot! My bosses issued me a company cell phone. H doesn't know about it and they will not give him the number. That means I can just turn my personal cell phone off for the next few days! It's amazing how all of these little pieces have fallen right into place...
Yes, staying with family. And I'm planning on being done before noon on Sunday. I might not even go back to the house Saturday night. It depends on how quickly I can get this all done.
If stalking and harassment becomes an issue, I have already downloaded the paperwork to fill out for a temporary protection order for myself and DS. I have more than enough evidence built up that I should have no problem getting one, but don't want to take that step unless I absolutely have to.
Oh YES! I almost forgot! My bosses issued me a company cell phone. H doesn't know about it and they will not give him the number. That means I can just turn my personal cell phone off for the next few days! It's amazing how all of these little pieces have fallen right into place...
Post by starrieskies on Aug 8, 2013 13:00:31 GMT -5
LOL Ziti!
Thanks you guys. I'd debated on whether or not to even start this thread because I feel like its all I post about these days, but I'm so glad I did. I am actually feeling better. I still could use a drink (it's only 11:00 here), but I'm going to get through this. If it was easy it wouldn't be worth it.
Yes, staying with family. And I'm planning on being done before noon on Sunday. I might not even go back to the house Saturday night. It depends on how quickly I can get this all done.
If stalking and harassment becomes an issue, I have already downloaded the paperwork to fill out for a temporary protection order for myself and DS. I have more than enough evidence built up that I should have no problem getting one, but don't want to take that step unless I absolutely have to.
Oh YES! I almost forgot! My bosses issued me a company cell phone. H doesn't know about it and they will not give him the number. That means I can just turn my personal cell phone off for the next few days! It's amazing how all of these little pieces have fallen right into place...
Definitely keep us updated, Starries. We are all so happy for you, even though we recognize that the upcoming weeks and months will be difficult. You deserve good good things, woman.
And to answer your question, he got an old mattress, a bed frame, a busted recliner, a cheap elliptical, scratched up nonstick cookwear, and an oversized/outdated Queen Anne dining room suite. I took everything else. I consider that fair.
Yes, staying with family. And I'm planning on being done before noon on Sunday. I might not even go back to the house Saturday night. It depends on how quickly I can get this all done.
If stalking and harassment becomes an issue, I have already downloaded the paperwork to fill out for a temporary protection order for myself and DS. I have more than enough evidence built up that I should have no problem getting one, but don't want to take that step unless I absolutely have to.
Oh YES! I almost forgot! My bosses issued me a company cell phone. H doesn't know about it and they will not give him the number. That means I can just turn my personal cell phone off for the next few days! It's amazing how all of these little pieces have fallen right into place...
I would suggest NOT turning off your phone or he might get suspicious. Answer it as you normally would until Sunday. You do not want to get him snoopy.
Yes, staying with family. And I'm planning on being done before noon on Sunday. I might not even go back to the house Saturday night. It depends on how quickly I can get this all done.
If stalking and harassment becomes an issue, I have already downloaded the paperwork to fill out for a temporary protection order for myself and DS. I have more than enough evidence built up that I should have no problem getting one, but don't want to take that step unless I absolutely have to.
Oh YES! I almost forgot! My bosses issued me a company cell phone. H doesn't know about it and they will not give him the number. That means I can just turn my personal cell phone off for the next few days! It's amazing how all of these little pieces have fallen right into place...
I would suggest NOT turning off your phone or he might get suspicious. Answer it as you normally would until Sunday. You do not want to get him snoopy.
Yes, good point. The phone will stay on until Sunday evening. His phone most likely won't work where he's going, and if it does at all it will be sketchy. I'm not anticipating hearing from him until he calls/texts to let me know he's on his way home. But I will definitely leave the phone on until then.