Who was in the OR w/ you for a c-section?

[trafficgirl]

For those who've had a c-section - who was in the OR with you while you had one?

We know we are having a c-section and the Dr said two additional people can be in the room - meaning H plus one other person.  My mom has already said she wants to be in the room (in such a way that I think she assumes she will be).  I go back and forth on what I want.

On one hand, I kind of just want H in there as these are our kids and I don't think I'll want to deal with another person (and have no problem telling my mom this - we have a good relationship and she would be disappointed but would understand).

On the other hand, if the babies need to go to the NICU for any reason, H would go with them and it would probably be nice to have my mom there with me while I'm finishing surgery.

What have others done?

[runblondie26]

Just my DH. He followed DD to the nursery while they moved me to recovery.

[runblondie26]

I was pretty out of it in recovery, so I didn't really mind being alone. If it's an option, I'd see if your mom could join you though.

[shepoz]

I had an emergency C and just DH was there with me. I wouldn't have wanted anyone else though.

Just a thought, at my hospital, when babies go to the NICU, the unit shuts down for the intake so they can focus on that particular baby's immediate health/needs...as in, they kick out EVERYONE except the medical team. So, if for some reason your babies did need to go, DH may not even be allowed to accompany them/visit them until after intake (which was up to an hour). You may want to check with your hospital regarding their policies.

[rt2008]

Just DH was in there. They never mentioned having another person though. The OR was pretty small though, so I can't imagine having had another person in there. I don't know where they would've stood! H followed the baby to the nursery, and I was also pretty out of it, so I didn't even seem to care no one was there with me.

[kristie]

Normally once the babies are out and taken to the nursery, the family member or members go with the babies. It could be different at different hospitals, but there isn't a family member in the OR the whole time during the surgery where I work. And typically once mom has seen the babies and they are gone, she falls asleep thanks to the anesthesiologist. So you might want to ask about that if you are expecting someone to be able to stay with you the whole time.

[formerlyak]

Only DH was in there (but my hospital only allowed one person). My mom and ex-mil waited in the waiting room and then met us in recovery. If you just want it to be you and dh, have the hospital explain that to the parents. They are good at playing the "bad guy" so you don't have to look like you are excluding anyone.

[allibee8]

Only my husband was there and he barely made it. As in he came running in when they were getting ready to cut.

It was our only option but I don't know if I would want anyone else there. There are already too many people in a small OR and it made me anxious.

[blindyswife]

We are only allowed one person here, and it was H. I don't know that I'd want anyone else in addition to that.

kristie That would make me cry if that is how they did sections here. Like, the husband leaves while they stitch up the sleeping wife?    I was awake and gazing at baby while H held him, and then when they were done putting me back together, we all three were moved back to our room at the same time.

[kristie]

Aug 8, 2013 16:03:48 GMT -5 blindyswife said:

We are only allowed one person here, and it was H. I don't know that I'd want anyone else in addition to that.

kristie That would make me cry if that is how they did sections here. Like, the husband leaves while they stitch up the sleeping wife?    I was awake and gazing at baby while H held him, and then when they were done putting me back together, we all three were moved back to our room at the same time.

Yeah, I am not a fan of our c-section procedures. But we have old school nursery nurses and getting them to switch to the baby stays with mom the whole time is a slow process. So, it is definitely a question that needs to be asked, because a lot of hospitals still do it our way.

[trafficgirl]

Thanks for the answers all! I will have to ask what the standard procedure is for after the babies are born - who stays, who goes, etc.

I know the hospital I'm delivering at prides itself of being very baby/family-centric, so I'm hoping that means, as long as everything's fine, H and the babies would stay with me.

[ladygrey]

DH was the only one there with me. Here's my c/s birth story with a PIP of our first family photo - one of the best parts was having DH bring DD back and laying her on my chest for the rest of the surgery! trafficgirl, it sounds like your hospital is a lot like mine in terms of bonding, etc. so you should ask about having your DH bring the babies to you (barring no complications).

pandce.proboards.com/thread/197354/birth-story

[sonrisa]

Mine was after a long, problematic labor. DH came with me and stayed by my side except right after she was born when he was down with DD. then the wrapped her up, brought her to my head and the three of us stayed together for our next 5 days in the hospital (except bathroom breaks and when I left for my MRI). Even when they wheeled me through the halls in the hospital bed, she was tucked right in there with me.

My hospital has no well baby nursery so the baby always rooms in with mom unless something is wrong.

[pescalita]

I just had H. A had lesions on his skin o unknown origin at birth, so I'm not quite sure what would have happened normally. H brought A back in once he was cleaned up and weighed, APGAR'ed, all that, but they did take off for the NICU before I went to recovery.

I have anxiety and all things hospital and needle related are big triggers for me, so being w/o H wasn't fun, but I had the anesthesiologist right there through surgery and a nurse in recovery, so if I started really freaking out I wasn't alone.