Post by montereybride on Aug 8, 2013 23:28:28 GMT -5
So, a few days ago, H's sister put on her Facebook the following "Being part of a family is a privilege not a right and that privilege can be revoked"
Tonight, I noticed that she not only unfriended me, she also blocked me. She and I have always been close. Like, we chat. And message each other. His older sister and his older sister's daughter also unfriended me AND blocked me.
I am soooo WTMF right now that I can't even see straight.
I told H and said "Hey, will you call her and ask her what's up, please."
H got super fucking defensive and all "This is between you and her, you call her, not my problem."
Ok, sure. But here's the thing .. If one of my siblings unfriended H, I would call and say "Hey, did you unfriend H on Facebook? What's up? We're a package deal, yo, and I kinda take it really personal that you unfriended him. Take him off your newsfeed if he's annoying but dude, you don't unfriend your sibling's spouse."
Ok, that probably makes me sound crazy. But whatever. I don't care. We have three nieces. Two of whom I text with and FaceTime with regularly.
So, again, WTMF.
Tell me I'm nuts, tell me to be a fucking grown up and call her myself, whatever. I'm kinda really hurt right now.
I would definitely have my SO ask his brother/sister-in-law what was up if they unfriended me, but we're not close at all, I would ask myself if we were though.
I guess I'm in the minority here but I think your H is right - it's your responsibility to contact her not his. I think that she's being childish by not confronting you with whatever is bothering her but I wouldn't ask my H to go do the digging for me.
So do you think he also has issue with whatever it is, or does he not what to get tangled up in drama? If it the second, I would call myself. If he has an issue with it also, then you and DH need to talk.
When is the last time you talked to her? Did they block your H too?
He went to visit her a couple weeks ago and I talked to her on the phone while he was there. Everything was fine, we were laughing, joking about stuff.
When is the last time you talked to her? Did they block your H too?
He went to visit her a couple weeks ago and I talked to her on the phone while he was there. Everything was fine, we were laughing, joking about stuff.
Ah ha! Something came up in conversation at the visit that she didn't like and without clearing the story with you, she unfriends you?
Speaking from painful experience, it would be better for you to talk directly to her. Whatever is going on having a middleman can only make things worse
I didn't even mean that you'd said something that was socially or politically offensive.
What I meant was that if she made a vodka margarita and you took a sip and said, "I was expecting tequila" and now she thinks you've trashed her cooking and hosting abilities to the family - that sort of overreaction and sensitivity.
Dude, I (heart) you but this is a perfect example of a post that I can't figure out, lol. Definitely call her asap.
Lol, I can't figure it out either. There is ZERO backstory and it came out of nowhere. Seriously.
I can think of no conceivable reason why she would unfriend and block. Or why the other two would either.
I cannot even begin to explain how confused I am. And I'm really aggravated by H's "not my problem" stance. I would be up my sister's ass if she did the same to H. But then, I see it as a hostile thing and H just doesn't really get why it matters.