Kinda H&FR: Optimist or pessimist?

[Brit]

I was thinking about this today after a conversation with H. I usually assume positive things, while he tends to assume the worst.

Example: I couldn't log into our bank account. H assumes that someone hacked our account. I assume that we changed the password and don't remember it.

Example 2: I say I'm going to go running in the dark assuming that I'll come home in one piece. H says he better go with me so because there are bad people out there who might harm me.

I could go on and on. His world must feel so much different from mine. I bet I have a lot less anxiety in general.

[ddi741]

Based on your examples I am definitely your H. I always tend to think of all the things that can go wrong with a situation & try to plan for it (which I realize is impossible but can't stop myself)

[finallykrisb]

I think I can go either way depending on the situation. In the cases you mentioned I would have thought the same as you. Some other scenarios I tend to get dramatic about.

[Chelle]

99% of the time I'm a total optimist. Ain't nothng can get me down!

Tonight is one of my more pessimistic nights and I don't know how people live like this. It's awful!

[texassmith]

Depends on the situation for me. In your bank password scenario, I would have be you. In the running in the dark scenario, I'm totally your H. I DO NOT run past dark. I'm just not comfortable with it. And despite living in a nice, affluent area, there are too many runner attacks/muggings at night for comfort.

[Wines Not Whines]

I say I'm a realist. I hope for the best, but I like to prepare for the worst. I picked your middle option.

[al320]

It depends.

Im optimistic about life in general, but im distrusting and skeptical of people, generally, so that pretty much balances out my upbeat attitude and positive view of the world lol

[shelbyann]

Hmm. I was ready to say pessimist because I tend to be kinda sarcastic rather than all puppies and rainbows about things, but in your two examples I would have thought the same as you. I would roll my eyes and call your DH paranoid, LOL.

[gummybear]

I am totally like your husband. I also suffer from anxiety. The stories I could share *sigh*. I basically get irrational when faced with certain situations and spiral into a worried/anxious frenzy. It's embarrassing.

[Stingyshark]

For me, in those two examples: I would assume i forgot the password, and I would assume I'm coming home in one piece.

DH would assume I forgot the password, and that I'll end up dead somewhere. He is SUPER worried about me running w/ the baby.. I mentioned using the where's my iPhone app, or whatever it is - so that he can see where we are and that we are still moving. He seemed to like this idea - but we'll see.

He generally worries about my safety, but past that, he has no real anxiety. He does worry someone will steal our bank info and drain our acct (they wouldn't get far) but.. he wouldn't think someone hacked our acct. I'm definitely the high anxiety one in this relationship.

[CrazyLucky]

I am an eternal optimist. DH is an eternal pessimist. We balance each other!

[MrsE]

I am a total optimist and DH is a complete pessimist. It drives me crazy, but I guess it's a good balance.

[Brit]

Maybe optimist/pessimist aren't the right terms. Anyway, it is interesting to me to see how different H's lens is from mine when viewing the world.

[runblondie26]

I'm a worrier and tend to be very cynical about things. That guess that would put in in the pessimist camp. I swear I'm not a drag to be around though *-)

[kellina]

I'm an optimist, DH is a pessimist. He also has anxiety. Interesting that seems to be the trend here....

[jchokie79]

I'm a worrywart to a fault. It's really annoying. My mind always goes to worst case scenario whenever something goes wrong. But I'm an overall happy person so a happy worrywart?

[Stingyshark]

Aug 16, 2013 7:51:47 GMT -5 runblondie26 said:

I'm a worrier and tend to be very cynical about things. That guess that would put in in the pessimist camp. I swear I'm not a drag to be around though *-)

definitely not

[Susie]

I must waiver because I'd be your H on the bank account, but you about the run.

[zoidberg]

Optimist, although I tend to be fairly cynical of people and their motives (this is just from bitter experience, though, not my natural inclination). But deep down I am always confident that everything will end up ok.

[taratru]

I used to be your DH, but I'm much better at finding the positive now.

I'm still sarcastic as hell, though. Ain't nothin changing that!

[ebeth]

well I would have said pessimest, but I'm on team you in both scenarios.

[joenali]

Most of the time an optimist. Except when it comes to work email. I think almost every time I open it there is going to be an awful email from someone. But it never happens.

[Susie]

Aug 16, 2013 8:54:37 GMT -5 joenali said:

Most of the time an optimist. Except when it comes to work email. I think almost every time I open it there is going to be an awful email from someone. But it never happens.

I have the same thing, except sometimes I do get nastygrams.  As much as I hate the assumption that all attorneys are assholes, it didn't come from noplace. 

[emuni04]

I waiver. I feel like I have chilled out quite a bit in the past few years, but whenever a potentially sketchy situation arises, my mind still always jumps to the worst case scenario. Now I am just better about talking myself down from my anxiety.

[heliocentric]

DH would say I'm a pessimist and he's an optimist. I say I'm a realist and he's delusional!

Honestly, I don't think I'm a pessimist as much as I am a planner. I know sometimes crap happens and I like to be prepared, so I probably think about possible bad things more than other people so that I can prepare/avoid it.

[mrsmc08]

For the most part I like to think on the positive side. The girls at work make fun of me because when they tell a story like a bike got stollen I will come up with maybe th person who stole it needed it to get to work. Other such things. Any new story I try to come up with a positive spin. They seriously give me hard time for it, ask me what color the sky is in my world. The way I see it, I have seen the absolute worst life has to offer, so I choose to thing there is a whole lot better. 

[hannahb]

Aug 16, 2013 7:09:53 GMT -5 Wines Not Whines said:

I say I'm a realist. I hope for the best, but I like to prepare for the worst. I picked your middle option.

Yes, this is me too.