MH is aggravating me

[bluey0214]

I may strangle him. He cooks for himself and never cleans up. I am so tempted to leave everything where it is but it will drive me crazy. I am so glad he is going to work. 

[isabel]

You ought to leave it, just once. After many, many conversations with my H, I finally just left everything alone after I asked him to clean up. He got the hint when it was still there 24 hours later. Sometimes people just need an extra push. He's pretty good about cleaning up after himself now.

[bluey0214]

Aug 17, 2013 14:12:15 GMT -5 AutumnRose25 said:

Are these dishes from breakfast this morning before going to work?

Do you guys only do your 'own' dishes?

Honestly, when I cook in the mornings I don't do my dishes before I leave, there just isn't time.


Eta- do people really divide their dishes? We just go by the rule that whoever is doing the dishes does whatever is dirty at that time. 

No the dishes I don't mind. I just want them put in the sink. 

[kirra]

How much not cleaning up after himself are we talking about?

If it's at night, my husband cleans up after himself, but if he's running late for work, not so much. Our deal is if he spills anything, he wipes it up, everything that needs to be refrigerated goes back into the refrigerator, and any pots or pans are in the sink filled with hot water and soap. That may change after I find a job, but for now, this works.

If you're taking about dirty counters, pots and pans not in the sink, things not back in the refrigerator... I'd be really upset, especially if this is an every day thing and not a once in a while thing.

The leaving it all out all day might work for some people. It didn't work for my husband. What worked for us was talking about it and figuring out what was ok and was not ok- for us, because other people have different expectations. Of course, we're also working around my OCD in regards to a clean kitchen, so that doesn't help.

[kirra]

Aug 17, 2013 14:14:56 GMT -5 bluey0214 said:

No the dishes I don't mind. I just want them put in the sink. 

Putting them in the sink is a reasonable expectation. If he puts each one in the sink as he finishes using it, it will add maybe two minutes to his morning. Probably less.

[snickers]

Tell him to grow up and clean up after himself.