Secondary TTTC roll call?

[persa]

Would it be ok for me to do this? I can delete this if it's not cool. I think there are a few of secondary TTTC here.

I'm 40, TTTC #2 for more than a year. DD will be 3 in October.

Low ovarian reserve, failed Gonal F and IUI twice. Maybe doing IVF next cycle so I'm on BCP now. Financial is the deciding factor really, we're totally OOP.

ETA since FastHands was asking, took 5 months of TTC for number one without OPK's, temping or anything. I got super lucky. I was 36 at the time. I joke now that the first one was free, this next one is going to cost us. I also (TMI) joked when I got my AF after my failed IUI's: so THAT'S what 3 thousand dollars looks like on toilet paper.

[discogranny]

I doubt anyone will have a problem with it. I think we have a handful of secondary ladies, I know of at least two.

[FastHands]

I'm curious for my BFF, so can I ask those with secondary IF issues what it was like the first time around?

[anaps28]

Hi there

I am popping in.

I have a 2.5yo DS and just had my 2nd mc in 8 months. First loss was twins at my 8 week appointment and last week there was no hb again at 8 weeks. So now I am waiting to do a repeated loss blood work panel. The kicker is I am moving to Charlotte,NC the 2nd week of september so I have to try and find a doctor that will help me there. I'm hoping I can get some answers but I'm well aware that sometimes there are no answers.

[bronxgirl]

We dealt with IF the first time around, but it was much easier back. Then I got PG with DD on my second IUI, just about 3 months after I went to the RE. Naively I thought the same thing would happen this time. Nope. It's been 14 mos since I returned to the RE and still nothing. We've had 5 failed IUIs and one failed IVF. We're doing 1 more round of IVF and that's our last shot. I would really love to give DD a younger sibling.

[persa]

bronxgirl, are y'all OOP for your IF treatments? That's what gets me. Like I don't know that we could afford another IVF if the first one doesn't work. And the thought of paying that much money and NOT getting a baby out of it gives me anxiety attacks.

anaps28, I'm so sorry for your losses.

[bronxgirl]

Aug 19, 2013 11:07:36 GMT -5 persa said:

bronxgirl, are y'all OOP for your IF treatments? That's what gets me. Like I don't know that we could afford another IVF if the first one doesn't work. And the thought of paying that much money and NOT getting a baby out of it gives me anxiety attacks.

anaps28, I'm so sorry for your losses.

My insurance covers IUI, but not IVF, so we are OOP for that.  It sucks.  It's such a huge financial gamble.

[persa]

That's nice they pay for IUI's. I would probably be willing to do another IUI if it was covered but after spending 6k already, I'm not willing to spend more money on that.

[pamela]

I'm on my phone so I can't do a full intro, but quick rundown, about 7 m/c to finally get DS. Now troubles going for #2. We had previously just had problems staying pg, now having trouble getting pg.

Getting ready to start first fertility med cycle this week. Previously treated for clotting and "natural killer cell" issues. That will continue while starting meds to enhance ovulation. I am down one tube thanks to an ectopic.

[anna7602]

I've been lurking on this board, but hello all. I have a 5-year-old DD. Had no problems TTC her 6 years ago. I was 31 at the time.

We've been TTC #2 for 14 or 15 cycles. I had blood work done in May to check my hormones level and chickened out on receiving the results. Sucky of me, I know. But we were about to move internationally and I felt like I couldn't handle it emotionally. I also had no idea what realistic path I could go down if I wouldn't be seeing the same doctors/dealing with the same insurance/etc., so I put any other action (besides continuing to TTC on my own) on hold until after our July move. I have the printed blood work results, but no idea how to read them.

I now have an appointment scheduled with my OB/Gyn for early September (the soonest she could see me) and will commit to figuring out what's going on.

[KaraOrNot]

Aug 19, 2013 21:52:24 GMT -5 anna7602 said:

I've been lurking on this board, but hello all. I have a 5-year-old DD. Had no problems TTC her 6 years ago. I was 31 at the time.

We've been TTC #2 for 14 or 15 cycles. I had blood work done in May to check my hormones level and chickened out on receiving the results. Sucky of me, I know. But we were about to move internationally and I felt like I couldn't handle it emotionally. I also had no idea what realistic path I could go down if I wouldn't be seeing the same doctors/dealing with the same insurance/etc., so I put any other action (besides continuing to TTC on my own) on hold until after our July move. I have the printed blood work results, but no idea how to read them.

I now have an appointment scheduled with my OB/Gyn for early September (the soonest she could see me) and will commit to figuring out what's going on.

Welcome!  Good luck w/ your appointment in September.

[statlerwaldorf]

I'm on my phone, so I'm going to keep it short.

I have pcos and endometriosis. It took a little over a year to get pregnant with dd. She's 4. We started Ttc when she was 6 months old. I had one m/c. We are taking a break from the RE to save up money. We have no if coverage.

[persa]

Thanks for introducing yourselves. I'm going in for my baseline US today, I think we are going to do IVF this cycle. I'm scared that it won't work. My RE brought up donor eggs the other day and the higher success rate and that upset me for reasons I can't quite pinpoint yet.

I found out a coworker is pregnant with her first. It's funny, I get super excited for people who are pregnant with their first, however it happened (but more so for TTTC-ers of course). But I just get super jealous of people who are able to get pregnant with their next one easily.

[trixie12]

I just started lurking (and a little posting) on this board a few weeks ago prior to my IUI.

We've been actively trying for #2 for over three years now. We've never really used protection since we had DS #1 which was 5 years ago. I did get pregnant a couple of years ago, but it was ectopic so I lost the pregnancy and one of my tubes. I was dx'ed with endo during my surgery to remove the ectopic.

We tried for a year after that, but no success. Had another L-scope/H-scope early this year. Still had problems getting pregnant. Finally decided to do IUI a few weeks ago. Luckily we had a good outcome but I'm still nervous since it's so early. I go in on Thursday to get my betas drawn again.

I told myself that I would go through 3 cycles of IUI and that was it. I decided that I did not want to proceed with IVF because of the cost and no guarantee. We would have possibly looked at adoption.

Oh, and it took us a long time for #1. After years of no success on our own, I went in to start the process of IF treatments. First diagnostic procedure I had was a HSG. Got pregnant the very next cycle.

Good luck with your IVF! I hope it's successful!

[thatgirl2478]

We've been trying for #2 for just over a year and a half. Didn't think we'd have any problems since DD came along relatively easily....

[anna7602]

Can I use this thread to just be kind of sad/venty for a moment? I thought I would be fine getting AF again this month since we've been TTC for so long that I am well past the stage of hoping/expecting anything and even ditched temping/using ovulation tests/taking early pregnancy tests this cycle (since I am seeing my OB about further steps/testing in just a couple of weeks anyway).

And yet I started hysterically crying this morning when I noticed some spotting (AF is due this week). I've been in a crap mood the whole day. Sure, it's probably totally normal from an emotional standpoint, but FFS, I cannot let myself feel this way every single month. As a "consolation prize," I am now going to go ahead and confirm our spring vacation plans. But a small part of me worries that might be totally irresponsible if it turns out that whatever we have to do next to get pregnant requires a lot of $$$ (meds, IUI, whatever). Gaaaa.

[persa]

anna7602, big hugs. I feel you. We just scheduled a vacation with my in laws to Costa Rica in October that would pay for half the meds but it's something we've been planning for a while and frankly I'm looking forward to it.

Yesterday when I went in to my first appointment for IVF and I had to make appointments and fill out paperwork and make payments, I was fighting tears the whole time and the second I left the office, I let it flow. It was just all so fucking depressing to think that we'd gotten to this point. I also hadn't seen my daughter for 72 hrs and this was late in the afternoon and I just wanted to pick up my kid (the free one, as I now refer to her) from school and give her hugs and kisses.

[anna7602]

Thanks, persa. This whole thing is a total mindf*ck. Hugs to you, too.

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For FastHands: TTC #1: we started TTC #1 in Dec 2009, had a BFP May 2010 & then a CP in June 2010 followed by a BFP Aug 2010. I was 37 when she was conceived.

I’m a secondary TTTCer. I’ll be 40 in Oct. I have an almost 2.5 y/o daughter; we’ve been TTTC #2 for over a year, I had a CP in May 2013. We went on a short TTTC break June – July because my H was sick & it seemed like it was never going to end lol.

Since I’m getting *cough cough* older & it seemed to be taking longer this time around, I met with my OB/GYN for a consult back in April (and May at my annual) to discuss options – there hasn’t been any testing. After both appts, my H & I discussed the options and we’ve decided to forgo tests & treatments; if I’m not pregnant by Dec, then we’re one & done.