babymoon vs. trip with friends

[shaynaatl]

We are going to be in Vegas for a family wedding in October, and DH suggested we go from Vegas to Cali to do a babymoon.  We are thinking a coastal town like Santa Barbara, since we've never been.  Due to the transportation time involved (and LA traffic), we'd want to do no less than 4 nights. 

On top of that, we always do a fall group trip with our local friends (3-4 couples).  We decided on Myrtle Beach in Sept for 3 nights.  The issue is I don't have enough work vacation time to do both trips.  We haven't announced the pg to our friends yet, but will do so this weekend as long as my 12 week ultrasound goes well.

The other wrinkle is that DH always plans the group trip.  He goes out and books the rental house, finds restaurants, etc.  So if we drop out, there is a chance the entire trip will be cancelled (I don't see anyone else taking on the planning responsibility).

What would you do?  Pursue the Cali babymoon or stick with the group trip?

[snickers]

I would probably stick with the group trip, but honestly it's up to you.

[trafficgirl]

I also vote group trip. It might be nice to have a last getaway with friends before your baby is born. Could you maybe tack on an additional night to that trip to have some time to yourselves?

[Jalapeñomel]

I'd go on the group trip.

[Deleted]

I would go on the babymoon but since you already have tentative plans for the group trip, I would feel obligated to go on that, especially if your H usually plans it.

[Yankees21]

Aug 19, 2013 10:51:20 GMT -5 @missy1 said:

I would go on the babymoon but since you already have tentative plans for the group trip, I would feel obligated to go on that, especially if your H usually plans it.

I agree with this.

[winecheery]

I'm a brat and I'd go on the babymoon. It was so important for DH and I to get a vacation in before baby comes, just us two, and it wasn't even what I considered to be a true babymoon. If you can at least do an overnight just you and DH somewhere near you to facilitate this kind of quality time, would you/could you? And then you can keep the trip with your friends as well. Otherwise I'd be inclined to try and just have alone time with my husband, because goodness knows that will be hard to come by with a baby, at least initially.

ETA Ohhh reading fail I see you've already booked with your friends. Hmmmm...well, I guess you have to do that now? idk If it were my friends and we said we had to back out, they'd understand and someone else would step up to plan it this one year. Especially considering the circumstances. But we are forever rotating who plans what, so it sounds like this wouldn't work for your circle maybe. Bleh. I'm no help, sorry! GL!

[bazinga]

For me it would depend how much you enjoy trips with your friends. If you usually have a great time and look forward to going, then I would probably do that. If it is stressful and you are thinking about going out of guilt because your H is usually the planner, then I would skip it and spend the quality time with just the two of you.

[chicago]

This would be easy for me - babymoon all the way. I should also say that I'm an introvert and too much time with people other than H drives me crazy, so there's that.

If you announce soon, maybe you can talk to your friends about why you and H might want an alone trip this year?

[thejackpot]

It is a little late t back out of the friends trip. I would probably go and figure dh and I can do a weekend/holiday get away before baby.

[JayhawkGirl]

I vote baby moon