poofed but thank you

[meggers5]

No no no. You didn't. You didn't know it was useless info. You were trying to get her baby to eat more, which is what it needed to do.
The baby will get the help it needs at the hospital, and then the mom can implement what you discussed to make sure it doesn't happen again.

[McGavin]

Aug 20, 2013 7:00:11 GMT -5 meggers5 said:

No no no. You didn't. You didn't know it was useless info. You were trying to get her baby to eat more, which is what it needed to do.
The baby will get the help it needs at the hospital, and then the mom can implement what you discussed to make sure it doesn't happen again.

All of this, don't beat yourself up, frkls!  You gave her really important info that she'll use as they get home.

[meggers5]

Aug 20, 2013 7:10:44 GMT -5 frkls said:

it just sucks because i KNEW and i missed it. she TOLD me that the baby had peed once all day and i totally just breezed by it in my effort to be all, "rah rah! you can do it!!" when i should have been all, "your baby's not waking up because she's completely dehydrated!" blech. it's just going to take a little while to shake this one. thanks guys.

That's ok. Just know that she called you for BF advice, not medical advice. 

The baby, the mom and you will be ok.

[underwaterrhymes]

frkls - No you didn't. She came to you because you give good advice on breastfeeding and you gave her detailed, caring information on how she could do that.

Don't beat yourself up over this.

[Deleted]

She asked you for help with breast feeding, of course that's what you focused on. This is not your fault.

[Redpoppy]

It isn't your fault. We ended up back in the hospital at 4 days old because I could not rouse DS to eat (going on 8+ hours with multiple attempts with breast and bottle) and our pedi sent us to the ER to checked for congenital abnormalities. He didn't even bring up dehydration. It ended up his blood glucose was low and he perked up after a bolus of glucose and while we didn't nurse again til my milk fully came in a few days later we were able to later. We stayed for the night and heh monitored inputs and outputs and we met with the LCs.

[CurlyQ284]

Don't focus on what could have happened, you'll drive yourself crazy. The baby went to the doctor and is okay now. The mom isn't mad. Put this experience in your pocket for future advice. I know you feel terrible but you need to push it out of your mind and let it go because everyone is OK now and you were giving the best help you could at the time. ((Frkls))

[snickers]

Not your fault.
She looked to you for bf advice. You went above and beyond by giving her that information. You are a good friend. They are at the hospital now and I am sure everything will be fine.

[Deleted]

Aug 20, 2013 7:55:18 GMT -5 CurlyQ284 said:

Don't focus on what could have happened, you'll drive yourself crazy. The baby went to the doctor and is okay now. The mom isn't mad. Put this experience in your pocket for future advice. I know you feel terrible but you need to push it out of your mind and let it go because everyone is OK now and you were giving the best help you could at the time. ((Frkls))

All of this. ((hugs))

[DotAndBuzz]

((((hugs))))

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