Oh XH, you need to be better at hiding emotions

[prettyinpearls]

I sent XH an email yesterday, regarding our son's use of the words fuck and shit on the car ride home from his house on Sunday. DS has used those words before, but not in the same manner as he did on Sunday. My email just said I would appreciate it if XH didn't encourage or tolerate that kind of language, as we don't tolerate it in our home. In other words "Hey, how about you co-parent with me and actually be on the same page as me for our son's benefit".

He replied back to me tonight saying to keep my comments about horrible parenting to myself, and that DS could've picked up those words anyhwere, because "who knows what Mr. Wonderful says around him". Then he goes on to say, (and I quote directly): "Congrats on the Sept, Wedding!! Does FF know that All the wonderful shit you say about him and all the pictures you've taken are the same as you did with me? He's reliving our wedding, what a lucky Guy"

I love that someone stalked my FB to see our (public) e-pics and that it obviously bothers XH.

For the record, my wedding to FF is nothing like the one I had to XH. I'm impressed he even remembered what our e-pics looked like, because I sure as hell cant. Ha!

I just think he's pissed because when I picked up DS from XH on Sunday, DS says to me, "I wanna go see FF!!" Love that kid

[trafficgirl]

I love how he says your DS could have picked up that language anywhere, and then swears later in the email. Klassy (aka what an a-hole).

PS - I love your sig pic, it is seriously so cute.

[achase123]

He's such an adolescent. Remind me again why you aren't still together?

[jojoandleo]

Wow. He sounds very mature and responsible. I don't see you calling him a bad parent, just saying "Hey WE need to watch this and work on it." Hey jealousy, anyone?

[prettyinpearls]

It's just frustrating that I can't ever talk about something relating to DS (via email) without XH throwing in something related to my personal life.

[stephbfan]

And unfortunately, he will continue keep saying things like this just to spite you.

I think there is not much you can do, which really sucks

[roselis]

Ugh. Sorry you still have to deal with that. I wish that the guys would just grow up. Then again, if they did, we would probably still be with them, right?

[udscoobychick]

What an ass. I'm sorry you have to deal with him!

[prettyinpearls]

This is when being the bigger person is tough. I would love to make snide comments about XH and his GF...how she's 32 years old living in her parents home with no education and no career. Or how XH is living in his GF's parents home and has no education and no career (he's 27) and no money. Buuuuut....I don't. Because I know they probably already feel crappy enough about their lives -- I know it bothers XH to the core that I'm doing so well and he's not. He was the one who had issues with me being more "successful" when we were married. He resented my good job, and resented that I was finishing my degree. Needless to say, he was nothing close to being supportive. So, instead of rubbing it in their faces, I just remember that the best revenge is happiness

[explorer2001]

PIP, you are so right. My phrasing was a life well lived is the best revenge. My exH lied to everyone we knew mutually about what happened. He would make all sorts of horrible things up about what I supposedly did to him. Eventually people made dumb ass comments to me and I responded calmly with verifiable facts. In the years since pretty much everyone has figured it out and he has proved himself an ass. While I enjoy hearing people tell me how happy I look, how well I have done by myself/for myself, none of that is as gratifying as actually living the life I have now. Hang in there. Being the bigger person maybe hard but it has great rewards.